Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
When we meet you would likely first ask me where I am from, so
let’s get that out of the way now. I was born and grew up in South
Africa; moved with my family to Toronto in my teens; grad. school
in California with some random bouts in London and Rome; and I
lived in New York for 9 years before taking a job last year in
North Carolina. That’s why I talk funny. Good, now we can move
I have a dry, mischievous and somewhat filthy sense of humor though
I tend more to chuckling and nodding appreciatively.
I choose to be a gentleman. Mostly.
I like to both give and receive affection.
I am irreverent and committed to the idea that rules are best
treated as suggestions. I break them when they seem silly.
My heroes, in different spheres and no particular, order include
Nelson Mandela, Sir Bernard Katz, Joe Strummer, my grandmother,
Kenny Dalglish, Henri Cartier-Bressson, and Alice Waters.
I am smart and engaged and absent minded and goofy; I am tolerant
and nonjudgmental but I have strong opinions and am not shy about
sharing them; I am athletic and intense and mellow and often very
I roll my own pasta.
I use humor as my shield. Let me let you through and you will find
a deeply sensitive, fiercely loyal, kind, and generous friend for
I am trying to find another word with which to start my sentences.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Neuroscientist lucky enough to be able to do what I love and love
what I do. I work hard and I am good at what I do, but it doesn't
define me. Well, it doesn't wholly define me. Fine, it does, but
still. Anyway. I spend most of my social time with my nucleus of
non-science friends because, in general, they're better-dressed,
finer-dining and harder-drinking.
Preferred forms of masochism presently include, but are not limited
to, triathlons and muddy adventure races.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing the funny side.
I am curious, sometimes patient, and a little obsessive but not
compulsive. I appreciate the finer things and I have a rudimentary
understanding of physics and chemistry. Put these together and you
get a pretty spectacular cook. Mainly though, I'm cripplingly
Spooning (mainly but not exclusively big).
I can take a decent photograph.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Usually it's the flight of angels throwing rose petals beneath my
feet as I walk in. Sometimes it's my posse. Or my ankle monitor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Midnight's Children; Atonement; The Structure of Scientific
Revolutions; Waiting for the Barbarians; Griffin and Sabine;
Janson's History; On Food and Cooking; Advice for a Young
Investigator; The Visual Display of Quantitative Information.
Coming Through Slaughter is my favorite book of all time.
Movies: I don't see that many, but the Coen brothers abide; I'm
still transfixed by David Lean's cinematography; almost anything
with Daniel Day-Lewis; Ken Burns and Werner Herzog. I know it's not
quite the same, but William Kentridge's animations blow my mind.
Steve McQueen's Hunger is the only film I finished and then
immediately watched all over again. I still sing aloud to Cabaret.
I loved Birdman.
TV: The Daily Show; BBC News; Arrested Development; The Wire; Mad
Men; Homeland; 30 Rock (at least the earlier seasons).
Music: Ugghh! Okay, The Clash and Leonard Cohen; Massive Attack and
Sibelius' Violin Concerto; Linton Kwesi Johnson and MGMT; Nina
Simone and Shaggy (oh hell yeah!); Jay-Z and The Jam; Miles Davis
and Tom Waits; Vampire Weekend and Rachmaninoff's Piano Concerto
#2; Lily Allen and… this is silly.
Food: I love good and interesting food, whether in a
Michelin-starred restaurant or from the back of a truck, with a
small preference for the latter.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Six? Six! You’re joking, right? Okay, here are some:
Spontaneous dinner parties with good friends, heated conversations,
great meals, and the liberal flowing of fine wine (and that's one
thing!); the Oxford Comma; interesting challenges; Wikipedia; my
morning coffee(s); LES burlesque; NPR; small left-turn reef breaks
on a longboard; the Central Park loop; the small of a woman’s back;
my 9" santoku; Hendricks and cucumber; Pandora…
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Plotting universal domination, probably after a drink. Maybe even
two. Otherwise, I'm probably knitting.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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The more I use divices that correkt my spelling the worse my
spelling becomes, and it's happening disconcertingly quickly.
You should message me if
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Send me a message if something I've written attracts you, intrigues
you, annoys you, amuses you, confuses you, or simply doesn't make
I have a very definite preference for real as opposed to virtual
relationships. If it seems like we might gel, I will want some
face-to-face time fairly soon.
Also, to preempt the large number of messages this little fib seems
to have elicited - or isn't that the point? - no, I don't really
knit. Please feel free to message me anyway if you thought that
might have been your in. I promise I'll be nice.
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