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41 Toronto, Ontario, CA Woman


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Last Online
Yesterday – 1:41pm
5′ 1″ (1.55m)
Body Type
Full figured
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and laughing about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from two-year college
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
English (Fluently), Japanese (Okay), French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), Hindi (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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NOTE: This profile uses excessive liberal amounts of HTML code. I have just noticed (to my horror) that none of this is rendered appropriately on smartphones. If you're someone I contacted, and you're actually interested, I hope you'd take the time to read through my profile on your home computer or laptop. It's so much more interesting, I assure you. Colours and links and everything. Cheers!
Update: Noooo, the colours have all disappeared!! OKC, why must you continually confound us so?? *shakes fist*

My circumstances keep shifting constantly; I find that what I am seeking must change constantly just to keep up... I have no choice but to turn to face the strain strange ch-ch-ch-chayyn-jehzz...

Okay, so I'm experiencing a lot of mood swings, it's a fact of my life, yeah it sucks, I gotta suck it up, accept it, and move on (that is, stop looking for a boyfriend! It's just not gonna work right now. I gotta pass this Bechdel Test, dammit!). I am a cisgender-female heteroromantic heteroflexible-bisexual neither femme nor butch, definitely female but a bit androgynous, I suppose. I seem to get on best with real-life friends who are female, and long-distance penpals who are male (but not exclusively). Trans / gender-fluid peeps welcome too. Looking for platonic (i.e. strictly non-sexual) friendships and artistic collaborations with people into minority politics. Peaceful people only - NOT interested in stereotypical punks throwing eggs at cops. People who've matured beyond that stage, and want to overthrow the 'status quo' from inside the system, quietly yet powerfully... Γ“rale! \o/

People keep complaining "Why no pics?". Well, maybe if you're patient and read through my profile, there is a clue hidden halfway through that will tell you where my pics are stashed! *Yay, easter egg!* (I got sick of all these 'Hey pretty, how r u?' msgs just because they like my pic. My pic means nothing and says nothing about who I am.)  And why do people keep saying "Wow, you wrote a friggin' novel!"? I've seen novels, I mean profiles, that are 10 times longer than mine!! And you know what? I find them really interesting to read! :D And I highly suspect that anyone who complains about the length of my profile isn't particularly compatible with me anyway. :P

Okay, I will say that my pics are in my 'Other' photo album. I've been told that this can't be accessed on phones, only on computers...

(Where it says I 'speak' Spanish and Hindi ===>
it's not that I speak it but I do want to learn it!)

P.S. (pre-script) to the guy who visited, and whose profile reads:
πŸ’¬ "I think feminists and Vegan's are EXTREMIST hipsters. So if your one of these block me plzz! We wont get a long because I believe in balance and everything in moderation."
Well, wow, I didn't know feminists aren't allowed to also care about male abuse survivors, men's custody rights, and female-on-male violence! Or that vegans aren't allowed to have a wide variety of meat-eating omnivore friends with whom we get along famously! *looks into mirror* Bloody hell, where did these fake-ass glasses πŸ‘“ and colourful skinnyjeans πŸ‘– come from...?? I never signed up for this EXTREMIST hipster shit!!! *falls down laughing* ;D (But the guy is REALLY CUTE, so I guess I'll forgive him... THIS TIME!)
P.S. (postscript) I'll also forgive his egregious spelling, punctuation, and grammar. Seriously, the guy is REALLY THAT HOT. Damn him.

A Musical Non Sequitur...
Photek is a renowned British DJ/producer who does all the music for my favourite TV show, Gang Related. πŸ”«
Photek feat. Linche - Sleepwalking 🎧
Check out this awesome dancer, yo.
Flume & Chet Faker - Drop the Game 🚢

Places I've been: Born in Japan πŸ‡―πŸ‡΅ , grew up in Toronto and Ottawa, I've also lived in the north of Japan and the north of England. I was studying Music Technology (sound recording and music production) in Manchester, but unfortunately it was not enough to get me into the music business, so I'm trying to think of something else to do for a living... I wanna help people. I wanna change the world. Am I crazy? :P I want to make this world 🌍 a place worth living in! And my 'crazy' idea is, I wanna do it via the arts and entertainment business. I got ideas, esΓ©...!

