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36 M Santa Barbara, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:05am
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Working on masters program
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Has kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a smart, friendly guy who's a little on the geeky side. I'm very much drawn to people who are spontaneous and outgoing. I would like to be more spontaneous myself and am learning to become so, but I do have a tendency to over think things sometimes.

In relationships I'm very affectionate and I also tend to be very up front and direct about my feelings. I value these qualities very highly in other people. I tend to become attached to people quickly and I'm very extroverted, so I tend to prefer to spend a lot of time with my friends and partners.

I love meeting new people and exploring opportunities to learn and try new things. In that sense I'm a bit adventurous, though I'm not prone to anything too terribly reckless. I love reading, playing games, talking to people at the local bar, etc.

I love good food, good times, and good conversation, and I'm looking for someone interested in all of the above.
What I’m doing with my life
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I grew up thinking I was an introvert because I was incredibly shy. I recently discovered that I actually need a lot of social interaction to be happy, so I'm learning to overcome my shyness and meet new people and friends.

At the moment, I'm also working on a Master's Degree in Computer Science at UCSB.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Logical puzzles, a well timed joke, mixing drinks, and cooking breakfast.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Probably how tall I am. Some people have also said that I bear a bit of a resemblance to Cary Elwes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: anything by Larry Niven, Neil Gaiman, Orson Scott Card (though I hate his politics), Douglas Adams, Greg Bear, Mary Doria Russell, and Terry Pratchett.
I also particularly enjoyed Soon I will be Invincible, World War Z, Ready Player One, and the Jackelian series by Stephen Hunt.

Movies: Garden State, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Dark City, 12 Monkeys, Memento, Gattaca, the Dark Knight trilogy, Pulp Fiction, Stardust, Willow, Donny Darko, and the Lord of the Rings trilogy.

Shows: Downton Abbey, 30 Rock, Community, Sherlock, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Firefly

Music: Jonathan Coulton, Iron and Wine, Harvey Danger, Death Cab for Cutie, The Shins, AWOLNATION, as well as Techno and House music, though I typically only listen to those when I'm dancing or programming.

Food: Just about anything assuming it's prepared well. Preferably spicy. In particular I'm a huge fan of sushi (even though it's not spicy) and Indian cuisine.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good friends, new ideas, sexy-fun times, whiskey, adventures, and interesting puzzles ( not the jigsaw kind ).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Synesthesia, polyamory, social justice, and the foibles of humanity. I also spend a lot of time being concerned about the optimality of my walking paths.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out playing pool at the Mercury Lounge or Elsie's, playing games with friends, dancing, or singing karaoke in some divey bar.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm actually a pretty open person. Ask me anything!
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–41
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You're looking to make a new friend, you like witty conversation, can hold your own in a debate, and aren't afraid to call me out when I'm bullshitting.

If you like board games, good food, and good drinks thats a plus also.