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51 Chicago, IL Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30–99
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
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Graduated from university
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My self-summary
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I'm looking to meet interesting people, for conversation and maybe some friendly cuddling (not necessarily on the first date, that's up to you). Beyond that, everything is negotiable.

I have a lot of curiosity, and I'm always looking for interesting ideas that add to my mental map of reality. I'm an empiricist, and I'm more interested in what's demonstrably true than in what I'd prefer to be true. And I prefer intelligent conversation rather than passive entertainment.

I'm also interested in massage, and I'd like to find someone to practice with. I like to give long, leisurely backrubs. I also like to massage women's hands (it's like holding hands, only more so).

I tend to see the humor in most situations, in a quiet way.

I'm an INTP, if that means anything to you. I tend to relate best to NT and NF types (that is, the more introspective types).
What I’m doing with my life
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Thanks to the economy, I've been a full-time student for the last two years. I just moved to Chicago, and I'm looking for a job now.

I'm also a founding member of Milwaukee Makerspace, and I usually spend a few hours a week there. I often build things that make my job easier (I'd rather build a lamp than curse the darkness). I've also joined PS1 in Chicago, which is a similar organization.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I've been told that I'm a good conversationalist, and that I ask interesting questions.

I'm a pretty good troubleshooter-- I'm very analytical, and I'm good at fixing things. Sometimes I fix things for my lady friends (not necessarily on the first date...).
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm a very quiet person.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I read a lot non-fiction, and I seek out obscure books on subjects that interest me. Some interesting ones about communicating with people:

"Some Men are More Perfect than Others" by Merle Shain (1973)
(Dated in some ways, but I like the way she writes)
"Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love" by Nancy Dreyfus (1993)
(These were originally flashcards, later reprinted as a book)
"Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall Rosenberg (1999)
(Still reading this one, but it looks good)
"Truth in Dating" by Susan Campbell (2004)
(What a concept!)

I don't pay much attention to music, but I can tolerate almost anything if it's not too loud.

Do people still watch TV? I thought that's what the internet was for :-) I do like the TED videos (
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A quiet refuge (My apartment is remarkably quiet)
Physical projects-- I need get out of my head now and then
Intelligent people to talk with

That's only five... well, I don't need much.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How do introverts ever meet each other?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I don't mind if you drink, if you don't mind that I don't.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.'d like a hug! Or, if you'd just like to talk.

I prefer to date women who are non-monogamous, but everything else is negotiable (consent is sexy). I'd love to have a "primary" partner someday, but I think monogamy is a bad idea.