I'm earnest, irreverent, and whimsical.
And believe in the Oxford Comma.

What I’m doing with my life
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I unfortunately suffer from a chronic mood disorder, and can't work a 9-to-5 type job, so I'm currently living on Disability. I have a wonderful GP, wonderful social workers, a good psychiatrist, I'm on good meds, and I've just finished Dialectical Behaviour Therapy with an excellent psychologist, so yeah, I'm working on my recovery every single day! I have no intention of giving up. I'm currently looking for some places to volunteer, and would eventually like to find a part-time job at a health food store, or a non-profit organisation.

Last summer I took a beginner's course in Adobe Illustrator and Photoshop. I love messing about with pictures and photos!

I'm very interested in mixed media and altered art. 🎨 I've been studying tutorials online, thinking of getting an art book or taking some workshops. I'm particularly into rubber stamps (both ready-made ones, and also carving my own out of erasers and/or linoleum), and making art pendant jewellery. What crafty stuff do you like to do? :)

Another wish is that I'd love to form a British music covers band! I can sing, play a bit of guitar and bass and keyboards (I prefer to either play bass, and/or sing BV). Who'd like to join me?

Nota Bene: ANYONE into crime/cop/detective shows and Cosplay?? Esp Criminal Minds? I'm preparing a Penelope Garcia cosplay for FanExpo coming up in August, and I'm looking for people who wanna cosplay Spencer Reid or Derek Morgan (or anyone else from the show). Anyone...? Anyone...?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
βœ… Quoting apropos film dialogue πŸ’¬ from my favourite movies.
βœ… Singing snippets of songs 🎡 to sum up a situation (ooh, alliteration!).
βœ… Dancing to Britpop tunes. 🎢
βœ… Singing Beatles harmonies 🎀, and learning songs by ear πŸ‘‚ on various instruments (BTW I can sightread 🎼 , I just have more ear talent than reading talent).
βœ… Being kind and helping people (both friends and complete strangers - I'll be a Good Samaritan as long as it doesn't take too much out of me or put myself in danger).
βœ… Doing crafty stuff. ✏ βœ‚
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is that I sound like such a loud, sarcastic biatch online, but I'm surprisingly much nicer, sweeter, gentler, and polite-r in real life! :P
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My top favourite artists are the Beatles, the Clash, Pet Shop Boys, Oasis, Noel Gallagher & the High Flying Birds, the Smiths. I'm mostly into British/Irish artists (as you might expect)...
Lily Allen, Amy Winehouse, Lady Sovereign, The Ordinary Boys, Franz Ferdinand, Kaiser Chiefs, Klaxons, Arctic Monkeys, Blur, Oasis, Noel Gallagher & the High Flying Birds (but I REALLY DISLIKE Liam Gallagher, sorry!), Stone Roses, Happy Mondays, Intastella, Candyflip, Stereo MCs, Saint Etienne, Mono, Portishead, Moloko, Morcheeba, Dubstar, Client, Lush, Sing-Sing, Golden Palominos, Lana Del Rey, Throwing Muses, Cocteau Twins, Violet Indiana, Graeme Revell, Jill Tracy, Meret Becker, Miranda Sex Garden, Siouxsie & the Banshees, Shakespear's Sister, The Smiths, Morrissey (although he's an annoying wanker), Johnny Marr (<=This guy's AMAZING!!!), Housemartins, Beautiful South, Rialto, The Fall, Adult Net, Tiny Monroe, Lightning Seeds, Terry Hall, Colourfield, Fun Boy Three, The Specials, The Selecter, The (English) Beat, Madness, Suggs, Sex Pistols, Public Image Limited, the Slits, Neneh Cherry, Malcolm McLaren (an evil sociopath, but he did make some interesting music, albeit mostly plagiarised!), The Clash, Big Audio Dynamite, Havana 3am, The Good The Bad & The Queen, the Gorillaz, The Beatles, Paul McCartney / Wings, The Zombies, Small Faces, The Who, The Creation, The Prisoners, Graham Day & The Gaolers, James Taylor Quartet, The Jam (although I think Paul Weller is a right royal wanker!), Elvis Costello (lol, he's another one), The Pogues, Ian Dury & the Blockheads, Pet Shop Boys, New Order, Electronic (Bernard Sumner & Johnny Marr, w/ PSB), Madonna, Bananarama, the Go-Gos, the Bangles, Duran Duran, Phil Collins, Genesis ('80s incarnation - Bateman was right!), Peter Gabriel, Lou Reed, Velvet Underground, David Bowie, and yes, Lady Gaga (sorry).
Musical Satire: Flight of the Conchords, The Lonely Island, Ylvis (if you don't find the Stonehenge song and video absolutely hysterically funny, don't bother messaging me. But if you do, you TOTALLY gotta message me!!), and weird/funny songs by Tre Parker, I admit he's quite the musical/lyrical genius. (Although... I'm not a friggin' South Park fan anymore as they've pissed me off once too many. Irreverent satire is one thing, but when you devolve down into preaching Political Incorrectness as a full-time ideology, and whining out of your privileged white-hetero-cisgender-male asses about how all us uppity vocal minorities are BRINGIN' YOU DOWN (oh god! the PC Police! Censorship! Help! Oppression!), then you can go f*** yerselves, Tre & Matt. Really. I've also gone off Jon Stewart / The Daily Show and Stephen Colbert / The Colbert Report, for similar reasons... You'll have to ask me, if you haven't heard the news from your neighbourhood anti-racist activists. And I used to worship Stewart & Colbert, they were practically my only American crushes! πŸ’” *le sigh* But wait! I still love John Oliver! :D Do yer Danger Dance! *YEAH* He's a Brit, to boot.)

