Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I’m tall, I’m handsome, I’m charming, I’m sophisticated, I’m
secure. In short, I’m somebody you can take to meet your mama…or if
we don’t’ work out, your sister.
Some common questions are:
Do you have commitment issues? - definitely not.
Do you know how to please? – hrmmmm!
Do you like children? – absolutely!
Do you like to dance? – i find jesus on the dance floor.
Do you cook? – professionally, for years.
And clean? – can you say dishpan hands?
You might be asking yourself, ‘if this is true…why aren't you
married already?' – I am! Happily -- for nearly 20 years!
But pah-lease, don’t use that four letter word ‘poly’ with me. my
wife and I have a modern, open, thrilling arrangement based on deep
trust and open communication.
I am athletic, intellectual, and passionate. i'm also a 4th
generation irish/italian SF native.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
writing. making movies. building community around alternative
relationship models. cooking dinner.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
that i'm genuinely interested in what they're saying and that my
laugh is infectious. yes: when i laugh you laugh. and then i laugh.
and then we both grab our stomachs and ask the other to stop
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
favorite books? the latest, if it's good, is usually among my
favorites, and my latest was one of the best novels i've ever read:
'any human heart' by william boyd. wallace stegner's 'angle of
repose', philip roth, herman brock, conrad, and homer still work
for me. oh, and 'everything else is noise' is a must if you love
music and history.
movies: i grew up watching fred astaire, so that's hard to beat.
but the deer hunter rates among the best along with man facing
southeast, last tango in paris, kirisawa's dreams (the climbing
scene stands out), buster keaton's 'the general', annie hall,
raging bull, midnight cowboy, vertigo, casablanca, lawrence of
arabia and many others.
music: gilberto gil and jorge ben. their collaboration was amazing.
the water boys' rendition of 'this is the sea' sends ripples
through my skin, as does van morrison's rendition of 'sweet thing'.
kurt weil/uta lemper, arvo paart, phillip glass and wagner's ring
cycle all elevate and transform in their own way. and a nod to
philip glass' satyagraha. Dum dum girls, hurray for the riff raff,
and if we're talking local bands, right now i'm into the california
food: i cooked professionally for years and have a soft spot for
southwestern sauces. but you can't beat the basic italian trito. or
tapas in barcelona or san sebastian. everything tastes good in
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- miles of secluded single track to run
- warm home-made bread
- a challenge to create something new
- a sense of history
- deep connections with very few people
- a sense of adventure
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
cooking bouillabaisse from scratch for 20.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
i'm in an open marriage. shhh...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You want an extremely well-considered response to your
You know a thing or two about non-monogamy.
You are interested in what you've read, but you have 'who are
single' under what you're looking for. because i rarely message
people with that qualifier.
Who are you looking for?
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