Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Love is a simple thing. Boy likes girl, girl likes boy... we spend
far too much time worrying about the trimmings. We all have our
"List" but the reality is it is just our safety blanket. A safety
net to tell us that this kind of person won't hurt us, will chase
away our loneliness, and bring us a light heart. The problem is it
is all bull. We all have our types, but some of the best
relationships I have ever had were with women that caught me off
guard. Love can strike anywhere, like lightning it can strike and
drag you away without warning. For me the pursuit of life, love,
and happiness is not just a right but a personal goal I challenge
myself with. Lists are all fine, but not I tend to enjoy what I
have while I have it, because you never know when it will be
Let me be clear on this, I am not here just for sex. It is too easy
to find to bother with all the lies of going about it like this. I
am not poly, into being someone else's lay over, and have adopted a
"fatal five" rule. What I am looking for is a companion, a friend,
a lover... preferably all in one.
Despite all this, here is a little tidbit about me:
I am not trendy.
I am not a bar hopper.
I am not a gym rat.
I am not a couch potato.
I am divorced (no kids).
I am a veteran after 6 years Active Army.
I am not passive aggressive. Tend to say what I mean, what I think,
and love that in the people I'm with.
I am actually outdoorsy. This includes camping, backpacking,
skiing, and rock climbing. Most of all real and difficult hikes
rather than the day tripper 2 milers with a pretty view or
waterfall at the end... though I do those too.
I am generally unflappable, just don't mistake it for apathy.
I am tech-savy and crafty, and an avid reader.
I will survive the zombie apocalypse and your mother's
I will likely read the profile questions you answered if I rather
like you. Or I am bored.
I am old fashioned and will always pick up the check, open the
door, say my P's and Q's, and the like... Unless I have something
weighing on my mind distracting.
I love being a knight in shining armor, though I don't need a
damsel in distress. Just a woman that doesn't mind being taken care
of (no, I don't mean being your sugar daddy).
I am a recovering "nice guy," but I will still hold the door for
you and buy you a rose to remind you it's a day that ends in "y."
Yes, I am not the kind of guy your mother warned you about.
I am smart and funny and charming with more than my fair dose of
confidence. If you don't believe me, ask my mother.
I am deathly allergic to cats, but I do
*Updated: 3 March 2014*
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work fairly long hours at a great job as a UPS driver with a good
future (yes I have a career), travelling, hiking, dancing and
singing. I tend to do more with my weekend than most people I know
do with their week. I have been to 14 countries, sailed in 2
oceans, and tred upon 3 continents. I hope to fix the missing ones
in the not too distant future. I am also training for the Spartan
Race. Lots of time in the gym, watching what I eat and the
One of my favorite things to do with down time is tweak my cider
recipes and read various associated forums online. I recently got
into making my own home made hard apple cider (one particular
recipe is none too shabby at 14% ABV). It is a hobby that is
quickly turning into a passion. Who knows, it may become something
of a calling someday... alcohol is pretty recession proof.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Some things I enjoy, but not exactly great at: Chess, Cribbage, Go,
Yoga, Tai Chi, being Mr Fixit, non-linear mathematics, various
martial-arts, playing the guitar and piano (works in progress),
creative writing (I have stories I have started, but can't seem to
quite finish them the way I like), and partner dancing though I
enjoy it a great deal (particularly swing-dancing
lifts and aerials) I
would love to branch out into other styles of dance.
Things I am bad at: Movie quotes, the "Name that Song" game, being
distracted by shiny objects, I sometimes have that internal filter
for my mouth turned off.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My laugh if I had to guess, its a bit loud, and I would say rich.
Other than that, you tell me. And I am not a small man in any
respect, never have been. And I have a very... bizzare way of
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I love a little bit of everything, be better off if you just ask if
I like this or that than me trying to list it all!
* Some of my favorite Book Series (fictional) would include: A Song
of Fire & Ice (George RR Martin
), The Saga of
), Sword of Truth (Terry Goodkind
), and The Wheel of
). Other more classics books include Count of Monte
, and a mess of Robert Frost poetry. I used to read a
LOT, though now I only read when I get the time.
* TV: I don't really watch more than a handful of shows on
* Movies: I love all kinds of movies from the sappy to the typical
guy flick with battle-scenes and stuff blowing up. Only thing I
really don't like are most horror flicks and pretty much all really
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Because people are so serious and even existential about this
* Toilet Paper
* A back yard
* Something new to explore
* My amigos, brothers in arms, comrades, musketeers, or quite
simply the best of friends.
* Freedom of choice
* Chocolate Chip Cookies (okay, a little sarcastic but I couldn't
figure a 6th that fit)
I have been without a lot of these things at one point or another,
but it turns out a man can deal with anything so long as he knows
there is a chance for better.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What people would think if they saw this person was "kinkier than
them" or "more desiring of sex" according to OKCupid, how it seems
that a man can make a house but it seems to take a woman's touch to
make it a home (for me at least), and how many people actually read
through all this crud.
Getting used to sleeping next to someone new sucks. Sleeping alone
I believe a woman's heart is something that you should have to work
hard for. It's value is reflected in that; how much she value's
herself and how much she value's my presence.
How people confuse the heart, the body, and the mind. Winning a
person's body may not mean the rest follow suit, the same is true
for the mind and the heart.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I work myself to death during the week to make sure I can enjoy my
weekends. Friday night is usually my guys' night, but the rest of
the weekend can be anything from on the road out of town to the
beach or mountains, comedy club, going to a casino, on a flight out
of state, dancing at a gay bar, or (my favorite) chilling in a
buddy's back yard making s'mores over a fire pit. All are equally
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I used to be ridiculously fat... I mean bad. I am still a bit on
the chubby side, but it doesn't bother me so long as it doesn't
impact my life or health (which it doesn't, don't worry).
Oh, and one of my few serious buttons I have is being blown off.
Irks me more than... anything.
I have a thing for old school pin-up girls... Classy without it
being like modern models... I dig women with a little curve!
I have three weaknesses when it comes to women: the Italian
language, red-heads, and long hair. If I ever find an Italian
ginger with long hair, I am so very screwed.
I also write, when I have a muse anyway.
When I do something, I'm all in. I don't believe in half measures.
From dating, to hobbies, to work out projects... I may be patient,
but I don't believe in wasting time.
And finally, I actually enjoy romantic comedies... Feel free to
You should message me if
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The kind of woman I tend to be interested is a woman that tend to
complement my own Renascence-Man nature with a version of her very
A woman who will go work in the garden with me and get her hands
dirty (or kick me out of the garden entirely), and then go and
throw on a dress and some heels and hit the town for dancing and
dinner or a show.
That knows what she is looking for out of life or has some dreams
or aspirations she is striving for, and is comfortable in her own
Reads for fun, even if it isn't the same kind of
stuff I enjoy.
Doesn't care if I see her without makeup (because I will prefer you
Enjoys mother nature, even if I have to convince her to sleep
Realizes sex isn't the goal of a relationship, just a piece of the
If you think you can knock my socks off, I can't wait to meet
I am pretty direct and open, so if I like you you'll know it.
Side Note: If every picture you have is you
holding the camera (you may try spending some time with people in
the wonderful place found without a ceiling) or your pictures are
of you always out at a club, on the way to a club, or having gotten
ready for a club/bar/whatever... we probably won't get along too
well. I enjoy a nice night dancing or hanging out at a chill local
scene, but I like a lot more variety to my outings.
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