I have done a sprint triathlon, two half marathons, and a Tough Mudder in the past year. I like pushing myself toward ever greater things, and running a long race gives me the feeling that I am capable of anything. Some of my other favorite things:
-planning a weekend road trip at the last minute;
-reading the Washington Post in bed with a cup of coffee on a Saturday morning;
-wine and board game night;
-long bike rides by the water;
-women who are smarter than I am;
-meeting people who make me realize that the world is bigger than it was five minutes ago.
I was in a five-year relationship that ended in the spring of 2012. Since then, I have dated, but have made an effort not to get involved in anything serious because I feared doing so would sidetrack my post-mortem project of evaluating how I hoped that my next Very Serious Girlfriend would be similar to and different from my last, and how I could become better as a person in general and a boyfriend in particular. I have resisted the urge to date reactively because the last person with whom I was involved was something like 85 percent of what I want. It amazes me how far from good enough that is, and how it is possible to be deeply in love and unhappy at the same time. I don't think we ever are done with self-evaluation and self-improvement, but I am here because I am once again ready for a Serious Relationship, and I want to keep open every possible channel to finding the best possible person.
I believe in love, and love has no shape, size, or hair color. But I do more or less have a "type." Following is an aspirational list. These are guesses, based on both experience and self-knowledge, of what my ideal partner will be like. I don't apply any sort of litmus test to women I date because I know enough to know that I don't know exactly what will make me the happiest, and being the happiest is really what I am after.
Things I hope you are:
-intelligent, nerdy, ambitious;
-someone who reads the New York Times/Washington Post, plus the occasional non-fiction book;
-a runner or mild gym rat who doesn't have a six pack (just a tiny bit of softness around your middle is sexy);
-a world traveler and weekend roadtripper;
-at least a little bit liberal. I am a passionately liberal guy - I am not looking for a carbon copy of myself, so if you don't drive a Prius or drink lattes, we still might work. But bonus points if you have pulled the lever for Pres. Obama twice;
-someone who likes to argue;
-able to beat me at Scrabble or Trivial Pursuit;
-someone who has been in at least one serious relationship before;
-someone who also has been single for one or more extended periods of time during adulthood;
-an eyes-closed kisser;
-someone who hasn't yet given up on getting everything you have ever wanted out of life.
Things I hope you aren't:
-a drug user;
-a non-college graduate;
-a homophobe/climate change denier/birther;
-a reality tv fan;
-certain that you have life or yourself completely figured out.
If at least some of this sounds like you, I hope you say hello :)