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39 Bayside, NY Man, Cis Man

Man, Cis Man

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  • Ages 18-49
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Online now!
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
Has cats
My self-summary
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I am Italian and Greek, 5'6" 115 lbs. I am an avid reader, a movie buff, and a lover of all kinds of music. I like going to museums and walking in Central Park.

Some random things I like are local music, stand-up comedy, graphic novels, comic books, Greek mythology, Texas Hold'em, and the original Nintendo.

I am polyamorous, queer friendly and kink friendly. I've been bi since I was a teenager, and have been comfortable with that label, so I never saw the point of adding queer to my identity when that term became popular. If you call yourself queer, I'm fine with whatever you mean by that. I've been with trans, men, and women. I like everybody.

I was a fan of Ayn Rand when I was in my 20s, then I joined Occupy Wall Street. Now I am a feminist who sometimes tries to do comedy, or a comedian who sometimes tries to be a feminist. Or something. That Whitman line about multitudes may apply, though I am not large.

Song of the moment/week/year:

Everyday it's a-gettin closer
Going faster than a roller coaster
Love like yours will surely come my way a-hey, a-hey hey

Everyday it's a-gettin faster
Everyone said go ahead and ask her
Love like yours will surely come my way a-hey, a-hey hey

Everyday seems a little longer
Every way love's a little stronger
Come what may, do you ever long for
True love from me?
-Buddy Holly

I am insightful, quiet, and random.
What I’m doing with my life
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I have a Masters in Library Science and worked full time in an archive for 4 years, but I am now unemployed.

I joined Occupy Wall Street about a month into it, October 2011. I was involved only peripherally due to laziness and the unwillingness to get arrested. I no longer really go to much in the way of protests outside the occasional benefit show. If you are more involved or less involved, that's cool. Just don't bash it if you know nothing about it.

I am currently trying to be a stand-up comedian. I am also a poet and have performed poetry in front of an audience. I haven't been booked on any shows yet but I used to go to a couple of open mics a week. Health and money issues have me going out less now.

I always try to do that which will make me as happy as possible for as long as possible. Of course, sometimes thinking about this too much can interfere with the enjoyment of a given moment. There is a time for thinking and planning, and a time for saying the f--k with it and just letting yourself go.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
listening, organizing information, debating philosophy, reading, NES games, spelling and grammar.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm skinny. Or my glasses.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Please note this is a very partial list. I have very eclectic tastes. If I don't list your favorite thing, ask me, I probably like it.

Authors: Stephen King, George RR Martin, Kurt Vonnegut, Robert Heinlein, Jack Kerouac, Allen Ginsberg, William S. Burroughs, Frank Miller, Alan Moore, Neil Gaiman, Robin Hobb, Dante, Nietzsche, Plato, Isaac Asimov, Frank Herbert, Tolkien, David Foster Wallace, Mark Danielewski, Shakespeare, Douglas Adams, Hunter S. Thompson, Orwell, Aldous Huxley, Ray Bradbury, Ken Kesey, Tom Wolfe, Albert Camus, William Goldman, William Golding, Joseph Heller.

Movies: Apocalypse Now, MASH, Dirty Harry, The Good The Bad and The Ugly, Unforgiven, The Godfather trilogy, Scarface, Goodfellas, Taxi Driver, The Graduate, Batman Begins, The Dark Knight, The Stand, Star Wars trilogy (if you're a fan, you know which trilogy is better), A Bronx Tale, Warriors, Shaft (both Roundtree and Samuel L. versions), LotR trilogy, Princess Bride, Reservoir Dogs, 2001, A Clockwork Orange, Rocky I-IV (V not so much, VI was better than V, but the first 4 were still better), Shakespeare in Love, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead, Shawshank Redemption, Casablanca, Amadeus, Blade Runner, The Doors movie, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, Trainspotting, Hitchcock movies, the various incarnations of Lord of the Flies, Dr. Strangelove, Mel Brooks movies, The Legend of 1900

Music: Doors, Pink Floyd, Jimi Hendrix, Bob Marley, Leonard Cohen, Beatles, Rolling Stones, The Who, Led Zeppelin, Robert Johnson, Muddy Waters, Eric Clapton, BB King, Bruce Springsteen, Billy Joel, Green Day, Pearl Jam, Nirvana, Bob Dylan, Violent Femmes, Morphine, Dave Matthews, Phish, Grateful Dead, Metallica, God Street Wine, Run DMC, Beastie Boys, Louis Armstrong, Miles Davis, John Coltrane, Charlie Parker, Beethoven, Mozart, Bach, Stravinski, Wagner, Paul Simon (with and w/o Garfunkel), Johnny Cash, Beach Boys, Tom Petty, John Lee Hooker, Lou Reed (w & w/o the Underground), Tom Waits.

Some TV shows I've liked in the past and present: Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, Broad City, Stargate, Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad, Dexter, Heroes, ER, House, Lie To Me, Mentalist, Castle, Supernatural, Smallville, Terminator, Numbers, Fringe, My Own Worst Enemy, The Unit, Boston Legal, CSI NY, Prison Break, Criminal Minds, Flashpoint

Food: pasta, spanakopita (that's spinach pie for you non-Greeks, but it doesn't taste like spinach. Trust me, it's good.), Thai, seafood (calamari and shrimp are my favorites), sushi, chicken.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my glasses, books, music, air, food, and water.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
philosophy, all aspects of my life

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On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
chilling at home or going out if I have something specific planned, like a friend or relative is having a party or I want to see a movie or a show.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I hate the idea of dying. Death doesn't really upset me, but the idea of not existing anymore kind of annoys the hell out of me. Although they are irrational, I can understand why people cling to the idea of an afterlife. This is why I will never understand why otherwise healthy people commit suicide.

Perhaps paradoxically, the authors/artists/musicians/etc I am most attracted to often seem to be self-destructive.
You should message me if
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You want to join me at the queer clothing optional section of Riis Beach in the Rockaways.

You like what you've seen so far or I have messaged you.

Most of my relationships have been open or polyamorous, if not in fact then in theory. However, my primary partner of three years recently broke up with me, and I am currently not seeing anyone. Right now I just want to meet new people and date again, and don't want to automatically cut myself off from anyone. In short, if we have similar interests, I'd like to meet you whether you are monogamous or polyamorous.