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28 Panorama City, CA Cis Man

Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18-40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 10:37pm
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Other and it’s important
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
EDIT: So I decided it was just too damn much work to keep long hair clean and tidy in weather that can politely be described as "Satan's tenth butthole" hot. I cut my hair short. Very short. I don't have a picture of this yet. It looks good. Promise.

EDIT EDIT: So I cut my hair. Again. Mini hawk this time. Still looks good. Hopefully I'll have pictures soon. Kinda camera shy.

I'm not just open to romantic partners, I'm also happy to expand my circle of friends and thus I message anyone I find awesome and interesting. If you get a message from me and we're wildly incompatible, chances are good I'm not cruising for a date. Best bet is to just ask what I'm up to. I appreciate any "likes" but since I don't have premium I can't see who it was so you're better off just shooting me a quick message. I'll accept anything more than three letters.

Be aware before reading: I'm polyamorous so that should be considered when scoping me. I have some incredibly wonderful people in my life whom I love deeply, one of whom even has OKC; RaeLeeTheCat (she's a busy woman but open for meeting a gentleman caller, preferably local.)

A direct approach works best with me pretty much across the board. If something is on your mind, tell me. If you're curious about something, ask me. Just be straight with me and subtle as a T-Rex and we'll get along fine. Bullshit is exhausting and I just don't have the patience for it anymore.

EDIT - Yes! The name I sign my messages with is actually my name. Like my legit, legal name. Yes, I'm aware it's strange, it sucked to go through school with it. You'll mangle it if we meet up, it's cool, I expect it, no judge.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I dunno, what the fuck is anyone doing with their lives anymore?

Politics is a big part of my world; if a radical leftist, feminist, privacy advocate, and solid anti-authoritarian isn't your thing then you may want to move on. I spent a very limited time with Occupy and I have taught classes for medics who accompany protests and other activist actions.

My "afford rent job" is with a non-profit as a counselor for adults with special needs in Santa Monica teaching life-skills (if you're one of the residents and reading this, congrats, now go do your cleaning). I also do some freelance home and computer repair on the side.

The list of things I'm involved with has gotten so long and it changes regularly. I'm more than happy to talk about anything I'm doing at any given time.

- I build bows for archery out of PVC. I'm currently toeing into using carbon fiber as well as experimenting with the materials and construction to adjust the weight and draw for different shooters. It's quite a bit of fun. If you'd like your own bow, let me know; materials are less than $10 and it's a fun afternoon project.

- Researching adverse possession claims and abandoned properties for a future squat. Need housing?

- Putting together plans and researching to build my own house, currently the debate is shipping containers or steel frame construction. If you're involved with architecture or design I would love to pick your brain.

- Looking for a place to start growing things again. I kind of hate living in the concrete jungle sometimes. If you've got some open ground and like plants, let me know.

- Running an ongoing, one-man biomedical research project relating to nootropics and augmentation of memory.

- I'm a big FOIA nerd so I'm usually babysitting one or two requests at any given time.

- Writing a polyamory-centered romance screenplay. What? It's LA. Are you *really* that surprised?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
going back to Home Depot five times in two days because I miscalculated the size and number of bolts that I needed. -headdesk-
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Physically, I really couldn't say. I tend to dress a little odd; workboots with a leather welding jacket (weather permitting) does tend to draw some stares. Other than that I'd assume not much particularly sticks out about me but I'd rather know your answer to that.

I also tend to be a bit intense. We live in a society where men are expected to be stoic and somewhat detached emotionally. I give only the barest lip service to these things and find it far more comfortable to express whatever I feel when it suits me.

There are two key considerations with me. Take these into account carefully.

The first is this

This is a good reflection of how I look at the world.

The second is I tend to live by the idea that "no one has ever, when facing death, wished they'd spent more time at work and less time doing the things they wanted to do with the people they loved."

If these two ideas are acceptable and appealing, we will probably get along just fine.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I have too many favorite books to list and I constantly rotate my collection. If we hang, I'll probably give you a book, I actually maintain a free bookstore in my apartment. I love used bookstores; pawing through piles of unsorted old books with random titles in a dusty corner of a dimly lit shop sounds like am amazing time to me. Jack London's "The Iron Heel" is incredible if a little didactic. I favor non-fiction pretty strongly; it's hard to overstate my determination to absorb information and learn new things It borders on an obsession thus my mainstay for reading is non-fiction of all varieties. I do read fiction but I'm exceptionally picky about it.

Movies are tough, I can never predict what I'll like and what I won't. I love a lot of the showy, over-the-top martial arts movies ('Iron Monkey," "Red Cliff," "Ip Man" etc) and wushu dramas are particular favorites though. Period Asian flicks are also a favorite. I'm down for most anything that's engaging and a lot of my favorites are probably a bit surprising. I also really dig off-the-wall "make you think" movies. This is dangerously close to being the haughty "I don't like mainstream stuff" but I get excited when a movie starts going places movies don't tend to go. "Circle" was a recent really good example.

My TV taste is a bit limited because I don't have cable and I don't want it, I don't even own a TV. That said, Netflix and shadowy corners of the internet have turned me onto a few things; Alphas, Walking Dead, Firefly, Terra Nova, Rome, Vikings, and Outcasts. The new Spartacus series, as cheesy bad as it looks, is actually fantastic once you get into it.