Love eerie gothic films (it's the Goth in me), action/thrillers, gangster/hitmen/hitgirl/heist flicks, science fiction, '80s movies, children's fantasy, Studio Ghibli anime...
The Company of Wolves, The Woman in Black (the original made-for-TV version from 1989), The Turn of the Screw (1994 made-for-TV version starring Patsy Kensit), The Others, The Shawshank Redemption, Firewall, Phonebooth, Outbreak, The Ghost and the Darkness, Die Hard (best Christmas film ever), In the Line of Fire, The Professional (Leon), Point of No Return, The Bourne Identity, The Specialist, Assassins, The Good the Bad and the Ugly, Ocean's Eleven, Lock Stock and Two Smoking Barrels, Gangster No.1, Hard Candy, American Psycho, Demolition Man, Trainspotting, Shaun of the Dead, Hot Fuzz, World's End, Repo Man, This is Spinal Tap, The Commitments, It's All Gone Pete Tong, Bend It Like Beckham, most of the Star Trek films, Serenity (the film retelling of the Firefly TV series), Back to the Future, Ferris Bueller's Day Off (about a bunch of privileged rich white kids - but I can't help it, it's so damn quotable!), Crocodile Dundee I and II, Ghostbusters, Desperately Seeking Susan, Labyrinth, The Neverending Story, Cloak and Dagger, The Sound of Music (I'll never NOT watch it when it's on!), Little Voice, About A Boy (the other best Christmas flick), A Knight's Tale, My Neighbour Totoro, The Cat Returns, Lupin III: Castle of Cagliostro (although it's so damned sexist! but it's a part of my childhood, which made him my ideal man/hero), Chronicles of Narnia: The Lion the Witch and the Wardrobe, Chronicles of Narnia: The Voyage of the Dawntreader, Inkheart, The Golden Compass (WHY NO SEQUEL??)
I'm interested in checking out more unusual arty and/or foreign films. Open to recommendations! Oh yeah, recently got into a whole bunch of awesomely hilarious Bollywood films, gotta list'em later... I adore Hrithik Roshan (my first Bollywood crush - although some of his movies are absolutely dreadful... I just saw the trailer for his latest flick and I was laughing all the way through it, and it is NOT a comedy!), and I've fallen hopelessly for Imran Khan who is simultaneously hot and adorable, AND he's a social justice activist in India πŸ’• (he's married - NOOOOO!).
RANT: How come the cover art for Million Dollar Arm (2014) has only The White Guy's pic and name on the cover art?? I thought the real stars of the story are 'Rinku' and 'Dinesh'... And why do the TV adverts for The Hundred-Foot Journey (2014) all scream HELEN MIRREN!1!1! but make no mention of Manish Dayal (who is a successful American-born/raised actor) or Om Puri (he's in so many English-language Desi-themed movies)... [cue Raj Koothrapalli going: "Dude - that's racist!"]

