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27 Northridge, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Nov 24
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
If I message you, don't automatically assume I'm hitting on you. I message anybody I think is interesting, not just people I'm attracted to.

Be aware before reading: I'm polyamorous so that should be considered when stalking me. I have two incredibly wonderful people in my life whom I love deeply, RaeLeeTheCat (who also has a gentleman friend of her own but is always open for a local gentleman friend) and tutusaurus (who is generally open and awesome). Things are indescribably amazing romantically at the moment so I'm more on the look out for people to hang out and talk with rather than a lover but I can definitely be swayed by the right person.

Note, we're not looking for a threesome (or unicorn if you prefer); if we start seeing each other, you're seeing just me unless you specifically ask for that to be different and all involved are on-board.

A direct approach works best with me pretty much across the board. If something is on your mind, tell me. If you're curious about something, ask me. Just be straight with me and subtle as a T-Rex and we'll get along fine. I'm similarly direct; bullshit is exhausting and I just don't have the patience for it anymore.

If you want to know something ask me directly, I will answer you directly.

Oh, I also keep weird hours. My messages will come at odd times.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I dunno, what the fuck is anyone doing with their lives anymore?

Taking notes...

A key consideration of my daily life is that I tend to live by the idea that "no one has ever, when facing death, wished they'd spent more time at work and less time doing the things they wanted to do with the people they loved." This idea is critical to understanding virtually everything about my life.

My "afford food and rent job" is with a non-profit as a counselor for adults with special needs in Santa Monica. We teach life-skills to adults with developmental disabilities (if you're one of the residents and reading this, congrats, now go do your cleaning). I also do some freelance home and computer repair on the side.

The list of things I'm involved with has gotten so long we're going to handle this in list form:

- I built a bow out of PVC pipe and fiberglass rods. It's pretty bangin' and I'm teaching myself archery. Only skinned my arm once thus far.

- Researching adverse possession claims and abandoned properties for a future squat. Need housing?

- Learning as much as I can about medicine and basic first-aid care.

- Learning Go. Always happy for a game partner.

- Putting together plans and researching to build my own house, currently the debate is shipping containers or steel frame construction. If you're involved with architecture or design I would love to pick your brain.

- Looking for a place to start growing things again. I kind of hate living in the concrete jungle sometimes. If you've got some open ground and like plants, let me know.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm six feet and change with long, red hair. What do you think they notice? If I'm wearing a t-shirt people tend to notice the tattoo on my upper arm, if only because it's half hidden by the shirt so they can't tell what it is unless I roll my sleeve up.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite book? All of them. Except "Great Gatsby." If we hang, I'll probably give you a book, I actually maintain a free bookstore in my apartment. I've recently fallen in love with Orwell's "Homage to Catalonia." I love used bookstores; pawing through piles of unsorted old books with random titles in a dusty corner of a dimly lit shop sounds like am amazing time to me. Jack London's "The Iron Heel" is incredible if a little didactic.

Movies are unpredictable with me, I can never predict what I'll like and what I won't. I love a lot of the showy, over-the-top martial arts movies ('Iron Monkey," "Red Cliff," "Ip Man" etc) and wushu dramas. Period Asian flicks are also a favorite. I'm down for most anything that's engaging and a lot of my favorites are probably a bit surprising.

My TV taste is a bit limited because I don't have cable and I don't want it, I don't even own a TV. That said, Netflix and shadowy corners of the internet have turned me onto a few things; Alphas, Walking Dead, Firefly, Terra Nova, Rome, Vikings, and Outcasts. The new Spartacus series, as cheesy bad as it looks, is actually fantastic once you get into it.

My musical taste is impossible to present with any degree of brevity. It ranges from hardstyle to Gothic choral to metal to punk to traditional Arabic to rock to alternative to instrumental to Bolliwood to Irish and on and on ad mortem. You probably wont like most of it and that's OK. I have a PLEX server set up and if you have a PLEX account (free) I'd be more than happy to give you guest access for a taste of what you're in for, musically.

A few sample tracks:
Track One The Casualties - Soldado
Track Two Rachid Taha - Ya Rayah
Track Three Ryan Harvey - I Won't Be Part Of It
Track Four Arabic Orthodox Hymn
Track Five Eisenfunk - Skudrinka
Track Six Crucified Barbra - The Crucifier
Track Seven Sister Sin - One Out Of Ten
Track Eight GBH - Timebomb
Track Nine Groupe Badar - Allah Wastajib
Track Ten Percival - Jomsborg

Food is also a mix (SEE WHAT I DID THERE!?), I tend to cook for myself regularly and though I do have a fairly restricted diet due to health issues (I cannot eat dairy, nuts, beans, or soy) I still eat well. I rarely eat out (eating out with food allergies is balls) but I'm not against a good meal at a place I know wont attempt to poison me. Asian is great but I'm game for anything I can actually digest.

I'm almost exclusively a PC gamer (though I do love me some Kessen). I have a long list of favorites but for the sake of space I'd have to go with Arcanum, System Shock 2, Thief 1 and 2, Minecraft and Black & White. And no, I'm not a WoW player, sorry.

I recently built my own Minecraft server for use with friends, it's a pretty amazing place if I do say so myself. If you're a Minecraft player, let me know. Once we get to know each other, another person would be welcome.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Ginger. I'd cut a fool for some ginger.

I'll give you one guess how many times I've heard the "a ginger who likes ginger" joke. Go on. Guess.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"It's time to stop singing and start swinging!"
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If it's not already abundantly clear, I'm somewhat of an introvert. I don't mind getting out but I feel much more comfortable in a quiet place.

As far as Fridays, there is no "typical."

Talking, building, cooking, reading, watching, sleeping, playing, writing, cuddling, listening, figuring, learning, loving, making, dreaming, fucking, digging, laughing, breaking, scrapping, eating, planting, saving...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My brain doesn't function quite the same way as most other brains as I have dyscalculia. (Mobile app users, Google that shit)

It isn't something you notice until I get handed a number problem or have to read an analog clock (which I cannot). As long as you don't spring any math problems on me I should be good; "I'm really having a good time tonight and I'd love to see you aga-WHAT IS TWENTY FOUR TIMES SEVENTEEN!? WHAT IS IT, GODDAMMIT!? ANSWER ME OR SO HELP ME I WILL CUT YOU RIGHT HERE!"

Actually if you pull that I may end the visit a touch early.
You should message me if
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-If you are poly, poly-friendly, or just curious. Being poly, I kinda need the people around me to at least be willing to accept that part of me even if they dislike or disagree with it. If you're curious about poly, I'm more than happy to talk about it and welcome any inquisitive individuals.

-If you're looking for a tabletop gaming buddy. I'm down for most games, doubly so if it's Shadowrun or Legend of the Five Rings. Matsu!

-You are Jeeja Vismitananda or Shoshannah Stern.

You should NOT message me if:
-You want someone to bar-hop or club with. If you want to go, more power to you, not my scene.

-You have no passions: if you hate everything, everyone, and everywhere, if looking at a basket of cross-eyed kittens does nothing to you, if nothing at all makes your heart pound and your breathing pick up.....don't message me. I have less than no desire to deal with a Daria and I cannot even begin to understand someone who has absolutely nothing in the world to be passionate about. The world is a fucking vast place, there is no reason other than spite to find ALL of it dis-interesting.

-You're half a world away. I'm sorry, I'm looking for someone local. I'm not interested in LDRs.

-You like Bobby Flay. Fuck. Bobby. Flay.

You made it to the end, congrats. If you read the whole thing but still didn't find it to your liking, I still want to leave you with something for being awesome willing to read the whole thing. Enjoy!