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My self-summary
I am introspective, empathetic, and &nbsp.

"You met me at a very strange time in my life.."

It's difficult to convey much sense of self in a block of text (or ten). Nevertheless, I shall spend several paragraphs battling this conundrum For Your Entertainment, flying in the face of all those who would summarise themselves - apparently - with blithe apathy and little more than an oblique sideswipe at the whole OKCupid modus operandi. Yes, we're all unique and beautiful little snowflakes, but dodging the question doesn't really prove that point, does it?

My profile is quite long. There's a quiz at the end, and Staff Robot will be handing out bottles of water half way down. Feel free to skim-read/ignore/flee if that bothers you. Somehow I'm hoping you're here for the unabridged version, though: I love reading long profiles myself.

THE SHORT: I am a 29 year old writer who lives near London. I tend to focus on the things I am most passionate about: videogames, television and cultural output in general - occasionally I even get paid for it! I am affable and extremely open to new people, particularly for a good conversation about Stuff. If you are friendly, open-minded and expressive then we'll probably get on well. Or maybe not, but that's part of the fun, isn't it? :)


I used to say, "Well, I'm a student!" For one it was true, and somehow that was all that needed to be said. 'I'm studying' - which somehow conveyed whatever people wanted it to; up til all hours finishing essays, sleeping too much, finding my footing - and so on. It's a comfortable catch-all. I've finished university, but I still happily embrace the student ethos, whatever that is. Perhaps the desire to learn something new, to be forever open-minded, and a passion for knowledge and discussion. (The positives which people like to overlook)

I'm not someone who relished those piles of books, come essay week, apart from those rare books that managed to be readable and edifying. However, if anything sums up my attitude to life I guess it's a massive interest in almost everything. I entertain a wide-eyed awe at the world, universe, and so on, and I find it difficult to understand how some people don't. I try to sustain a balance between naivety and pragmatism. It's healthy to maintain an open, receptive mind, at the risk of asking one too many questions. I don't agree with cynicism. Ultimately I prefer people who wear their heart and their opinions on their sleeve, as long as they can debate them honestly. I have something of a vendetta against apathy. Passion is the order of the day.

Despite this star-gazing, I'd never dismiss the urbane and the everyday, which I enjoy with a passion. I spend a lot of time thinking about Stuff and talking about Things with friends. I love idiosyncrasies, foibles and cuddles, and I adore conversation. I thrive in small groups of four or five, usually getting upto hijinks, or becoming embroiled in deep discussion (which needn't be about anything deep itself!). I'm more anxious about larger gatherings or meeting lots of new people at once, but if I felt like using the word forté to describe anything it would probably be conversation. Language is amazing, and not enough people spend much time talking properly.

There's a practical application for all this (so-called) procrastination, and it's the world at large. I think sometimes you just need to 'take a moment', if only to avoid an early grave. We generally lack worldy power and influence. Not all of us are Obamas-in-the-making. This can be frustrating, but the world is all in the details, the urbane. How we might deal with each other. How one conversation can change a mood, start a relationship, or change a lifetime. The realisation that we're just biological organisms kicking around on a ball of rock needn't be a harsh reality - I think it's utterly compelling.

I am a devout consumer of many things, especially films, videogames and television, as well as the occasional play or novel (not as many as I would like) and good food and drink. I'd probably call myself a conscious consumer if that phrase hadn't been (a)trophied by various groups.

The quote up top is not just a nod to Fight Club: I think the strange is worth embracing. I love alternative culture and the niche. Geekdom, whether it be about films, games, literature, art, or whatever. It's Obsession and Passion hand in hand, down at the arcades, or in the back row of the cinema, or curled up in bed with a good book.

Particularly, videogames and films are involving, immersive, and brilliantly social, despite the usual stigmas. I am an evangelist. Ask me about Italian plumbers, or how to to beat Death at chess.

I think I'll stop writing here!

Thus endeth the open-essay. You're now free to return to friends and loved-ones, who have alerted the police as to your disappearance.
What I’m doing with my life
Taking my sweet time.

I spend most of my waking hours thinking about how to save the universe from its inevitable future - practically this amounts to recycling lots and discussing the arts and media, trying to push things forward one stubborn inch at a time.

I edit for indie novelists and screenwriters. I talk with industry folk about their projects. Sometimes I write about games and TV.

I originally intended to make a career out of freelance work, but there's a limit to how much pointed analysis can change things, and I prefer being a part of the creative process. With that in mind I have been learning C# with the aim of transforming a never-ending stream of game ideas into fully fledged experiences.

What am I really doing with my life? Good question, I wish I knew.
I’m really good at
Having long debates about pedantic little life-details that only matter to whoever else I'm talking to. When the matter is at hand, they matter a great deal, but you know the kind of conversations I mean: good long-winded ones which tend to branch off into so many wordy back-alleys that you not only lose track of whatever street you were heading down, but you get the sense that you're now covering a subject far more interesting and adventurous, so it doesn't even matter.