My musical taste is impossible to present with any degree of brevity. It ranges from hardstyle to Gothic choral to metal to punk to traditional Arabic to rock to alternative to instrumental to Bolliwood to Irish and on and on ad mortem. You probably wont like most of it and that's OK. I have a PLEX server set up and if you have a PLEX account (free) I'd be more than happy to give you guest access for a taste of what you're in for, musically.

A few sample tracks:
Track One The Casualties - Soldado
Track Two Rachid Taha - Ya Rayah
Track Three Ryan Harvey - I Won't Be Part Of It
Track Four Arabic Orthodox Hymn
Track Five Eisenfunk - Skudrinka
Track Six Crucified Barbra - The Crucifier
Track Seven Sister Sin - One Out Of Ten
Track Eight GBH - Timebomb
Track Nine Groupe Badar - Allah Wastajib
Track Ten Percival - Jomsborg
Track Eleven Garmarna - Gamen
Track Twelve Finsterforst - Mach Dich Frie (Make Yourself Free)
Track Thirteen GBH - Sick Boy

Food is also a mix (-rimshot-), I tend to cook for myself regularly and though I do have a fairly restricted diet due to health issues (I cannot eat dairy, nuts, beans, or soy) but I still eat well. I rarely eat out (eating out with food allergies is balls) but I'm not against a good meal at a place I know wont attempt to poison me. Asian is great but I'm game for anything I can actually digest.

I'm almost exclusively a PC gamer. I have a long list of favorites but for the sake of space I'd have to go with Arcanum, System Shock 2, Thief 1 and 2, Minecraft and Black & White. And no, I'm not a WoW player, sorry.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Ginger. I fucking love ginger in pretty much any form it can be consumed. I almost cried when I learned Trader Joe's stopped carrying candied ginger. I'll give you one guess how many times I've heard the "a ginger who likes ginger" jokes. Go on. Guess.

Something to read or a project to work on. I simply cannot sit still and "veg" out for long periods of time. I need to engage my mind and be learning new things constantly.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"I would like to be someone who can feel shame at no part of myself. I would like to be able to regard the actions of others without feeling threatened or becoming defensive, even if they are defensive with me - to see others in the context of their own lives rather than strictly my own. I would like to know how to set the right limits on how far to trust others so I never risk losing my respect for them or my ability to trust. I want to look into the eyes of all the adversaries that should be allies and say "Like it or not, this is who I am. This is what the world has made me and we all must live with the consequences of that world. I cannot change the decades of life behind me that have wrought this, I can only take responsibility for what I am and what I do. I don't want to compete with you for moral high ground or for anything else. You are going to have to accept me on my own terms as I hope to accept you. You are as responsible as I am for making what goes on between us positive for us both, or for the world of strife we will suffer otherwise."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If it's not already abundantly clear, I'm somewhat of an introvert. I do enjoy getting out and spending time outside but I don't take to it with the near fanaticism that seems to characterize some of the people I've seen here.

No, I do not want to go parasailglidebiking. I also do not want to whitewater rafting in a canoe made from plastic bottles. Nor do I want to go naked skydiving; there's nothing wrong with the damn plane so why jump out of it!? It's also six am. Go the fuck back to sleep.

I like getting out and exploring but I'm also happy curling up at home with a project or a book. My day job is exhausting physically and draining emotionally so I do lean more "home" than "out" most days.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My brain doesn't function quite the same way as most other brains as I have dyscalculia. (Mobile app users, Google that shit) This is kind of a big deal because its influenced quite a bit over the course of a lifetime.

It isn't something you notice hanging out with me until I get handed a math problem or have to read an analog clock. I will probably at some point ask you some bonehead math question that a six year old would be able to answer.
You should message me if
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-If you are polyamorous, poly-friendly, or just curious. I kind of love talking about poly so if you want to ask questions I am more than game. I'm also pretty much impossible to shock or embarrass so don't be shy if you're curious about something really juicy.

-If you're looking for a tabletop gaming buddy. I'm down for most games, doubly so if it's Shadowrun or Legend of the Five Rings. Matsu!

-You are Jeeja Vismitananda or Shoshannah Stern. What? I have eclectic tastes in people.

-You have a McMaster-Carr catalog. If you have one, you know why this is such a perk.

-You're curious about any of the projects I'm doing and want to know more or want to collaborate on something.

You should NOT message me if:
-You want someone to bar-hop or club with. If you want to go, more power to you, not my scene. I'm not a fan of crowded spaces that I have to pay money to get into and drink overpriced drinks while screaming at the top of my lungs so the person next to me can hear me over the music.

-You have no passions: if you hate everything, everyone, and everywhere, if looking at a basket of cross-eyed kittens does nothing to you, if nothing at all makes your heart pound and your breathing pick up.....don't message me. The world is a fucking vast place, there is no reason other than spite to find ALL of it dis-interesting.

-You're half a world away. I'm sorry, I'm looking for someone local. I'm not interested in LDRs. Best of luck to you.

-You describe yourself as "not a homophobe/racist/prejudiced" but you just "don't feel comfortable around those people." If I have to explain why this is a shitty attitude, I'll talk to you regarding that but not much else is probably going to happen.

You made it to the end, congrats. If you read the whole thing but still didn't find it to your liking, I still want to leave you with something for being awesome willing to read the whole thing. Enjoy! (Mobile app users, this link won't show up for you but take heart in the fact that you're a good person for being willing to read this far or if you just -have- to have that endorphin rush, manually type into your browser )