I am luscious, loving, and loyal.
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42 • San Francisco, CA • Woman
I’m looking for
- Men who like women
- Ages 30–50
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last Online
- Today – 5:54am
- Middle Eastern, White
- 5′ 8″ (1.73m)
- Body Type
- Mostly anything
- Atheism, and very serious about it
- Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from masters program
- Art / Music / Writing
- Relationship Status
- Open relationship
- Relationship Type
- Strictly non-monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), French (Okay)
I am luscious, loving, and loyal.
I'm also luxuriating in married life with hedonisticmonk, a most wonderful man. In short, life is fantastic!
Nobel laureate Gabriel Garcia Marquez has died, and with him goes an eye into the gorgeous, violent, magical nature of humanity.
"But when a woman decides to sleep with a man, there is no wall she will not scale, no fortress she will not destroy, no moral consideration she will not ignore at its very root: there is no God worth worrying about."
RIP Gabriel Garcia Marquez
Cleaning house. I love the therapeutic aspects of sweeping and mopping. On the flip side, I HATE folding and putting away laundry.
My appreciation of all things domestic has a limit, it seems.
Raising your temperature, and maybe more, simply by wearing a little black dress and heels.
Throwing the "come hither" look, and then laughing at myself.
Being the person saying something crude at full volume when the music cuts out... yeah, that's me. That's why my best friend went to parties with me in college.
Celebrating others and their accomplishments. In that way, I am a great manager/boss/co-worker.
Activities at which I aspire to improve:
boxing, long-distance cycling, and cooking.
The red curls that my mother describes as "riotous"?
Or my laugh, which is an all-body experience. You tell me.
My favorite "new" thing: Quotes from other OkC profiles (!)
This site attracts an unusual number of good-to-great writers, and their gifts should be shared. Here are a few selections:
"I love words. And logic and science. But I also love the arts and intuition and the ineffable."
"The best sound is when you hold your breath and sink to the bottom of the swimming pool and all you hear are the distant muffled garbled bubble voices and the quiet whispers of your own thoughts. Floating."
"My daily meals are a barnyard holocaust of deliciousness (I eat all the animals), but I do adore vegans who can cook."
"Love, sex, the apocalypse, and how to continue making art in spite of these things."
"I snuggle like it's my fucking last day on earth."
"I'd like it to be honest, but if you just want to weave a beautiful fiction with me, I'm game for that."
"I think my maturity development stopped during that would-be small period in life when a boy is fascinated with both the toy section AND the bra section of the Sears catalog."
"I am an atheist who wishes he wasn't."
"I need to remember things, and in order to remember they need to be outstanding."
TOO many to list. This section is dedicated to current interests/those whom I hope to work with and write about. One of the sites I contribute to (Moholy Ground Online) just uploaded this project. Check this out...
Writers/theorists/critics, or "the geeks in whom this geek finds inspiration"
Allan Sekula, Charlotte Cotton, Roland Barthes, Benjamin Buchloh, Susan Buck Morss, Judith Butler, RETORT, Arthur C. Danto, Claire Bishop, David Levi Strauss, Ariella Azoulay, Christopher Knight, Tyler Green, William Poundstone, Susan Sontag, Lucy Lippard, Theodor Adorno, Michel Foucault, Gayatri Spivak, Alan Trachtenberg, Rebecca Solnit, A.D. Coleman, Steven Dubin, Doris Kearns Goodwin, David McCullough, David Sedaris, Fredrick Jameson and Jonathan Sawday.
Current reading selections: The Great Deluge (Douglas Brinkley), Core Curriculum (Tod Papageorge) and current issues of Afterimage, Afterall, Frieze, Filip, and Aperture magazine.
One of my favorite writers/humorists, David Rakoff, died recently. He is sorely missed. His thoughts on writing, and cooking, ring true:
If you're curious, my writing can be found here:
The soundtrack that accompanies my life includes everything from AC/DC to Hank Williams to Glen Gould.
The Black Keyes, Family of the Year, Ben Howard
Current current obsession:
This American Life
Stuff You Missed in History Class
To the Best of our Knowledge
Frieze Art Fair, WireTap
Stuff You Should Know
Bad at Sports
House of Cards
Game of Thrones
True MUTHA FUCKIN' Detective (!!!)
Gone with the Wind
The King and I
Sound of Music
To Have and Have Not
Close Encounters of the Third Kind
Godfather I and II
All the President's Men
And Justice for All
The French Connection
Anything by John Hughes but Ferris Bueller's Day Off in particular
Empire Strikes Back
Return of the Jedi
Raiders of the Lost Ark/Temple of Doom
The Killing Fields
Out of Africa
The Big Lebowski and most other Coen Brothers films
Sense and Sensibility
Thelma and Louise
A History of Violence
Anything touched by Christopher Nolan
Man on Wire
Cave of Forgotten Dreams
and documentaries by Ken and Ric Burns.
Recent favorites include Blackfish, The Act of Killing, Informant, Blue Caprice, Leviathan, The Spectacular Now
12 Years a Slave... there are no words to describe how good this film is
I love it. I am getting better at cooking it. I am also trying to patronize as many restaurants as possible in San Francisco, while not simultaneously falling into bankruptcy.
The love of my life, Hedonisticmonk
Vigorous and frequent exercise
My family and friends
Access to art, artists, and arts institutions
The oxford comma
The little "things"...
on a cold night, a bed stacked with blankets so heavy that they push me into the mattress and blissful, untroubled sleep
that moment after my cat leaps from the ground, before she alights on our bed
loud, snorting, body-shaking laughter with family and friends
a full tank of gas and an un/known destination
fresh cut grass, and how it feels and smells like summer
the scent of onions and garlic cooking in olive oil
the sound of crickets on a warm night
ice cream truck jingles tinkling in the distance
arriving just in time to catch a bus or train
the first sip of bourbon, and the warmth it brings to my skin
eating with my hands, and then savoring the taste on my fingers
a seductive smile, suggestive of the fun that is about to unfold
How to make the most of the education and professional opportunities I've had in the service of building a meaningful career.
Modern and contemporary art, primarily but not limited to photography and new media.
How to live in the now, and not worry about what comes next.
Which historical moment I would witness if I could travel in time.
The amazing work (professional, academic, volunteer) accomplished by friends and family.
Tattoos 3-5 and where to place them
My best friend and the gorgeous babies she is raising.
The male form and why it is so attractive.
How much good food there is in San Francisco, and how much I have to exercise in order to eat whatever I want.
Knitting? Carpentry? Gardening? I want to do something with my hands.
I giggle at the most inappropriate times. It's a nervous reaction...mostly.
My first crush was Bugs Bunny.
Please DO contact me if...
You have more to say than "Hey" in your first message.
You are comfortable with a partner who is in a committed, open marriage.
You are between the ages of 30 and 50.
You live in San Francisco, Berkeley, or Oakland.
Please DO NOT contact me if...
You are only looking for a bed warmer.
Further to that, don't contact me if your favorite sport is slut shaming. Or do, and be prepared for the verbal beat down you richly deserve.
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