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31 Tracy, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 22–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 22
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Has a kid, and might want more
Dislikes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Holy shit, so I just started browsing "matches" for funsies AND APPARENTLY I NEED TO BRING MY A GAME. When the fuck did OKC become the place to be? I first logged in when the Purity Test was pretty much the only reason to be here!

OK SO. I identify primarily as a Maker. I knit, throw, brew, bake, leatherwork, draw, and otherwise bring things into being; last June I made a goddamn human being, and she blows my mind every day.

I've got my degree in psych, and next fall I intend to get my Doctorate, partially because I'm a masochist but mostly because I want to be a psychologist. I spent 7 years trying to make the massage therapy thing work, and what I learned is doing enough massage to pay the bills is bad for my body, and that about 90% of my clients wanted to talk about their problems, thus the psych degree - more money, less body breaking. I'm a damn fine therapist, but I'd rather use my brain than my poor weak wrists.

I read. Oh dear GODS do I read. Well, less now that baby, but still, I'm rather voracious. I mainline mystery, SciFi, and fantasy shows on Netflix (no GoT yet, I tried the books and it hurt too much; I intend to watch it sometime though). I go to Bondage a Go Go sometimes (and almost always hit the playspace when I do), and occasionally the DNA Lounge for various things. I adore Renn Faire and Dickens. I write fanfiction (AND I AM NOT ASHAMED). I enjoy tabletop RPGs and board/card games. I miss swing/blues dancing so bad it hurts, but can't really afford to go anymore. I take Tea once a month with an amazing group of people, and I have a chest of tea at home. I'm a minorly known fetish model, although my modeling fell WAY off a few years ago due to Life.

I'm a breast cancer survivor of 3 years. My breasts are still me, they just started out as my stomach tissue. I am not ashamed of my scars, my story, or my body, although I miss my abs like burning (Google TRAM flap if you're curious - or just ask me!). I happily talk to anyone who wants to hear my story or has been diagnosed themselves - knowledge is power, and I know how very much it means to someone newly diagnosed to hear stories about how the road ahead is going to SUCK, but it is NOT a dead end. I've spoken at Relay For Life, and I'd do it again if asked. I will slap the shit out of the first person who messages me telling me I'm strong for surviving, because you have no goddamn idea.

I identify as a pansexual cisfemale. I have an amazing marriage with my gorgeous husband that has lasted over a decade. We are open, but I'm almost completely uninterested in straight guys - and I only say "almost" because challenging Fate is Bad News. Right now, since both of our free time is limited, we are officially starting the hunt for a unicorn, AKA a woman interested in dating both of us. Since I'm primary caregiver for our daughter, and my husband works full-time, it's extremely difficult to find women for us to date separately, and really, it would be nice to find someone who likes us both (and doesn't mind kids and cats!). My husband is also on here (SN BlightGQ), and I can vouch for him being a really amazing guy. Definitely not looking for a pillow princess, though - I want to date a woman who's just as attracted to me - and interested in acting on it! - as I am. I can completely understand if you're wary, and I'd be happy to talk to you and meet you by myself first to prove we're for real if you're worried. Really, we want to find a woman interested in being friends and in developing a relationship, not just a one-night stand (although every once in awhile that could be fun while we're still looking! ^_^).

DISCLAIMER TIME: IF YOU ARE A RANDOM STRAIGHT GUY ATTEMPTING TO HIT ME UP, YOU WILL BE BLOCKED. END OF DISCUSSION. I am BEYOND tired of cisguys assuming that because I identify as female I must want the cock/to be dominated by a Big Strong Man. I am BEYOND tired of assaults from these card-carrying members of Rape Culture. The assumption that oh, YOU'RE different, clearly the fact that I have delineated what you are offering as Not My Bag, Baby, just means that I haven't "met the right guy" or "am in denial". NO. Move the fuck on, and Golden Rule it - if YOU don't want someone attempting to pressure you into unwanted sexual contact, either physically or verbally, then DON'T DO IT TO OTHERS. It's amazing to me how many men just cannot grasp that No Means No, AND YET THEY CONSIDER THEMSELVES "NICE GUYS" OR, GODS HELP US, "ROMANTICS". Over a decade ago I heard of the concept of the rapist who honestly believes that their victim will love them for it, and gee thanks Internet for providing me contact with men of that flavour, if not that intensity. /rant

It's beginning to weird me out a bit that a good chunk of the people OKC is recommending for me look awfully familiar. I'm starting to wonder how many of you gorgeous girls are people I've been too tongue-tied to talk to in person (BECAUSE CLEARLY I AM A 14YO BOY). If I've messaged you, and you're here trying to figure out who the hell I am, well...I'm somebody who read your profile and thought, "WOW, I'd like to talk to them over a pot of tea!"

