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39 M Willington, UK

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Trying to quit
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Dislikes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I'm quite independent (but loyal and affectionate to those I care about), honest, intelligent and somewhat tangential. In general I like the quiet life... but y'know, not TOO quiet. Everything in life is a juggling act, so juggle as best you can - that's my philosophy. I get on well with people who like the countryside, enjoy a joke, know how to relax, aren't pretentious, and who have a great sense of the absurd.

My family background is a mixture of Irish and Sussex, which implies a degree of contrariness coupled with extreme intransigence when challenged. This is fair enough - sometimes stereotypes exist for a reason. I'm a caring sort of chap but with a quick sense of humour, and I do like a good pseudo-intellectual "debate" (i.e. mock OTT arguement) over a pint. Irony, sarcasm, overkill and underkill are all welcomed here.

I'm not ambitious in a conventional sense. I'm Director of my own firm, but that's not to make a mint at everyone else's expense. I like to steer things in the right direction for the greater common good whenever I can. Sometimes I have to travel a lot, or stay away for prolonged periods. It's nice to explore new places but it's always nice to get back home. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

I enjoy dining out, watching movies, driving cars, narrowboating, cycling, going to gigs and firing steam locomotives. Those who think this all sounds rather too masculine should be pleased to note that I have no interest whatsoever in watching sports. I can snuggle AND I can rock, and I'd like to meet someone who can appreciate and share in both.

I am unconventional, stoical, and 30-something.
What I’m doing with my life
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Given the choice, I'm to be found living on my beautiful 40' trad narrowboat normally moored in the Willington area, just outside Derby. However I work as a Consultant and this means going wherever the work is. I might be staying in the family home in Sussex (my 'official' address) if working in the South East, or I might be stuck in a hotel somewhere, in the UK or abroad. Annoyingly for some, my stock answer to most lifestyle questions is "Well, it depends...".

I do a fair amount of voluntary work at the weekends, when that's possible, and if the sun is shining I like to be out on my boat. I do keep myself quite busy and I'm not looking for a 24/7 relationship as such, though I know these things have a habit of changing over time. I know I'm happiest with a certain amount of variety and independence in my life, but at the same time too much freedom can be disorientating . At the risk of repetition, it's all about balance.

*ADDENDUM* I have changed some of my details recently, so here's a little summary of the whys and wherefores.

I managed to quit smoking for about 18 months before finding out that my (then) fiance was having an affair. The break up was messy, and I didn't manage to get through it without the ciggies. My bad. However I am trying to quit again now. Admittedly this is mainly by smoking roll-ups (which I'm shit at rolling, so this limits my consumption), but at least that's a start eh?

On the plus side I have tried to balance this out by eating healthily and drinking a lot less. Although I'm not a veggie I now find myself eating a lot of veggie meals and really enjoying them. Oh and I've lost nearly two stone, so I'm thinner than the pictures would suggest.

I've always been into 'alternative' stuff and been a bit subversive, however I preferred to hide this behind a slightly geeky but to all intents and purposes normal exterior. Well I'm bored of that now, so the whole retro / steampunk / rock / indie side of me is coming out. Yup, I'm getting tattooed.

After months of agonising over which toy to buy I've also just bought a classic car - a Wolseley 1500. It's a project car but roadworthy and I'm already in love. The intention is to fully restore it and subtly update the most ancient aspects to make it more suitable for today's roads. It's very cute but it would be nice if it stopped, for example....

Lastly, having never really wanted kids I now suddenly find myself at the stage where all babies are simply adorable. It doesn't seem to be a rational thing, more of a gut instinct. So I'm a lot more open to the idea of being a Dad with the right partner, though I still wouldn't regard it as essential. Just a nice "maybe".
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Thinking things over.

Persuading people, against their better judgement, to buy Alfa Romeos.

Creating indie / alternative rock CDs.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
It depends on the circumstances, really, doesn't it?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favourite author is currently Jasper Fforde, favourite film Twelve Monkeys, favourite wine Rioja :o)

I'm a sucker for Pixar-style animation, because I am a big kid.

I love alternative rock music and most of the sub-genres it incorporates: baggy, britpop, grunge, trip hop, shoegazer, emo, stoner rock and so on. Anything with guitars and some attitude. "Going Blank Again" by Ride is probably my favourite album of all time.

There are too many nice foods to narrow it down to just one, though a good cheese omlette is close to perfection. Why over-complicate things? Oh, and I've got a thing for Gordal olives. Sorry.

I also love driving Italian cars - have owned four Alfa Romeos and a Maserati, but recently switched to a new Fiat because the latest Alfas are rather too solid and predictable to be fun. I also enjoy firing steam trains in Sussex, Staffordshire and Falkirk, and playing with narrowboats around the inland waterway network. Please note that I enjoy USING all these mechanical things, rather than lying around in the dirt fixing them. It's purely a horsepower thing. I'm no Bob the Builder :o)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The Countryside.
A means of transport.
A nice cup of tea
(decaff, soya milk, fruit sugar. Yes, I'm awkward!).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"Far away is close at hand, in images of elsewhere"
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
as Descartes almost said.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is that I'm quite shy, really, but I hide it well.

Oh, and I know the photos are rubbish. Might get round to changing them one day...
You should message me if
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anything here has made you smile, or nod your head in recognition, though preferably not against anything solid.