Bisexual, Queer, Experienced Leather Daddy, Radical Faerie, Crazy Versatile Top and Ethical Slut. Polyamorous, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend and part of a leather family with another couple. Yes, it's VERY complicated and the calendar is brutal.

HIV-, POZ friendly, safer sex only.

Some of my favorite sayings:

I'm not gay but my boyfriend is.

Be a little crazy, people leave you alone and just say "he's a little crazy"

I'm a slut but an ethical slut, I only play with people who say YES.

What's the difference between pink and purple? How hard I squeeze your balls.

No, I'm not a masochist!... well except for my nipples and balls.

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My day gig is a software QA engineer. I try to break what they build. If you need kink safe computer help and ... (no let's not go there, LOL )

I've sailed and raced sailboat for most of my life and had the pleasure of sailing and racing in venues around the world from Singapore and Thailand to Sweden and Greece.

We lived in Japan for almost 4 years and in Shanghai for 2. No better way to see the world than with a corporate expense account!

Faerie and queer have been a very large part of my life for the last tens years or so. Though I've never been straight, I lived in the straight world keeping my queer in the closet. Its easy to do as a bisexual since society sees I'm married so they don't think to look further. Then about ten yeas ago shit changed and I came out as queer, poly and an SM player. We found tribe, a wonderful bunch of beautifully crazy queer friends and lovers and for the first time in my life I really found "home". Life since then has been challenging and difficult at times but so very rewarding. My girlfriend and I have been together almost 11 years.

Note that I've pulled all links to others on OKC. I'm getting harassing emails from homophobes and I don't want my loves to be targeted too.

Too much! Wife, Boyfriend, Girl Friend, More friends :) My wife/partner and I host a sex/SM play party called "Queer Playground" at the San Francisco Citadel. I'm daddy to a bunch o' folk and go to leather conferences and play parties. I love finding new people to play with though coming up with the time is a huge challenge.

Flirting and teasing and foreply!

Single tails, knives, sex and SM, polyamory, being wonderfully mean. Not taking on someone else's troubles but being able to help them find their way.

I'm also a rigger, LOL, that's where my name comes from. Rigging means I am very good at building/erecting shade structures for Burning Man and other tribal gatherings. It means I'm very good at erecting sex slings, particularly outside. It means I am good at rigging people. Rope bondage is fun and I'm good, but the best is doing the rigging for flesh hooks and full body suspensions. I don't put the hooks in I just makes sure they get pulled correctly and safely as you are suspended.

Trans-friendly! I've always had an attraction to gender queer, hell I married a girl who had taken a boys name. Since coming out queer and finding tribe, I've found the attraction to gender queer and trans energy has bloomed. One of my intimates has been on estrogen for years, one of my fuck buddies is a post op (top and bottom) transman.

Bright smile and shaved head maybe the black work tribal tattoo on my shoulder or a large heavy ear ring or maybe that I'm wearing black unless at a faerie gathering or pride parade. That my black boots shine like a mirror. Maybe they notice I'm not wearing clothes at all, ( as often as possible! ;) and then they notice my nipple jewelry, a large crystal from one piercing and a "monkey on a dick" from the other.

Books: Leather Folk by Mark Thompson, (actually its an anthology he put together. Some of the sections are authored by my intimates and close friends.) Actually all Mark's books are marvelous. I love the man and I mean much more than just his writing!
The Man who Fell from the Moon.

Movies: Short Bus, The Secretary, Revolutionary Road. (I remember those days. I remember the days before abortion was a legal choice!) I just saw 9 and 1/2 weeks for the first time. Interesting twisted SM relationship.

Music: I love House and dance music and will just dance away. I also like old disco and rock and roll. But you'll find me listening to symphony and hanging out at Cal Performances, UC Berkeley. Just saw an Alvin Ailey Dance Theater performance that was spectacular!!!

Food: Japanese is my favorite but I like anything well cooked other than "tex/mex" brown. (I've had spectacular Mexican food but the brown rice, brown beans, brown meat and ... sucks!)

Interesting they don't ask TV. Well I only use the TV for local news and to show DVDs and porn :)

East, the wind, the dawn, the air we breathe.
South, the fire, the passion, the hot sex, the strong emotions
West, the water, the blood in us, the water cleansing us.
North, the earth, the rebirth, the immortals.
Below, the ancestors, our bonds with each other.
Above, the wisdom of the universe, that that knows.

The damn schedule! How the hell I can work out time for everyone AND get some private free time for myself!

Actually I don't spend a lot of time thinking about stuff period. I tend to be in the now not worried much about the past, planning for but not worrying about the future. I like to BE, to FEEL, rather than think.

The only thing I actually spend lots time thinking about is my job while I'm at work.

At a play party or having fun, either at our house or at my boyfriend's.

Not a lot private in my life. I'm about as out and open as they come. Here's one, I love anonymous sex. (safer sex!)

you want to play and can be very flexible and patient waiting for a date.

I found a new term :), Polysaturated!

I am polysaturated. I have as many "relationships" as I can manage!!!

I'm always looking for new play partners and FWB. I'm particularly looking for hot/sweet guys into spirit, sensuality, sacred sex and SM connections. If you're a bio woman, please be queer, into radical sex and enjoy the company of gay men. Women should alos understand that I don't have much room on my dance card for you all these days. Gender queer, transexual and intersexed HIGHLY encouraged to message me :0