(Hey! Hey! Watch it! Don't you throw that ! I'm warning you!)
11/23/15- OMFG...since being purchased by Match, OKC gets worse with each "improvement"...what OKC interface genius thinks constraining a rectangular photo into a small circular vignette makes the site more useable? Ugh...if you insist on messing with the site, PLEASE- function before form, you dodos! Make information *easier* to parse, not more difficult. Subtraction ad absurdum is not the same thing as simplicity/clarity. Sigh...
11/23/15- please note, a lot of this profile was written quite a while ago. Probably you'll still get the basic idea, but some things might be a bit out-of-date.
Always looking for some reading, prefer nonfiction, especially well-written books for laypeople that give overviews of the latest advances/theories in a particular field of study or research, whether a science or archaeology/history, or...? (i.e. Chaos by Gleick, Blind Watchmaker by Dawkins). Doesn't have to be from 2015, anything in the past decade or so that is still relevant. Some notable reads: Guns Germs and Steel (excellent) and The Black Swan (some unique insights, but an awful narcissistic writer)]
STFUandKissMe, for you Quickmatchers.
I don't respond to women without posted photos.
Lots of words. Lots and lots. Don't feel obligated to read every last one. There will be no pop quiz. If you like my pix and have a sense we might like each other, drop me a line. I live in Berkeley CA, occasionally visit Crescent City CA and Oxford MS.
I've done the internet dating thing for a good while now. Truth is, the only way to see what chemistries exist in real life is to meet in real life. No matter how good we look to each other on paper, it has little bearing on how much we will enjoy each other's company, or our pheromonal attraction, or any of the myriad minutiae that make us value the presence of another enough to want them in our lives. I'm sensitive to and value qualities like grace in voice, grace in movement (you can be a klutz and still be graceful ;). You can only discover those things by actually being with a person.
That said...here's a few things I think are important in knowing who I am.
I'm an outsider (despite my normal appearance), and find I fit best with other outsiders (with relatively normal appearances). By outsider, I mean non-mainstream, people who see outside the dominant American paradigm. I am an outsider through my intellect and my creativity, but one can be an outsider by any means that gives the perspective of being an outside observer, such as being from another culture (either foreign, or a subculture of our own country). I once dated a gal who was fully half-Japanese and half-Caucasian, but looked all white. She grew up in the South and, because of her "normal" appearance, heard all kinds of despicable racist crap said in her presence, under the assumption she was a good ol' white girl, "one of their own kind." While we had differences in world view (polar opposites on religion), I believe her outsider experience gave us a common ground for mutual appreciation that was part of our attraction (she was also a warm sweetie, totally hot, and the most yummy kisser I've ever had the pleasure to brush lips with).
I'm an intellectual with a boundless curiosity. I love playing with ideas, learning something new, juxtaposing things in new ways, seeking patterns. I'm a holistic thinker (for one example, seeing that the mainstream American paradigm is only one small part of what actually exists, or is possible). I'm a logical thinker and a skeptic, which is also why I'm an atheist (there is no credible evidence that gods created humankind, but it is extremely credible that humankind created gods [and all the accompanying religious mumbo-jumbo baggage]).
I'm creative to my bones, both as an artist (background in theater, dance, and music) and in anything I do. I couldn't do a job for long if there was not some element of creativity possible.
Though intellectual, I am also very much in my body. I've been a professional dancer, have always been a competent athlete (currently in love with soccer), and am highly sensual and sexual.
I've come to learn that the concept of flow is the dominant theme of who I am and what I value. Flow is essentially "effortless experience," as when athletes talk about being "in the zone." It is when "all the lights turn red to green," when you talk for hours and it seems like minutes, creating improvisational music that feels like it's telling you what to play and you are just along for a fun ride, combining a series of passes to thread through a soccer defense, or sex where you seem to become one with the other, effortlessly. I seek experiences of flow, and I facilitate others having such experience. Flow is not just about art and sport, it's a practical everyday concept, such as waiting on a corner to let ten cars pass instead of making them all stop and idle, burning gas, so one (ignorant/selfish/arrogant Berkeley) pedestrian can stroll across the street. Or creating a website where the user can easily find what they want instead of grinding their teeth in frustration.
Flow is why I love soccer (especiallyFC Barcelona and their brilliant midfielder Xavi Hernandez), tap dance and music improv, capoeira, and parkour.
If the above appears rather dry, I should say I am also low-drama, warm, kind, outgoing, and have a sense of humor, from silly to subtle. I've never felt the need to say "liars need not apply" because I simply don't have such people in my life.
And I'm waaaaaay left politically (at least when speaking about my own country). I think our American economic system is inherently immoral. I have almost as little respect for most Democratic politicians as I do for Republican ones, and couldn't bring myself to vote for Obama, yet again the lesser evil of the Demoblican center-right candidates. Until we entirely change direction, the poor in this country will always be working their butts off for table scraps. That said, I do value the day-to-day kindnesses of average people, no matter their political or religious persuasions.
On the other hand, I can't stand P.C. bull. If you find my screename offensive, we're not meant to be. If you find it amusing, we're off to a good start. ;)