Mostly British/Irish TV shows, with a few notable exceptions...
BBC Sherlock, Being Human UK, Misfits, Dexter, Jekyll (horror/comedy by Stephen Moffat), Doctor Who, Torchwood, The Sarah Jane Adventures, Veronica Mars, Firefly, Twin Peaks, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Angel, True Blood, Lost Girl, The Mentalist, Lie To Me, The Adventures of Sherlock Holmes, Poirot, Miss Marple, The Duchess of Duke Street, Downton Abbey, Peep Show, anything with David Mitchell & Robert Webb, Black Books, The IT Crowd, The Big Bang Theory, The League of Gentlemen (my god that's some creepy sh**), Black Adder II and III, My Hero, Coupling (by Steven Moffat!), Swiss Toni, Father Ted, Alexei Sayle's Stuff, Sean's Show, The Frank Skinner Show (even though he's such a sexist/ageist bastard! he's too goddamn loveable!), anything with Russell Brand and Noel Fielding (though I can't really get into The Mighty Boosh - sorry Noel!), MerseyBeat, The Bill, In Deep, Hustle, Hotel Babylon, Life On Mars, Midsomer Murders, Inspector Lynley, Inspector Morse, Inspector Lewis, Endeavour (not yet watched but I must assume I'll love it, as it covers the exploits of the younger Morse), Prime Suspect, Cracker, Luther, The Shield, Gang Related (I love how 'Dutch Boy' and 'Danny' from The Shield are now in Gang Related! Hope more of those actors show up, esp. Benito Martinez who played 'Aceveda'!!! Apparently the two shows have the same writers. And OMG - Det. Ryan Lopez (played by Ramon Rodriguez) is soooo gorgeous. 😍 He's quite possibly the most beautiful man I've ever seen in my entire life...! *blush*). Also, I sometimes get addicted to EastEnders ('cos it's actually, y'know, exciting, unlike Corrie, lol!) and if anyone read this far, I guess I'm surprised, so my jpgs can be found in the 'Other' photo album, OK?
TV mini-series: Neverwhere, The Last Enemy, The Lost Room, Tipping the Velvet, The Box of Delights.
I also LOVE the music satire clips from Flight of the Conchords - they're hysterical!! xD

I prefer short story anthologies: Isaac Asimov, Ray Bradbury, Haruki Murakami, Roald Dahl (he's written some creepy sh** for the adult audience), Joyce Carol Oates, Angela Carter... I am enchanted by Victorian Gothic Revival literature, such as by Joseph Sheridan LeFanu and Robert Murray Gilchrist.

Italian, Japanese, Chinese, Thai, Indian - I like to try all sorts, I revel in tasting new culinary delights! :D I'm interested in trying out more African, Middle Eastern and Central/South American dishes.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Six things?? Give over, mate - how 'bout six categories!

