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68 • Flint, TX • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 18–55
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating
- Last online
- Today – 8:17am
- 5′ 7″ (1.70m)
- Body type
- Buddhism, and very serious about it
- Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from law school
- Open relationship
- Mostly non-monogamous
- Has a kid
- Has dogs and has cats
- English (Fluently), French (Okay), Chinese (Poorly)
I'm a professional troublemaker with a law degree (and another in biochemistry) who has run away from the world and sought refuge amongst the piney woods of East Texas.
Here I sit, surrounded by kittens and bedeviled by a dog of indeterminate heritage, issuing diatribes concerning the foolishness of the present day and offering unheeded advice to all and sundry.
I am a Centrist and Independent which means I tend to disparage both Republicans and Democrats, liberals and conservatives with equal vigor and, in return, receive the enmity of both.
People who are strongly political often find themselves initially attracted to me after reading one of my rants which happens to correspond to their own beliefs. Alternatively they hate me ab initio. The former will often then become outraged when they discover that my views do not fit into the usual little boxes or that, even when we agree as to a specific policy, the thought process by which I arrive at that position is unacceptable to them.
When I venture forth from my rural estate it is usually to head to Paris, my favorite city anywhere, where I drink a lot of wine, sing jazz in smokey bars, and pretend it is 1932.
I used to think I spoke French fluently. One of my oldest friends in Paris says I do. Unfortunately, he adds, its fluent 17th century French.
My life is informed by a variety of historical figures. I have made a little list of them and my favorite quote from each to give you an idea of who and what I am.
Abraham Lincoln "Those who deny freedom to others, deserve it not for themselves; and, under a just God, can not long retain it."
Teddy Roosevelt "I think there is only one quality worse than hardness of heart and that is softness of head. "
Fiorello LaGuardia "There is no Democratic or Republican way of cleaning the streets."
Robert LaFolette "Passive citizenship is not enough"
Thomas Jefferson "An honest man can feel no pleasure in the exercise of power over his fellow citizens. "
John Adams "Our obligations to our country never cease but with our lives. "
Benjamin Franklin "How many observe Christ's birthday! How few, his precepts! O! 'tis easier to keep Holidays than Commandments.
Winston Churchill "All great things are simple, and many can be expressed in single words: freedom, justice, honor, duty, mercy, hope."
Sun Yat-sen "The whole world is one family"
I am intellectual, analytical, and not ashamed of it
I spent a lot of years being somewhat famous, very deeply involved in a lot of issues, and trying to change the world. I woke up one morning and realized that I hated living in a fishbowl, hated constantly arguing with people who were idiots, and was tired of beating my head against the brick wall of the established order (despite having knocked at least a few bricks out of it).
Life, as they say, is too short.
Now I talk to my cats instead of the press and, frankly, its a lot more fun (and the average kitten is, in the final analysis, smarter than the average journalist).
For the last four years I've been waging a battle against a very nasty form of cancer. It was going to kill me in 3 months but I've apparently killed it. Unsurprisingly this has put me into a very good mood.
I am a jazz singer and pretty good at it. There are clubs from Paris to Shanghai where I can walk in and someone in the house band will know me and ask me to sit in.
My taste in music runs to Blues, Jazz, Folk and anything that Frank Sinatra or Mel Torme ever sang.
I have had the good luck at various times to have jammed/sung/sat in with a wide variety of musicians and groups including Mississippi John Hurt, Rev. Gary Davis, John Hammond Jr., Dave Van Ronk, Mike Seeger, The Country Gentlemen, The Bluegrass Boys, Ian and Sylvia, Tom Rush, Frank Sinatra, Big Al Dupress and Gerry Mulligan.
My favorite movies are: Yojimbo, Seven Samauri, Citizen Kane, Stagecoach, The Maltese Falcon, Casablanca, Yankee Doodle Dandy, She Wore a Yellow Ribbon, Robin Hood, Dawn Patrol, The Magnificent Seven, Tora Tora Tora, The Great Escape, and Potemkin.
In books some recent reads include The Struggle for Europe, The Hope, October Horse, Paris Was Yesterday.
