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31 • San Diego, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 25–35
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Apr 21
- 6′ 1″ (1.85m)
- Body type
- Strictly anything
- Trying to quit
- Atheism, and very serious about it
- Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from university
- Art / Music / Writing
- Rather not say
- Mostly monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
- Likes dogs and has cats
- English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
I live and breathe for theatre, music, and the magical natural world around us.
I'm chill, cool, calculated, strong will, deep heart, smart enough not to do something stupid (unless I want to), articulate, organized but messy, long fused, malnourished, humble, modest, critical eye, observant, patient (except with myself, though sometimes...). I'm passive without aggression, goal-oriented, swear like a sailor, wise beyond my years, confident, sometimes lazy, generally proactive, TV junkie, nicotine and caffeine addict. I enjoy a good, stiff drink, but rarely get out of hand drunk (but I have and had good times). Bit of a starchild, dream wanderer who does battle with the alarm clock, head in the clouds plotting a utopia that could never be. Totally godless.
That's some of me, I probably missed some things. Oh well, you'll just have to find out first hand.
Theatre is what truly makes me happy. So I try my damnedest never to get too far away from it. Naturally, I tend to associate with whom some consider the scum of the earth: lecherous, promiscuous, and dangerous people of the night; actors and other fellow theatre artists. Previously, I was freelance Stage Manager for the San Diego theatre community. The SM is responsible for the entire production, from first rehearsal to final performance. He take notes on everything, he runs lights and sounds, organizes schedules, helps construct sets when needed, sometimes he even takes care of the plumbing... presently I've got a couple months of a break from it this fall, so I'm ready to enjoy my weekends doing whatever.
In the off hours I can be found playing my guitar, casually playing video games, or chilling with friends, roommates, my cat, or all three.
Books: 2312, The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, Galileo's Dream, The Mars Trilogy, The Hyperion Cantos, Catcher in the Rye, The Stranger, On the Road, anything by Bret Easton Ellis (American Psycho, Rules of Attraction), or Kim Stanley Robinson (Red Mars) (I know, two completely different genres... but they're both excellent authors.)
TV: How I Met Your Mother, Revolution, Walking Dead, Once Upon a Time, Star Trek: TNG, South Park.
Plays: Angels in America, Closer, Three Days of Rain, Madagascar.
Films: I like a lot of movies... But I really don't get out to the movie theater much anymore; this is strange, since it used to be a hobby of mine, in 2002 I saw 100 movies in the theater and reviewed them on my livejournal (remember that thing?)
But if I must choose six material possessions...
I have a highly addictive personality, I collect things I like (like music, authors) and I get very attached to things quickly.
I love answering OKCupid questions, I've answered a lot of them (at time of edit, over 1000); its fun.
Also if you can deal with these facts:
I work in a low income career that I love.
I don't believe in a god and I never will again.
I smoke; I want to quit eventually, and I'd be happy to have someone try to help, but it is not an easy task at hand.
If you can handle that, then message me or chat with me. Maybe we'll go see a play, or check out the beach at dusk. We can get a drink, or two, or three, or more. Let's check out the dark parts of the city. Let's do something crazy. Or something serene.
The point is this: we're alive, so let's do something about it together.
10/11/13 update: Working hard on a daily basis. Not getting out enough. Would like to meet someone who wants to go out a couple times a week. Let's see where it goes from there.
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