I'm very talkative (I'm a podcaster, so there you go); heavily into fiction and lightly into games. I'm a writer of minor success and an increasingly well-known editor in the science fiction genre. I'm a tech geek and so are most of the people I know, but I can geek out on a wide variety of other subjects.

"Have Fun" has been my mantra for a long time now. I'm notorious for it. I have a penchant for bad puns and silly word play. I don't keep much about myself to myself; a friend once described me as "aggressively self-revelatory."

I'm married for close to a decade now, and I love my wife dearly. We're both polyamorous and bi; it's not a "lifestyle" or philosophical brag point for us, it's just what it is. We also have a kid, who's four now and already starting to gain ground in rhetoric. I love him fiercely. The core success of this family is that we keep each other entertained.

It's been my experience that the best relationships happen when I'm not looking for one. Doesn't stop me from trying sometimes, but I've learned to keep that in check. I've made a couple of friends from this place, and that's fine, but I'm not maintaining any specific goal. I'm here when it seems like fun to be here, and not here when it isn't.

In the "make a living" sense, I'm the director of technology for an academic non-profit. Comparative religion is involved as well. It's challenging and rewarding work, knowing that a lot of careers ride on the services we provide. A working environment where everyone's well-read, where different lifestyles and beliefs are accepted, and where there's always a running cutthroat game of Scrabble -- it's perfect for me.

More people know me, however, as the editor and host a podcast called Escape Pod. We narrate science fiction short stories and distribute the audio for free. We're arguably the most distributed market now for short science fiction in English, and we're making waves. We also have a fantasy podcast and a horror podcast, all under my company, Escape Artists, Inc. Becoming a genre publisher is something I stumbled into accidentally, but it's fulfilling work. I see evidence every day that we're touching lives and turning people onto literature that they thought they never had time for. As a mission in life, it doesn't suck.

Apart from that, I write fiction when I can, goof off when I can, immerse myself in conversation, spoil my wife, and amuse my child. I've also started going to the gym and running when it isn't the dead heat of summer. I've lost about 45 pounds in the past couple years. Concerns about weight and looks didn't do it for me; what finally got me off the couch was seeing enough research that exercise makes the brain work better. So as a knowledge worker, it's just good strategy.

Podcasting, editing, writing, coding, talking, flirting, amusing.

My smirk. Not my smile. My smirk.

Favorite books vary all the time. A few perennials: Neal Stephenson's Snow Crash, Vernor Vinge's A Fire Upon the Deep, Mark Danielewski's House of Leaves, Matt Ruff's Sewer, Gas and Electric, Patrick O'Brian's Aubrey/Maturin novels, Neil Gaiman's Sandman series, most of Iain M. Banks, Terry Pratchett of course, and anything written by Tim Pratt. One of these days, when he's rightly famous, I'm going to get positively obnoxious about using "I discovered Jeffrey R. Derego" as a brag point.

Oh, and the best novel in English is To Kill a Mockingbird. It's not my favorite, but it's the best.

Movies: I stand by the belief that The Princess Bride is one of the best written movies of all time. I loved The Abyss for its intelligence; The Matrix for its coolness; the LotR trilogy for its grandness; and Casablanca should have been number one on that Top 100 list. I like movies that make me watch them a few times over, too. Primer is one of the smartest movies I've ever seen. Donnie Darko made me listen to the director's cut, then decide I disagreed with the director on what it was about. And I have a huge soft spot for Apollo 13, simply for making the engineers into heroes. --Oh. I'm also into anime. If it's good. (Cowboy Bebop tops the category.)

Music: Other than a conviction that Yoko Kanno is one of the greatest living composers (even though she mostly does anime soundtracks), I'm not that deep into music. I like geeky music like They Might Be Giants, George Hrab and Jonathan Coulton. I can be enchanted by bluegrass, by classical symphonies, or by 80's pop if it's fun enough. And I maintain an irrational fondness for The Alan Parsons Project.

My wife, my child, my podcast, my dignity, my voice, and my hands (for...uh...writing. Yeah.)

Women, of course. Men, not as often. Science fiction. The future. Ruby on Rails. Having Fun.

If we're not having friends over to watch Doctor Who and drink good Scotch, then I may be either out catching a movie with my wife or simply watching television in each other's company. Every so often we make it out to a gaming night, too. (There used to be more options for Friday night, but Whippersnappers moved to Saturday.)

I'm not a person with many boundaries, and I have a habit of telling thousands of people about my personal life on my podcast. I keep other people's secrets well, but never understood the point of having my own.

I have a moderate interest in BDSM; I'm kinky but not consumed by it. In casual play I tend to be a switch. Non-casual play is outside the threshold of this question.

I'm much more into women than men -- except occasionally. I've had one successful relationship with a man, and some other frivolous fun, but mostly I don't look at men and say "Oh yes, I want that."

(Except for Kenneth Branagh. Henry V. He could go once more into my--)

Wait, what was the question again?

You're geeky, literate, relatively mentally balanced, treat conversation as a cooperative adventure game rather than a competitive sport, and are easily amused.