Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Prepare yourself for an extraordinary date! And then after you've
been disappointed with THAT guy, spend some time with me. I'm just
your average, ordinary smart-aleck. My friends think I'm funny and
smart, and who am I to argue?
I love to dance, and I actually have a sense of rhythm and won't
step on your feet. How great is that?
More than anything else, I value a woman with a sense of humor.
Okay, looks help, too. And intelligence. But a woman who's
beautiful and brilliant and always serious ... I'm not drawn to
that combo platter.
I don't know about you, but I'm finding it a bit tricky to date at
this stage in life. I try to be fun and funny, but I'm sensitive to
the fact that all of us who've reached middle age and are single
again have complicated histories. We all may have dreams of finding
the ideal partner and living happily ever after, but it takes time
to see what works even when you're in your 20s or 30s. Add in the
complexities of families, the pain of failed relationships or the
death of a spouse, different career paths and goals ... well, you
can fill in the rest, right?
I try to keep things light, but I'm a pretty serious person
underneath it all. I have a great deal of respect for the effort so
many women have put into keeping their kids healthy, safe and loved
in the face of difficult marriages. I know the last thing most of
you need is a self-centered jerk to waste your time. I'm intent on
being kind and thoughtful -- I like to have fun, but I'm not a
On a much shallower note: For body type, I picked "average" because
my body right now is ... average. I could exaggerate and claim
"fit" or "athletic" but that's aspirational, not truthful. I've
been in that category before, but I've got maybe 10 pounds to shed.
Give me a few months and I'll be back in the "fit and toned" or
"athletic and awe-inspiring" or "gangstas cross to the other side
of the street when they see me coming" categories.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Having fun, thinking about a lot of stuff -- from the ridiculous to
the sublime, working hard, meeting people, expanding my horizons,
and trying to figure out how to write an OK Cupid profile that
attracts a woman in a similar space as me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing, playing music, interviewing people (former reporter),
picking up on subtleties, dancing, staying current, back rubs and
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I really have no idea. I'll start doing a survey, if you
Okay, I just thought of something: I have a low voice, lower
perhaps than you would expect for a guy who's not built like, say,
an NFL lineman.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
These are samplings, not a complete list:
Authors: Michael Chabon, Elmore Leonard, Charles Dickens, John
McPhee, Joan Didion, Raymond Carver, Mark Twain, Joyce Carol
Movies: It's a Wonderful Life, Pulp Fiction, Fargo, Annie Hall,
North by Northwest, Casablanca, Citizen Kane, Rushmore.
Music: Peter Gabriel, Annie Lennox, the Pretenders, Beatles,
Shostakovich, Beethoven, Bartok, John Adams, Todd Rundgren, The
Smiths, and virtually all Motown and Stax artists.
Food: Mainly vegetarian and fish. Thai, Italian, French,
I don't have a TV by choice. If I did, I'd end up watching lots of
pointless shows and wasting time. So I just avoid putting that
temptation in my life.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Air, iPod, stereo, water, food, clothes. I'd add "you" to that
list, but that would make me sound like a crazy co-dependent
person, wouldn't it? Plus I don't even know which "you" I'm
referring to, do I?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to be a fun date, but thoughtful, too.
How to help my 20-year-old daughter and 18-year-old son transition
into adulthood feeling secure and happy.
How to keep building on my renewed sense of optimism and excitement
about what life has to offer.
Why so many women on OKC have photos of themselves behind the wheel
of a car. Is that to impress visitors that you KNOW HOW TO
Why young people use the word "perfect" to mean "good" or "okay" or
"got it," as in:
(me to waiter) "I'll have a tuna fish sandwich with fruit salad,
(waiter's response) "Perfect!"
or (to admin assistant) "I'll take that 10 a.m. slot on the 16th,
(admin's response) "Perfect!"
What will they say when it's something far more complex that indeed
is the perfect answer to a challenging situation:
"I'll drop off the car at 7, walk the three blocks to the T
station, take it to the Harvard Square stop, hand the documents to
Guido, meet you at 7:45 for a quick drink, dye my hair blond in
your apartment and take the United flight to Bermuda at 10:43. You
take the 8:10 flight the next morning."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm trying not to have too many "typical" Fridays anymore.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
This site has plenty of other ways for you to learn things that
normally are private, don't you think?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
your personality and interests match up pretty closely with mine.
Opposites may attract, but they don't endure, in my view.
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