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RyanTheQuark

34 M Seattle, WA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:39am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it
Sign
Education
Working on Ph.D program
Job
Student
Income
$250,000–$500,000
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Let me confess this up front: yes, I used to be a pastry espionage agent. Yes, I smuggled samples of flour and melted chocolate; yes, I shamelessly videotaped the baking of bread; yes, I stole the cookie from the cookie jar. No, this never bothered my conscience one bit. But occasionally I found myself in a hard place – forced to rub out an éclair or two. The scream of custard shooting from beneath my shoe: that’s what bothered my conscience.

The rest is even more true but far less glamorous.

1. As the founder and coordinator of Students for Bhopal, I organized thousands of people around the world to support the half-million survivors of the 1984 Bhopal chemical disaster. Our efforts helped them win cool stuff like access to poison-free drinking water, better medical care, and $330 million in additional compensation (see http://old.studentsforbhopal.org/Victories.htm).

2. When I worked at Greenpeace, they had a rat problem. Which divided the organization for months into two camps: the “rats cause disease/I-don’t-care-what-you-do-just-get-rid-of-them” faction and the “violence is wrong/rats are people too” faction. People threatened to quit. After I left, a colleague who stayed late took matters into his own hands – with a baseball bat. From what I heard, the bloodstains on the carpet were not easy to explain away.

3. My ex and I once discovered $24,000 in cash left behind and forgotten in a cupboard.

4. I love smashing ice, and I don’t care how silly I look. Smashing ice fills me with unbounded delight.

5. The hairline scar on my upper lip is self-inflicted. It came from a crowbar I was using to take apart a hay wagon.

6. I’ve jumped out of a train, stolen a household appliance from a movie star, and taken money from a destitute gypsy. Only one of which is false.

7. I miss England. I studied at Oxford – not as glamorous as it sounds – and America has never felt the same. Speak in an English accent and watch me swoon.

8. The police like me. About fifteen raided my house when I was a high school senior. I've been told that I'll be arrested if I set foot in Midland, MI. And I got thrown against a bus stand by some cops in New York after (ironically enough) an Amnesty International protest. Fun fact: they ripped the seat of my pants, and I had to walk crosstown covering my butt.

9. I design websites on the side - http://www.spartacusx.com/ is a good example – and I’m currently brewing some homemade liqueur (raspberry and peach).

10. I’ve walked 20 miles barefoot on gravel roads, I grew up in a house without a phone for 11 years, and I helped my family steal so we’d have enough to eat – only one of which is false.

One final thing: I'm a Zhi Phume black belt. Zhi Phume is a martial art that's performed worldwide, with a typewriter or keyboard serving as your usual sparring partner. One of the core disciplines is that you're only allowed the use of two fingers - so it's far more restrictive than other martial arts - but I took an interest in grade school and I've practiced every day since then. I won my black belt after an unusually intense match with my teacher and master at the time, a Dell SK-8115.

I know who I am, what I stand for, and what I want to do. And as I’ve gotten older and more mature, I’ve come to feel more deeply that love and understanding and tolerance – caring about the person next to you – is what gives life meaning, and that it both represents and enables the very best in us. It’s a feeling that continues to shape my life, and guide my efforts to grow and develop as a person.

I'm a Michigan boy, born and raised, but I'm in Seattle to earn my doctorate in Environmental Public Policy at the University of Washington. I've always wanted to live in the Northwest and now I have the chance to do so; I couldn't be happier.

I’m basically looking for someone I can connect with. You know how sometimes you feel like you could talk with someone for hours and hours while the world stands still? That’s the way I feel about my closest friends, and I feel like the best relationships are based on the same thing. If that sounds good to you, let me know, and we’ll give it a try : -)
What I’m doing with my life
I’m building the better world I believe in.

I believe the world is made of ideas and dreams. The computer/smartphone you’re using is nothing more than the collective product of human vision. The same holds true for the economy, and the political and cultural world we live in.

Of course the world is made up of many people, with many dreams. We live in a world with places like Bhopal, where children are born half human because they’re missing half their organs. I dream of a world where no one is born contaminated. But that doesn’t mean it’s going to happen just because I snap my fingers; you can’t build a house like that and you can’t build the future like that either. It takes more than a dream; it takes a lot of effort.

But you can build a house, and you can make a difference in the world. I know this is true because I’ve done so, and because as an organizer, I helped other people do so. I think we need and deserve to live in a better world, and I think that world is worth fighting for.

