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49 Vancouver, British Columbia, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 4:59am
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Chapter 7

The aging wizard paused in his mysterious machinations, stroking his white beard as he contemplated the rain beating against the windows of his tower. The sound reminded him of other rain in other places, except... there was a peculiar knocking quality to it. Was that the rain at all, or somebody at the door? There was only one way to find out. Descending the 837 steps to the entry, he opened the door and said..."


I'd like to find true romance, of course... wouldn't we all? The thing is... that's all about seeing past our abstractions and fixed ideas and really getting to know each other, to add to our lives in ways we can't do for ourselves. So, having a concrete list of all the things I want in a mate would be self-defeating; what I really want is somebody who gives me what I don't know.

This is something of a problem when using OkC, clearly, since those sorts of lists are how it all works. When I realized that I kinda lost interest and haven't been active much here since.

Still, good relationships don't have to be the ultimate, or even serious at all. I'm fine making new friends, or just connecting to do fun things casually. Also, while I may know that I can't know what I want... I do have a list of things I don't want and can make it easy for other people to check their own don't-want lists!

So, onward... There are lots of concrete details below; I'll just add a bit of colour here, too.

I'm an eccentric and inquisitive sort, hard to predict and sometimes mischievous. Don't expect me to have simple views on anything.

My main drives are creative instincts and a strong urge not to become part of the machine.

I am a romantic, but also pragmatic. This is the least of my built-in contradictions.

Although it doesn't stop me, I can't shake the feeling that there's something wrong with washing down a Coffee Crisp with a pot of tea.

I think out loud quite often, which might be why so many people feel some need to offer me obvious and unwanted advice. Nevertheless, I'll probably continue to do it.

It irks me that a monkey can shell and eat a peanut in half a second while it takes me five or ten.

I sometimes wonder if I've left the door unlocked or the stove on, and have learned this is a reliable barometer of how stressed I am.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm trying to make progress on the the large pile of things I want to do (mostly an online business startup) and satisfy the need to get out in the fresh air to have fun and stay healthy, all while not turning into a hermit. It's a challenge: working online from home means I never meet anyone new at work, and in Vancouver it seems surprisingly hard to find things to do which are both social and healthy.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...critical thinking. I'm like the little kid who says the emperor isn't wearing clothes.

I also walk fast, and I inspire terror in word games. I'm a satisfactory cook and, in the distant past, friends would follow me around from restaurant to restaurant because I pick good places to eat (I mostly favour cheap & tasty over expensive & snobbish).

I say what I mean, apparently much more than other people because they always seem to be reading things into what I say that aren't there. I don't often hint, I've never been accused of being inarticulate, and I'm notoriously candid - so if I didn't say it, it's probably not what I'm thinking.

I've travelled a lot. No, really... A lot. Europe, Africa, and Asia. Modes covered quite a range, too: Five star hotels back in my academic days, fleabag dumps while cycling across Africa, and a lot in between (although package tours and cruises don't generally appeal to me).

I'm really not good at singing, but that doesn't stop me (although I rarely inflict it on other people). There are small rodents that make better actors than I do, but I always have the feeling it's something I should be able to do.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
... are my height and my voice (a low bass rumble which has been charitably described as "distinctive").
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music: If I have favourites I suppose most are stuff I grew up with: CCR, The Guess Who, and so on. I like guitar music generally, whether Narciso Yepes or Eric Clapton. I collect new tunes occasionally, too. Lately I've developed a yen for listening to Chopin while working.

TV: I haven't owned a TV since 1990 and don't want one. However, I do watch vids of Monty Python, Seinfeld, Corner Gas, The Simpsons, Futurama, Red Dwarf, The Sopranos, Breaking Bad and other shows that strike my fancy.

Food: Turkish and Mexican, although I eat almost anything except chili and spaghetti (excessive consumption of both in my teen years has killed my enthusiasm for them). Oatmeal is good at any time of day and age has not quenched my love of ice cream.

Movies: As you can tell from my profile picture, I'm a fairly serious movie buff! Mostly I follow directors, including Stanley Kubrick, Alfred Hitchcock, Bernardo Bertolucci, and Cameron Crowe. I used to be a fan of Ridley Scott but after his last couple, I'm starting to think he should be retired to some pasture for Movie Makers Who Are Past It.

A few movies I liked more than most: Little Big Man; Any Given Sunday; American Gangster; The Constant Gardener; Enemy At The Gates; Casablanca; The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly; 2001; The Lover; L.A. Confidential. I'll go to see almost anything set in Africa.

Books: George Orwell's essays; The Hobbit, The Lord Of The Rings, and The Silmarillion; The Day Of The Jackal and The Dogs Of War by Frederick Forsyth; Robert A. Heinlein's best stuff (I grew up on it); The Blue Nile and The White Nile by Alan Moorehead; The Three Musketeers; Midnight Express. That's a random sampling of stuff that's survived numerous bookshelf purges, so could fairly be called "favourites." I read all kinds of things - history, science fiction, travel books, thrillers, classics, photo & art books. Lately it's mostly science fiction, and that's mostly because it relates to work.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Air, food, water, shelter, something interesting to watch and a good place to sit or stand.

(Did I mention that I like to keep life simple? Sometimes I even succeed!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...what to have for lunch, why people do the things they do, whatever I'm working on, how I might meet more of the sort of people I'm compatible with, and how to work more exercise into my day.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose? home watching a DVD. Friday's just another day of the week for me: my schedule is up to me and very flexible, so I often take my breaks in the middle of the week, and during the winter I tend to go out in the afternoon so as not to waste sun. Evenings I might be out at an event, but usually I'm at home playing a movie while I do other things. I'd like to be out more evenings on fun dates, which of course is why I'm here.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am one of those big tough guys who'll sniffle at pretty much any old sentimental crap somebody manages to insert in a movie.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. think we'd get along well! I answer everybody but scammers, and about one time in three I'm interested enough to get together in person. As one might guess from my blurb up at the top there, I have no expectations when I meet somebody new. Even if there's no chemistry, making a new friend is reward enough.

In the interest of saving time, some easy ways to spot whether we'd be a match:
1) I don't date smokers or recently-quit ex-smokers, although I wish them all the best in kicking the habit.
2) I'm not from Vancouver originally.
3) Spectator sports don't interest me at all; you will never find me cheering on the Canucks (or any other sports team).
4) Travelling more than 30-60 minutes to meet each other will quickly sour an otherwise good relationship; please live close by.

Please message me if we share an interest you'd like to pursue! Mine include Walking, Movies, Cycling ,Photography, Eating Out,Tea, People-watching, Humour, Games, Hiking, Travel,Africa, Polar Places ,Deserts, Mountains, and Animals. I'm more than fine with indulging one of those in some public place instead of the routine "first coffee meeting."

I'm happy to trade e-mail. IM chat with people I don't know doesn't excite me but I sometimes do it anyway. Phone calls with people I don't know are just painful, so let's not.