Caribbean born and Americanized. I appreciate diversity in all forms as I am able to learn from others. I have been in San Francisco since 1999 and really enjoy the progressive politics and social justice that affords many the opportunity to live their lives authentically. I appreciate the urban feel to the city combined with the rugged outdoors of nature.

I follow sports, particularly pro/college basketball and football games but find the word "jock" limiting so I wouldn't categorize myself as such. I'm still learning alot about myself particularly after my stint at CIIS (California Institute in Integral Studies) and how my thoughts and beliefs were influenced by my environment, family, institutions, etc.

I consider myself a combination of a reserved type mixed with a social butterfly LOL. Yes, I am a man of contradictions. I enjoy many things; from cooking a meal at home, cocktails at the bar, hitting the gym, watching games live or on TV (Go Giants & Warriors), checking out a movie, dancing as if no one is watching, hikes in Mt. Tam, MUSIC and concerts, laughter-being silly-sarcasm, among other things.

I am honest and open about myself so ask me anything (read my private question) - I try to communicate clearly and get in touch with my feelings so it doesn't affect my relationships too much. I treat others how I want to be treated, with RESPECT.

I work at a non-profit social service agency serving at risk, homeless individuals, am finishing up a program at CA Institute of Integral Studies, attend Glide church to achieve balance, and play in the gay basketball league.

Hoping one day to find a partner to walk hand in hand with me.

1) Listening - its a good skill to practice for my future endeavors.
2) Dancing. I love music and I like to strut my stuff - I don't do it enough but this year, I give myself permission to indulge a bit more.
3) Laughing. It is the cure for most things.
4) cooking. I am not a chef but my friends say they enjoy my home cooked meals - granted they are my friends so...
5) Massages. I have strong hands and am intuitive with the body so if you are as well, maybe we can trade one day?
6) Sports; Basketball, running, football, etc. I don't participate as much as I used to but I still love it
7) Gauging people. I trust my feelings and have a good sense of reading people's energy.

my chocolate brown eyes. ;-)

my smile.

Books: Wicked. Tuesdays with Morrie. A New Earth. The Mastery of Love. The Four Agreements. The Secret. The Power of Now, Siddhartha, Walk Out Walk On

Movies: Amelie, Dolores Clairborne. The Color Purple. Xmen, Dark Knight. Watchmen. Crash. Mean Girls. Angels in America,

TV: Damages. Modern Family. Pan Am. Private Practice. Greys Anatomy. So You Think You Can Dance. ESPN. Nikita.

Music: love a variety of styles from R&B, pop, hip hop, tribal, electronica, Verve, Tosca, Masters at Work, Adele, Birdy, Lana Del Rey Mary J Blige, Body & Soul, hip hop, Beyonce, Colbie Caillat, Erykah Badu, Anthony Hamilton, Trentmoller, Nicki Minaj, Estelle, Drake, Rahsaan Patterson,, Emeli Sande, MIA, Santogold, Robyn, etc. Did i say i like music?

No real order but...
1. my friends, they keep me grounded, laughing, young at heart, they point out my flaws and remind me to show up and be accountable every day
2. I am dependent on technology so my Iphone and Mac. I lost my phone recently and was out of my wits end for a few days. Pathetic. I know.
3. a hot shower - heaven!!
4. sports, gym, working out
5. music, live shows, concerts, dance performances
6. food - whether its cooked or at a restaurant. I can't get enough

Dwelling on the past..fantasizing about the future..how will my life be different at age 40? Why am I still single? how can i contribute to making my surroundings a better place? Why is Grey's Anatomy like therapy for me? Why does basil or cucumber taste so good in cocktails? random thoughts...(loop)

i'm home, I am studying, I am watching taped shows on my DVR or enjoying a game on TV, I am winding down from the week, cracking open a bottle of wine, meeting friends for a drink, going to a movie...It varies.

Well it's not private once I say it but since it can be an important factor - I was diagnosed in 1999 with HIV+.

My health is great, and i continue to be undetectable. I live an active, healthy and relatively normal lifestyle.

HIV is one aspect of me but it doesn't define me. I understand, not everyone can handle the information well so I wont take it personally.

You follow through with what you say. You communicate well, can be direct without being mean and can express how you feel. You are emotionally available. You have manageable baggage. You are patient.