1. Cultural stuff: πŸ‡¬πŸ‡§ British music, British films, British television, British popular culture. Recently, I've become extremely interested in Indian / Desi / South Asian films, languages, cultures, food, dance, etc. And also Hispanic πŸ‡ͺπŸ‡Έ cultures. It's very interesting how so many countries speak Spanish, but there are subtle dialectical differences amongst all of them! Even the way they swear is often different, and some words are okay in some countries, but extremely offensive in other countries, so one must be very careful. I am also curious about the different languages spoken in Spain, such as Basque, Catalan, Galician, Occitan, Aragonese, and Asturian.

2. Music stuff: Singing 🎀, guitar 🎸, keyboard 🎹 or piano, bass guitar, mics, amps and other gear. Would love to get my mitts on a vocal FX unit, one with a stomper pedal so you can control the delay, etc.

3. Intellectual stuff: English language and dialects, linguistics, word play, signs, symbols, semantics, Jungian psychology, evolutionary psychology, sociology, mythology, folklore, bio-evolutionary theories of human behaviour, schools of thought on feminism, power structures behind racism, how patriarchy created gender inequality (mostly for women, but for men as well :(), homophobia and transphobia, Aboriginal rights and Indigenous sovereignty, the privileges I grew up with.

4. 'Geeky' stuff: Html (I'm so frustrated that most html won't work on OKC), Photoshop, ThinkGeek, deviantArt, COSPLAY (ANYONE who cosplays Criminal Minds - or any cop/crime/detective show - characters, gimme a holler!), Tumblr, fan art, fanvids, fanfiction, science, technology, Star Trek (mostly TNG and Voyager, but I ought to get more into The Original Series). The recent Trek 'reboot' films by J.J. Abrams are fantastic (the most recent one stars Benedict Cumberbatch from BBC Sherlock, as the villain!). And I can't help LOLing at The Big Bang Theory. I just love how they talk about the evils of Entropy and shit, it's so me...

5. Anachronistic stuff: 🎩 Victorian England and the fashions, culture and literature thereof, silent film, the Edwardian Era, the '20s and '30s, Art Deco, Art Nouveau, Vaudeville shows, Burlesque shows and Carnivales, vintage costumes, and antique objects of curiosity. And let us not forget the late, great Sherlock Holmes πŸ”Ž (my favourite historical fictional character! Actually, sometimes I forget he's fictional, lol!). I also like playing with Tarot πŸƒ cards; I'm quite an afiocionado of Tarot deck artwork.

6. Social justice issues: Leaving the world a better place than how I found it (like the campsite rules!) is my main goal in life, y'know? I used to be involved in Amnesty International (the highlight was walking as the Amnesty Candle at Toronto's LGBT Pride Parade!). When I'm busy, I still like to sign and send off quick petition emails through organizations like, Equality Now, All Out, American Civil Liberties Association, Avaaz and Oceana. I wish I could make it to more rallies and such, but ever since the G20 crackdown (which I narrowly missed getting caught up in - I was planning to go but didn't), I'm kind of scared to go... Maybe if I had other people to go with? The Toronto Police πŸš” have EPIC-failed our society on so many levels, I can't even... :'( *sigh*
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
forming a fun cover band with a bunch of leftie guys'n'gals, and playing fundraisers for charities and non-profits benefiting marginalised communities. Finding a volunteer job that I can handle (and can enjoy). The next cool hobby/craft/skill to learn...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on β€” how do you let loose?
dahncin'... down Streatham, on a bus. 🚌 :) (Kudos if you get the musical reference!)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is that I'm a prostitute robot from the future. Jajaja! Speaking of which, if you don't support legislation for sex workers' rights to safety and dignity, we won't get along, nooo...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
βœ… You are assertive (NOT passive/aggressive) and reasonably independent (NOT needy/clingy), and respect others' emotional and physical boundaries.
βœ… You have artistic sensibilities... an active interest in art, music, film, theatre, literature.
βœ… You have a strong sense of right and wrong... hypocrisy and injustice bother you.
βœ… You try at all times to be honest with yourself, and seek open and honest communication with people you care about.
βœ… You have a keen sense of adventure... you love to meet new people, explore new places, try out new things.
βœ… If you're in Toronto, you wish to meet and brainstorm on cool creative ideas, or collaborate on curious artistic projects! :)