That’s what I do. Nice work, if you can get it.
I’m really good at
Listening. Which may be one of the reasons why people seem to feel comfortable opening up to me.

Massages. I really enjoy giving them, and I specialize in long, slow hand and feet massages.

I also specialize in long, soulful, heart to heart conversations.

And I'm great at finding personal and thoughtful gifts for people. I've been known to buy Christmas gifts for my family several years in advance, and I really like coming up with special ways to brighten the days of the people I care about.
The six things I could never do without
Let's see. In no particular order:
1) Love. Not just giving and receiving love, or the people whom I love (like friends and family) but as a moral force, creative expression, and prism through which I view the world. E.g. I fight for justice as an expression of love.
2) Food for thought. I can't imagine what I'd do if I didn't have ideas to challenge and inspire me.
3) Ice tea. A necessary prerequisite for the first two because without it, I can't think or love.
4) Nature. Fields, forests, and wild spaces soothe my soul.
5) A free society. Man, if I lived somewhere where I had to conform all the time, I'd be in a world of trouble. I get in enough trouble as it is.
6) Hope. I'm a dead man without it.

A random list of things I find attractive..................................
1) Accents. A good accent can make me go all dewy-eyed and weak in the knees. It's like my kryptonite - if aliens bent on total destruction came to ravage the earth, I might not be able to resist them, so long as they had an attractive lilt or twang.
2) Vests. Vests on men are boring, but on women? Totally hot.
3) Self-confidence. The self-confidence that comes from knowing yourself and who you are, and standing up for that, whenever necessary. I'm a feminist because I believe that women should have the same rights, privileges and opportunities that I do. Women who don't think so are a major turn-off.
4) The courage to be different. I'm interested in people who are unique and different in some way - people who try to be true to themselves and the person they want to be. I'd much rather share the inner beauty of someone's soul than watch the same pop culture and unreflected thought regurgitated over and over again, ad nauseum. Wouldn't you?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
In no particular order:
1) Progressive social change, and how to foster it effectively.
2) Morality. My world view is utterly infused by it, and it bothers me to no end when deeply moral issues – like “health care reform” – are intentionally discussed in ways that avoid it. 40 years ago, the Jesuit Daniel Berrigan and several others broke into a draft office and poured homemade napalm on U.S. draft files. He said: "Forgive us, dear friends, for the crime of burning paper instead of children." Those are the kinds of moral stands I feel compelled by and called to make.
3) Sex.
4) Food, as long as we’re talking about decadent pleasures.
5) Movies and pop culture.
6) My past. Everyone here seems to say their future, and sure, I think about that too, I think that’s rather obvious. But I also reflect a lot on my own personal history.
7) History and world events.
8) Relationships – with my family and with my friends. And with my significant other, when I have one.
9) Challenges. I suppose you could say, “Things I want to try,” but most of those are things I want to try because I think I’d find them challenging. I like mastering new talents and skills.
10) Books – those I’ve read and want to read.
11) Web design, strategic campaign planning, and other things that tickle the more analytical parts of my brain.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
INTJ. Not the personality type; I mean my online banking password.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
Any of the following apply:
1) You’ve also spied for your baker and want to swap croissant stories/talk about the good old days.
2) You've grown tired of your Lamborghini/spacecraft/gigantic diamond and need someone to get rid of it for you.
3) You love cuddling and making out, even – sometimes especially – when it doesn’t lead anywhere else.
4) You’re original, creative, or different in some way.
5) You like to stay up and talk late into the night.
6) You can prove me wrong about things, or prove me right in ways I hadn't thought of myself.
7) You like massages, because I’m good at that.
8) You’ve ever wondered where all those nice, respectful, thoughtful guys are hiding – because I can give you their GPS coordinates.
9) You feel deeply, care deeply, and love deeply.
10) You’re Ellen Page

I am going to outright steal this section from talkingthornbush, because it's AWESOME:

I have date ideas that require willing experimenters:

- Silent first date. Communication by sign language, drawing, interpretive dance, etc.
- Most awkward first date imaginable. Will need to develop specifics jointly. May require props and/or costumes.
- No small talk first date (no: "Where are you from?" yes: "When was the last time you cried out of joy?")
- Both persons limited to sentences of 3 or fewer words
- First date with our fictitious selves. Audacious lies only.