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49 Santa Monica, CA Woman


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Last online
Oct 10
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
Judaism but it’s not important
Post grad
Has kid(s)
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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And so I embark on the fine line between self-aggrandizing and self-deprecating.

Do I tell you that I use passports until they wear out, speak a few languages, and have a larger than average collection of swords that I use regularly? Or do I confess that I know little music written post 1985, can quote the Six Million Dollar Man more readily than Game of Thrones, and sometimes go so long without washing my car that people leave notes thinking it's been abandoned?

Hard to know which way to go.

I could mention that I love camping, and I organize a few trips a year that involve dragging half the people I know to a hillside to keep me company around a fire; I suppose finding out whether you consider that confession self-deprecating or self-aggrandizing would tell me something about you. I've been through the desert on a horse with no name (or if he had one, I chose not to learn it, because it made for a better story). And I spend more time contemplating Shakespeare than reality television - but that might make you run screaming, so forget I said that.

What I should mention is that being a mom is an important part of my life, in which I find great joy and take much pride. I've just got one son (age 9), but I try to make the most I can out of the parenting experience.

I live in Santa Monica, because to me it's got the best of LA in one, walkable community. I spent a decade in London and go back for work in Europe most summers. My family, friends, and wonderful neighbors fill me with joy (which is why I coerce them all into sleeping in tents periodically....) In short, my life is great - but it sure would be fun to share it with a man. That might mean a few lovely evenings or more than a few - there's really only one way to find out, right?
What I’m doing with my life
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After years of slinging swords all around the globe, I've taken a step off the fast lane to raise the best son I possibly can. I love being a parent more than anything I've ever done, and slowing down a bit to do it right is a big part of what I'm doing with my life now. That said, I still try to keep my summers full of international adventure and intrigue...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Figuring out where words come from... introducing friends who go on to become firm friends to each other.... remembering what we were talking about before we were interrupted...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I suspect it's my hair. You'll have to let me know.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite books...? I have shelves full of favorite old books waiting for me to re-find the time that allowed me to spend whole days on a sofa savoring them. While I'm waiting, I've discovered books on CD to enjoy during my small doses of alone time in the car - often written by Jon Stewart's most interesting guest of the week (Sarah Vowell and Malcolm Gladwell get my neurons fired up). This week's acquisition is a CD of Alan Bennet stories.

I don't really do much in the way of TV (mine's only connected to the DVD player), but I do watch a few things online and get testy when Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert disappear on me simultaneously (do they take family vacations together??). And I finally caved recently and got sucked into Downton Abbey; if it were a Ben and Jerry flavor, I'd be twice the size I am now.

Music - I've already confessed that I'm not very adventurous. I found what I liked in the 70s/80s and stuck with it. The biggest thing to happen to my music collection this year was the Beatles making their deal with iTunes. I will say that the best concert I ever attended was an all-day affair that featured Paul McCartney, Elton John, Eric Clapton, Robert Plant & Jimmy Page, Mark Knopffler, Phil Collins, Status Quo (that's when I grabbed a bite to eat), Ray Cooper, the Dire Straits, and a finale by Pink Floyd (by which point I was lying on top of a milk truck looking at the stars).

My food taste is eclectic and - preferably - healthy. Indian, Chinese, French, Veggie, non-Veggie, Raw, Italian, Spanish, German - oh heck, you name it, I like it. Well, except oysters. Sorry, they're slimy.

Ah - I forgot movies. I like good acting, good story, thought-provoking, visually interesting, beautifully edited - so not necessarily a summer blockbuster fanatic. I prefer to see what's playing at The Aero. Not so keen on devastation, misery, and bleak, dysfunctional lives. Well, unless it's Gone with the Wind.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My son (not that he's a thing), travel, a sky full of stars far from city lights, theater, dark chocolate, and a creative outlet. Everything else I think I can't do without I actually have done without.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to be the best parent I can be and have the most possible positive impact in the few short years that childhood turns out to be. (Didn't it seem so much longer when we were living it?)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Enjoying a bottle of wine with the neighbors. I am blessed with great neighbors.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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If you suddenly pop up "online" while I'm looking at your profile, I'll get all embarrassed and mortified as if I'd been caught leafing through your mail, and I will probably click over abruptly to Huffington Post in a cloud of awkward consternation....
You should message me if
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You enjoy words... you recycle... you try to treat others as you would want to be treated... you like tackling the world's problems by a campfire... and, perhaps most important, you can be a little flexible with the scheduling challenges of a single parent...