I am a good counsel for friends. I enjoy listening to them, and I put them first.
The first things people usually notice about me
Hopefully.. a welcoming smile, my affability, and my sense of humour. Oh, and my vestigial forelimbs (I can breathe fire and stomp buildings).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Trying to limit myself to a few mere mentions (which is apparently an exercise in futility)...

(a) books:
Vox by Nicholson Baker. Just about the most adorably brilliant thing ever. Baker writes some of the most uncanny, delicious and engrossing dialogue, and Vox is probably his best work in this respect. It's voyeurism, but playful voyeurism, and also (like many of his other books) quietly romantic. The Fermata is similarly awesome in its dealing with the urbane alongside sexual fantasy and fetishes.

I also have a soft spot for Post Office by Charles Bukowski. One of those books I might not read again for a long time but I'll never forget the specific adventure of first reading it, when it seemed to syncopate with my emotions. The voice of Bukowski through the ages was, at times, painful, bleak and startling, yet somehow overwhelmingly warm and comforting. A really moving experience.

(b) movies:
I adore.. Pulp Fiction, 8 ½, Once Upon a Time in The West, Mulholland Drive, Trois Coleurs: Rouge, American Graffiti.

These films have moved me to tears or smiles or puzzlement and back many times, and I'm always excited watching them with someone new to find out what they think.

I have an endless list of favourite films, and to list them is basically reductive. Ask me, that's more fun isn't it? :)

(c) music:
I like all good music regardless of genre, but generally Electronica, Post-Rock and Alt-Pop. That includes people like Bjork, The Avalanches, Sigur Ros, GYBE, A Silver Mt Zion, Tangerine Dream, Brian Eno, King Crimson, Amon Tobin, and many others.

(d) TV:
My overwhelming favourite is In Treatment. I loved it for its focus on character and quality dialogue, with a proper understanding of what good serial drama should be like. Humanist, moving and introspective. Highly recommended!

2015 update: the best thing on TV right now is probably The Americans. Compulsive, immaculate drama that came out of nowhere. Also, y'know, that show about dragons...

some of my other favourites are Something for the Weekend, The X-Files, Firefly, Buffy, Deadwood, The Wire, The Big Breakfast, Breaking Bad, Day Break, Entourage, Bored to Death, Tabletop, True Blood, The West Wing, Prison Break, Six Feet Under, Lost, Men of a Certain Age, Kings, Bits, Moomin and The Venture Bros.

(e) videogames:
Dungeon Keeper, Deus Ex and the Half-Life series. Much imitated, never bettered.
The six things I could never do without
Friendship - I have no problem with solitude, sometimes I like it, but if I had to live my life with only one of these things it would be this. There would be no point otherwise.

Some form of internet - the best thing that's happened/happening to the world in the past two decades. Bar none.

Pulp Fiction - this is one of the films that kickstarted my all-consuming passion for the subject, way back when. It's something of a touchstone for me.

Introspection - as much as I sometimes loathe it, it's one of my defining characteristics and it keeps me sane.

Sex - you know, it's brilliant. I love sexuality and I consider myself a sex positivist.

2011 update: after several years have just noticed that there's only five things here. I guess that's enough?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The past, present and future, not necessarily in that order. Old friends, new friends, the world at large, and what my place is amongst it all. Gender. Subjectivism. The social panopticon. The lottery of human existence. People in general, and in specifics. Basically I think about people a lot.

I spend a lot of time thinking about films and games, but that was a given.
On a typical Friday night I am
doing the same thing as the other 6 nights of the week: enjoying a good night in or out; one spent at the cinema, or the local, or on the sofa.

... or none of the above.

It's a mini adventure.

Current videogame shennanigans: conquering Europe c900AD...and again in the 1400s, denying creeps and not getting shot at cocktail parties.

I am also playing obscene amounts of Magic. Khans is shaping up to be a classic block! How about them dragons?!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Accepting the implicit contradiction... (Pedantism).

When I am upset, I am quite guarded with my emotions. I tend to put everyone else before myself, so I don't often talk about it unless prompted to. It's difficult for me to remember any times when I have been less than upbeat around my friends, even if I was melancholy on the inside. This does annoy me because I try to be as open as possible, and usually things are better discussed.

On the flipside, when I am in a relationship I am emotionally committed. I also have absolutely no problem bawling over TV and films, even music. Anything sublime and it's waterworks. There's a whole slew of films I purposely avoid for five-ten year stretches due to Kleenex related costs.
You should message me if are passionate about tv, film, videogames, art, etc etc and you like talking about them a lot! are coding, writing, recording, painting, etc etc. You value the exchange of ideas as highly as anything else.

You want to geek out over any of the n million things mentioned on this page, or other things I inexplicably forgot!