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45 San Francisco, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30-55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
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Open relationship
6' 2" (1.88m)
Body Type
Catholicism and laughing about it
Has kid(s)
Has dogs
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I’m tall, I’m handsome, I’m charming, I’m sophisticated, I’m secure. In short, I’m somebody you can take to meet your mama…or if we don’t’ work out, your sister.

Some common questions are:

Do you have commitment issues? - definitely not.
Do you know how to please? – hrmmmm!
Do you like children? – absolutely!
Do you like to dance? – i find jesus on the dance floor.
Do you cook? – professionally, for years.
And clean? – can you say dishpan hands?

You might be asking yourself, ‘if this is true…why aren't you married already?' – I am! Happily -- for nearly 20 years!

But pah-lease, don’t use that four letter word ‘poly’ with me. my wife and I have a modern, open, thrilling arrangement based on deep trust and open communication.

I am athletic, intellectual, and passionate. i'm also a 4th generation irish/italian SF native.
What I’m doing with my life
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writing. making movies. building community around alternative relationship models. cooking dinner.
I’m really good at
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taking action.
The first things people usually notice about me
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that i'm genuinely interested in what they're saying and that my laugh is infectious. yes: when i laugh you laugh. and then i laugh. and then we both grab our stomachs and ask the other to stop laughing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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favorite books? the latest, if it's good, is usually among my favorites, and my latest was one of the best novels i've ever read: 'any human heart' by william boyd. wallace stegner's 'angle of repose', philip roth, herman brock, conrad, and homer still work for me. oh, and 'everything else is noise' is a must if you love music and history.
movies: i grew up watching fred astaire, so that's hard to beat. but the deer hunter rates among the best along with man facing southeast, last tango in paris, kirisawa's dreams (the climbing scene stands out), buster keaton's 'the general', annie hall, raging bull, midnight cowboy, vertigo, casablanca, lawrence of arabia and many others.
music: gilberto gil and jorge ben. their collaboration was amazing. the water boys' rendition of 'this is the sea' sends ripples through my skin, as does van morrison's rendition of 'sweet thing'. kurt weil/uta lemper, arvo paart, phillip glass and wagner's ring cycle all elevate and transform in their own way. and a nod to philip glass' satyagraha. Dum dum girls, hurray for the riff raff, and if we're talking local bands, right now i'm into the california honeydrops.
food: i cooked professionally for years and have a soft spot for southwestern sauces. but you can't beat the basic italian trito. or tapas in barcelona or san sebastian. everything tastes good in those towns.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- miles of secluded single track to run
- warm home-made bread
- a challenge to create something new
- a sense of history
- deep connections with very few people
- a sense of adventure
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the people in my life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
cooking bouillabaisse from scratch for 20.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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i'm in an open marriage. shhh...
You should message me if
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You want an extremely well-considered response to your message.
You know a thing or two about non-monogamy.
You are interested in what you've read, but you have 'who are single' under what you're looking for. because i rarely message people with that qualifier.