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37 M Oakland, CA

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  • Ages 21–99
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My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:18pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
When drinking
Atheism, and laughing about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I am an artist primarily. It has been my constant companion since I was a young boy. For work, I am a stone mason because it is an ancient trade and it makes me feel close to the earth, not to sound too hippydippy about it, I just like to think about people doing the same thing for thousands of years but, at the same time, it's still just a job. I am a circus sideshow freak. Ask me about my show. Artistically, lately I've been working mostly in acrylic on found objects. I like to read history books. I think that I was really meant to be have been 30 years old in 1938 but my release date kept getting pushed back. I'm known to go skateboarding occasionally despite the fact that it reminds me that old age and decrepitude are not far off. Being Finnish, I can drink a lot but have discovered that I don't need to have more than a few drinks to have fun these days. I have been going to that thing in the desert for way too long yet do not really identify myself as a burner. So long, in fact, I simply started working there so it can maybe run just a little bit smoother while everyone else parties and gets crazy.

I make traditional Finnish knives and other more whimsical ironwork on an anvil with a hammer. I make wimpy noises if you move me when I'm asleep. People tell me that I hum to myself when I work with my hands. I am content with who I am and what I know I can do in my life. Grilled cheese sandwiches and tomato soup make me happy but, if I'm eating out, I aim for well prepared. That didn't stop me from living almost exclusively on popcorn last winter. I like people who smile and a sense of wonder or curiosity turn me on.

I have serious doubts as to the validity, or point, of using this site being an adult male who is capable of articulating his feelings. Many of my female friends who are users liken it to a second job when referring to the effort needed to read all of the messages they receive, while most males seem to be reduced to sending copious amounts of messages to many different people in order to start up a single conversation. It carries with it a slight tinge of desperation from this side of the fence which sometimes leaves a bad taste in my mouth. That being said, I have met people through this page with whom I am still friends today. Just not many.
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to live it as best I can. Welding hundreds of random hunks of metal together for fun and profit. Working hard both in my professional life and on my art. Hanging out with people who aren't in a rush to get anywhere but are not stagnant. Listening to good music and avoiding television. Taking random road trips to obscure places that have great historical significance. Following dirt roads to ??? Making pasta from scratch. Wondering how anyone could ever get really, truly bored when there is so much that they could be doing right then. Plotting my escape.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Introspection, talking for hours, reflection, building things, being hard on myself. I'm not smart but I can lift heavy things. Developing affinities for cancelled television shows on netflix when I am laid up sick in bed and then wondering why they went away. Cutting my own hair with a series of mirrors. Keeping machines alive with bailing wire and glue just long enough for them to complete one final and all important task.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I guess that might be that I seem aloof about a lot of stuff. Over time they see that this does not have to be the case. I wear odd clothing somewhere in between formal wear and hobo. My eye glasses are a hundred years old. I smoke cigarettes out of a funny little stick holder. I smile and laugh a lot.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Any non fiction about the 19th or 20th century and parts of the 21st. For fiction, W.S. Burroughs, Huxley, McCarthy, Bukowski, Ginsberg, Hemingway, Stevenson, Gaiman, William Gibson are some of my favorites... and Ballard. Too many to choose from.

As for music, when I was a younger guy it was all Punk all the time. Then I graduated to Goth/Industrial until I figured out that there was so much out there to be had. If it's from Iceland, I probably love it. I like Nick Cave, BABYLAND, Tindersticks, Rasputina, Jay Munly, TV on the Radio, Continues..., The Twilight Sad, David Bowie, Amanda Palmer, The XX, Roy Orbision, Future Islands, John Coltrane, Jill Tracy, Rube Waddell, Rome, Dat Politics, Skinny Puppy, Kurt Weil, most chiptune stuff and lot's of others. I'm that horrid cliche of someone who listens to all kinds of music. There is no genre, that I know of, that I cannot at least appreciate one artist from, unless it's dubstep.

Most of the movies I watch tend to come from other countries. Aki Kaurismäki! Lately it has been Spanish directors but, just like my music, I am all over the map. I also watch a lot of documentaries about artists, politics, wars and regular people. There is also a huge swath of nerd shit that runs right through the middle of all that other stuff. What can I say? I like sci fi and animation.

Food? Yes. I'll cook it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Canvas and brushes. Music. Curiosity. A sewing machine. My closest connections. Empathy. Six more things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Making tomorrow better, or at least different, than today. Making people around me feel comfortable. My life up 'til now. How did the human race make it this far? Most other moments are spent thinking about my art, or maybe what I'll make for dinner. Sometimes these thing overlap.

If I suck a chain through my nose, how much weight can I lift with it before my face rips apart?
Is three minutes too long to wear a burning hat?

Where are my keys?

How, if I click on my own "personality" tab, I compare to myself as:
You might be…
more kinky
more scientific
more independent
more sloppy
more geeky
more experienced in sex
more extroverted
more adventurous
more artsy
more sex-driven
more kind
more progressive
more into exercise
less optimistic
less old-fashioned
less conventionally moral

Though, it is kinda neat to know that I am somehow more artsy, less conventionally moral and more experienced in sex and than me. Alright, I don't spend all that much time thinking about that.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Going to shows to see live music. Spending time with people having a good conversation or a drink or both. I go out most Fridays and do something. Riding one of my 1930s bikes, the pedal one or the motor one, to a restaurant or pub. BBQing. Perhaps going to Santa Cruz to hang out with my friends there. Or maybe going to an art show. Or perhaps staying in and painting if I'm exhausted from working too hard and making a date with Netflix. Perhaps going to bed early. Who knows? What is Friday?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Without thinking too much about it I'll go with the fact that I miss my dog and it makes me cry when I drive past where I buried her. That's right, I'm soft. You wanna fight about it? I cry more often than I'd probably like to and about odd things. I've also been caught on more than one occasion dancing around to synthpop in my work shop wearing only underwear.
You should message me if
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I seem vaguely interesting to you. You're obsessed with syrupy synthpop or neo folk or accordions or all three. You want to try some welding or blacksmithing with me. You want to share your art with me. You would like to hang out and talk for a bit. You want to walk around SF or Oakland and find neat things with me. You want to play chess or a board game. You want to go see some live music or maybe a movie. You want to come over and eat food that I've prepared with fresh ingredients or want to help me prepare that meal. You want to go eat some really good food and not worry about what could happen next. Just understand that I'm not in a hurry to find someone to fill some kind of hole in my life. I'm happy with myself and I'd like to share that with others. I'd like to get to know people for who they are and share stories and common threads in our lives or learn new things from each other. If the rest is there and we just really like each other, awesome. We can talk about it if and when the situation arises.
If you think this is beautiful
or if this song sounds good to you