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Safferboy

44 Durham, NC Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32–46
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:32am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Fit
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
Rather not say
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Okay), French (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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When we meet you would likely first ask me where I am from, so let’s get that out of the way now. I was born and grew up in South Africa; moved with my family to Toronto in my teens; grad. school in California with some random bouts in London and Rome; and I lived in New York for 9 years before taking a job last year in North Carolina. That’s why I talk funny. Good, now we can move on.

I have a dry, mischievous and somewhat filthy sense of humor though I tend more to chuckling and nodding appreciatively.

I choose to be a gentleman. Mostly.

I like to both give and receive affection.

I am irreverent and committed to the idea that rules are best treated as suggestions. I break them when they seem silly.

My heroes, in different spheres and no particular, order include Nelson Mandela, Sir Bernard Katz, Joe Strummer, my grandmother, Kenny Dalglish, Henri Cartier-Bressson, and Alice Waters.

I am smart and engaged and absent minded and goofy; I am tolerant and nonjudgmental but I have strong opinions and am not shy about sharing them; I am athletic and intense and mellow and often very clumsy.

I NTP.

I roll my own pasta.

I use humor as my shield. Let me let you through and you will find a deeply sensitive, fiercely loyal, kind, and generous friend for life.

I am trying to find another word with which to start my sentences.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Neuroscientist lucky enough to be able to do what I love and love what I do. I work hard and I am good at what I do, but it doesn't define me. Well, it doesn't wholly define me. Fine, it does, but still. Anyway. I spend most of my social time with my nucleus of non-science friends because, in general, they're better-dressed, finer-dining and harder-drinking.

Preferred forms of masochism presently include, but are not limited to, triathlons and muddy adventure races.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing the funny side.

Engaging fully.

I am curious, sometimes patient, and a little obsessive but not compulsive. I appreciate the finer things and I have a rudimentary understanding of physics and chemistry. Put these together and you get a pretty spectacular cook. Mainly though, I'm cripplingly modest.

Spooning (mainly but not exclusively big).

I can take a decent photograph.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Usually it's the flight of angels throwing rose petals beneath my feet as I walk in. Sometimes it's my posse. Or my ankle monitor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Midnight's Children; Atonement; The Structure of Scientific Revolutions; Waiting for the Barbarians; Griffin and Sabine; Janson's History; On Food and Cooking; Advice for a Young Investigator; The Visual Display of Quantitative Information. Coming Through Slaughter is my favorite book of all time.

Movies: I don't see that many, but the Coen brothers abide; I'm still transfixed by David Lean's cinematography; almost anything with Daniel Day-Lewis; Ken Burns and Werner Herzog. I know it's not quite the same, but William Kentridge's animations blow my mind. Steve McQueen's Hunger is the only film I finished and then immediately watched all over again. I still sing aloud to Cabaret. I loved Birdman.

TV: The Daily Show; BBC News; Arrested Development; The Wire; Mad Men; Homeland; 30 Rock (at least the earlier seasons).

Music: Ugghh! Okay, The Clash and Leonard Cohen; Massive Attack and Sibelius' Violin Concerto; Linton Kwesi Johnson and MGMT; Nina Simone and Shaggy (oh hell yeah!); Jay-Z and The Jam; Miles Davis and Tom Waits; Vampire Weekend and Rachmaninoff's Piano Concerto #2; Lily Allen and… this is silly.

Food: I love good and interesting food, whether in a Michelin-starred restaurant or from the back of a truck, with a small preference for the latter.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Six? Six! You’re joking, right? Okay, here are some:

Spontaneous dinner parties with good friends, heated conversations, great meals, and the liberal flowing of fine wine (and that's one thing!); the Oxford Comma; interesting challenges; Wikipedia; my morning coffee(s); LES burlesque; NPR; small left-turn reef breaks on a longboard; the Central Park loop; the small of a woman’s back; my 9" santoku; Hendricks and cucumber; Pandora…
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Puns.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Plotting universal domination, probably after a drink. Maybe even two. Otherwise, I'm probably knitting.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The more I use divices that correkt my spelling the worse my spelling becomes, and it's happening disconcertingly quickly.
You should message me if
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Send me a message if something I've written attracts you, intrigues you, annoys you, amuses you, confuses you, or simply doesn't make any sense.

I have a very definite preference for real as opposed to virtual relationships. If it seems like we might gel, I will want some face-to-face time fairly soon.

Also, to preempt the large number of messages this little fib seems to have elicited - or isn't that the point? - no, I don't really knit. Please feel free to message me anyway if you thought that might have been your in. I promise I'll be nice.