Any questions? Ask!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Taking care of my daughter, knitting All The Things, attempting to maintain something that resembles a social life, and now trying to get a job that uses my psych degree.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Massage, reading, listening, acting, modeling, knitting, baking, brewing, ceramics, leatherworking, trolling, and procrastinating.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Honestly, I haven't a clue. It probably depends on where they run into me. I've been getting a lot of compliments on the shoulder rig I made for my wallet and mobile, though.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Dresden Files, Kushiel's Legacy, Young Wizards, Honor Harrington, Valdemar, Elemental Masters, Mercy Thompson, Kate Daniels, Harry Potter, Parasol Protectorate, Callahan's Crosstime Saloon, Dies The Fire, Paksenarrion, the list continues!

Movies: Equilibrium, Sleepy Hollow, Dangerous Beauty, The Illusionist, Pacific Rim, Watchmen, Stardust, Princess Bride, Titus, Sherlock Holmes, Inception, Van Wilder, Super Troopers, Nightmare Before Christmas, Love Actually, Avengers, 300, Moulin Rouge, Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings, How To Train Your Dragon, Scott Pilgrim Vs The World, Blazing Saddles, Hot Fuzz, The World's End, Pirates of the Caribbean, Taken, Transporter, Bourne Trilogy, Producers, Bram Stoker's Dracula, Punisher, Star Trek (the reboot), Star Wars (the original trilogy), Dredd, Frozen, etc, etc.

Shows: BBC!Sherlock, Doctor Who, Firefly, Elementary, Mythbusters, Star Trek:TNG/Voyager/Enterprise, Archer, Middleman, Spaced, Torchwood, Sleepy Hollow, Grimm, Fringe, Trigun, Cosmos, Supernatural, Once Upon A Time, Dr Horrible's Sing-along Blog, Carnivale, Brisco County Jr, Ripper Street, Coupling, Bones, Burn Notice, Copper, Leverage, et al.

Music: Our Lady Peace, Loreena McKennett, VNV Nation, Azam Ali, Bond, Beatles, Weird Al, Garfunkel and Oates, Clancy Brothers, Rammstein, Beats Antique, Evanescence, Rob Zombie, Rise Against, Behind The Scenes, Emilie Autumn, SJ Tucker, Vertical Horizon, Lit, Offspring, Blink 182, Shiny Toy Guns, Anggun, Fallout Boy, Benny Benassi, Chumbawamba, Breaking Benjamin, Disturbed, Ke$ha, Bush, Sarah McLachlan, Indigo Girls, Deep Forest, Combichrist, Prodigy, Depeche Mode, LeeAnn Rimes, Daft Punk, Flyleaf, Garbage, They Might Be Giants, Matt Nathanson, Lifehouse, Within Temptation, Katy Perry, Shakira, Matchbox 20, Smashmouth, Merry Wives of Windsor, Semisonic, U2, etc.

Food: Japanese, burgers, really good steak, pad kee mao, seafood, strawberry spinach salad, really almost anything except Vietnamese - so far I haven't had anything at a Vietnamese place I liked, and yes, that includes pho. Sorry! 0.0
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Books, tea, sleep, friends, cats, and music.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Old friends, new friends, movies, how I wish things had gone, tv shows, how I hope things will go, books I'm reading or have read, my daughter, my ridiculous tech addiction (see: me on my computer at 1AM instead of SLEEPING), my husband, knitting projects, brewing ideas, places I want to go and things I want to see, where I'm going to keep my jellyfish if we have a second kid (because that was the agreement - I carry a second child, I get some goddamn jellyfish), where the hive of the bees tending my rosemary might be and what their honey might taste like, how I wish Mountain House was inside the Altamont Pass or at least had a BART station, if there's actually any point in trying to point out to rape-culture dudes What Exactly Is Wrong With Their Unsolicited Offers...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home with my family, watching something on Netflix, or out with my sweetie and/or friends (if we've got a babysitter!).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I meow when I'm embarrassed.
You should message me if
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You want a friend. I could use some friends about now...

Oh - not looking for guys, unless you can actually deal with being just friends (guys who can manage this are very cool, BTW). Do NOT try to hit on me, you'll just get blocked. Move along...

Also, please don't IM me if you cannot speak the Queen's English! MAJOR pet peeve.