β›” Important: Please understand that I am very uncomfortable with people using slang like "that's so gay" (unless you mean 'fabulous' or 'homoerotic'), "that's retarded" (that's not a cool slang word, it's a slur against the intellectually disabled), "I've been gypped" (deeply insulting and hurtful to the Roma people), or "I'm feeling schizo today" (comparing scatterbrainedness to serious mental illness is not cool). Please don't contact me if you insist on using such derogatory slang, as they are offensive to me. Not enough people think about the responsible use of language... *sigh*

Addendum: Because the Israeli-Palestinian conflict is such a polarising subject, I think it's best to put out my (potentially deal-breaking) position: I want PEACE in the Middle East EVERYWHERE. I am against the brutal occupation of Palestine by the Israeli government and military. I am also against terrorist groups like Hamas. I just want safety for EVERYONE. I tend to side towards the Palestinians just 'cos they're so brutally oppressed (I think they deserve their own Iron Dome system! And believe me, I am glad Israel does have that system, or there would be a million more people dead by now), but I do NOT support terrorism, nor Hamas's ultimate goal of destroying Israel. My favourite socio-political groups are interfaith partnerships, such as Salaam-Shalom, Jewish groups against the occupation of Palestine, and Muslim groups who fight anti-Semitism. Coolness!

P.S. to the gormless prat who apparently wasted over an hour reading my profile in the wee hours of the morning (whilst blatantly ignoring the really important bit that I am NOT interested in a relationship right now, let alone getting married, or GODS FORBID, having kids, wtf!!), kept sending msgs (dude, it's the middle of the night, and you expect an instant response... people leave their browser windows open on social media all the time without actually 'being on'. FYI.), and in a final infantile fit of impotent rage, wrote these parting words:
πŸ’¬ "I was gonna message you [Ed: Wait, didn't he just send me 5 messages in a row??] until I read that you are pro Palestine.
I think you are sick in the head. [ . . . ]
you are a terrorist and your beliefs enable this terror to continue.
may you rot in hell."

There is a wide variety of continuing education courses available throughout the GTA (Greater Toronto Area, not Grand Theft Auto) to quickly and effectively improve one's basic English reading comprehension skills, for both recent immigrants and native English speakers. Hope that helps. The rest is up to Google. You're welcome! :D

Ah, yes, another thing. I'm afraid I take a very dim view of people who VERY OBVIOUSLY never read a word of my profile, before messaging me with some naff-ass (I refuse to use the word 'lame' cos that just insults people who walk with a limp) canned msg (monosodium glutamate, lol) they fired off to a hundred different women. Like, the guy who said: "You seem really laid back and sweet, I had to message you." Me, LAIDBACK??! O_O Ahahahaha
Okay, FWIW, I'm really very sympathetic and understanding when people are late meeting me, need to cancel at the last minute - as long as they let me know - or hurt my feelings by accident. In that sense, maybe I'm not that uptight, I'm pretty cool? But I would never describe my personality as in any way 'laidback' or 'easygoing'. I do get mad about stuff easily, stress out easily... I guess I'm a bit high-strung... I just think it's better to be upfront about these things, in terms of potential compatibility with people. ("Potential flatmates should know the worst about each other." ;) ~ Sherlock Holmes) However: although I may sound somewhat aggressive and sarcastic online... IN PERSON, a more sweet, kind, and polite girl you shall never meet! :) Because what I do have in aces, my dear, is a good, kind, loving heart.<3 ^_^