My all time favorites include Alice in Wonderland, Collapse of the Third Republic, The Great Railway Bazaar, Riding the Iron Rooster, Larousse Gastronomique, Strategy, The Swiss Family Robinson, A Distant Mirror, The Guns of August, A Year in Provence, the Foundation trilogy.
I love historical fiction, especially that of the Horatio Hornblower, Captain Bolitho, and Jack Aubrey variety.
As you can see, my taste runs to non-fiction and the fiction I read is not the sort of thing included in the Great Books of the Western World.
I cook and my influences in cuisine are varied.
From my paternal Grandmother I learned old fashioned British fare and a proper British fry up with streaky bacon, bangers, black pudding, fried eggs, fried bread, grilled tomato, and oatmeal, all washed down by milky tea, is still an indulgence I enjoy. Roast beef and Yorkshire pudding, pork pie, baked beans on toast, Eccles cake, and treacle pudding are all in my repetoire. I am sufficiently British to require a supply of Marmite always be on hand.
From my mother, who is Chinese, I learned the full panoply of well known Chinese dishes. I have built on that over the years to add Vietnamese, Indonesian, Nonya, and various Indian cooking styles. My basic comfort food is a bowl of congee with a selection of pickled vegatables and spicy tofu.
From my next door neighbor in New York, who had been a cook for Grossingers in the Catskills before she retired, I learned the cooking of the Jewish kitchen. This is perhaps the cooking I view with the greatest affection. She was old school and concerned that the diet of Chinese food my mother prepared for me was insufficent to maintain life. To her, a day without schmaltz was nutritionally suspect. So she'd wait for me to come home from school and ambush me with chicken soup and matzoh balls, or a bit of baked carp, or a corned beef sandwich or a plate of cookies. She taught me to cook so "you shouldn't starve when you go to college." She was one of the first of many people who have enriched my life with generosity and kindness.
Over the years, thru my travels, I have come to understand and cook French and Italian food also. One of the great problems of living in Texas is the almost complete absence of restaurants capable of producing a decent French or Italian meal. I deal with this by heading to Paris or Rome whenever I can.
I cook with sufficient facility to have done charity dinners including a French dinner for 500 and a Japanese dinner for 300. (A warning: Women who live with me tend to put on weight).
If I were in Paris I'd be at Aux Trois Mailletz. In London I'd be at Ronnie Scotts. In Amsterdam I'd be at Maxims. In Shanghai I'd be at the Peace Hotel Jazz Bar. You get the idea.
[When I say I'm looking for new friends I mean exactly that. There is no "nudge, nudge, wink, wink say no more" hiding in there.]
EDIT: the above statement about just looking for friends was true until very recently when the younger (much younger i.e. 27 years younger) of my two live in significant others suddenly announced that she was leaving and ending our 13 year long relationship. 15 minutes later she was gone. Exactly why she made this decision is not entirely clear but she did and while it wasn't something I wanted it's not for me to tell anyone else what to do.
So now I am, in fact, looking for a relationship that is more than just friendship.
Since I tend to look at profiles of girls vastly younger than myself and you may be reading this because I browsed your page wait a second before going "yuck" and consider this.
Being way older than you isn't as horrifying as it may first seem. All that education and experience I have acquired makes for interesting conversations. I'm likely to be a lot more polite and genuinely caring than many men your own age. I've had a lot of time to learn how to get along with persons of the opposite sex and being polyamorous means that I;m not a jealous possessive kind of person. And there's the bonus that I travel to NYC several times a year and make it to Europe (usually Paris) just about every year. If we make a connection you'll be the one who gets to travel with me. Indeed, I'll plan my trips around your schedule of school or work or both.
At the moment I'm looking to head for Paris in Late September or early October. Care to see the City of Lights. I;m an expert guide if nothing else.
Even if you still have strong doubts, there's nothing to lose by a meeting for dinner or drinks in a public place. Take a chance and send me a message. The absolute worse that will happen is that you'll have a funny story to tell your friends about going out for drinks with someone old enough to be your father (or maybe even grand father).
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