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Safferboy

44 New York, NY Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32–46
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:00am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Okay), French (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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What makes me so special? Well, I don't really know. I actually think I’m just like every other South-African-born, Canadian-raised, California-educated, inner-borough-preferring, neuroscience-studying, pinko liberal, atheist Jew, epicurean, ex-rugby-playing, meterosexual, art-loving, surfing dude you’re likely to meet.

I have a dry, mischievous and somewhat filthy sense of humor. I tend more to chuckling and nodding appreciatively.

I am irreverent and committed to the idea that rules are best treated as suggestions; I break them when they seem silly.

I choose to be a gentleman. Mostly.

I like to both give and receive affection.

My heroes, in different spheres and no particular, order include Nelson Mandela, Sir Bernard Katz, Joe Strummer, my grandmother, Kenny Dalglish, Henri Cartier-Bressson, and Alice Waters.

I am smart and engaged and absent minded and goofy; I am tolerant and nonjudgmental but I have strong opinions and am not shy about sharing them; I am athletic and intense and mellow and often very clumsy...

I NTP.

I roll my own pasta.

I am trying to find another word with which to start my sentences.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Neuroscientist lucky enough to be able to do what I love and love what I do. I work hard and I am good at what I do, but it doesn't define me. Well, it doesn't wholly define me. Fine, it does, but still. Anyway, I spend most of my social time with my nucleus of non-science friends because, in general, they're better-dressed, finer-dining and harder-drinking.

Preferred forms of masochism presently include, but are not limited to, triathlons and muddy adventure races.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Engaging fully.

Seeing the funny side.

I am curious, sometimes patient, a little obsessive but not compulsive, I very much appreciate the finer things, and I have a rudimentary understanding of physics and chemistry. Put these together and you get a pretty spectacular cook. Mainly though, I'm cripplingly modest.

Spooning (mainly but not exclusively big).

I take a decent photograph.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Usually it's the flight of angles throwing rose petals beneath my feet as I walk in. Sometimes it's my posse. Or my ankle monitor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Midnight's Children; Atonement; The Structure of Scientific Revolutions; Waiting for the Barbarians; Griffin and Sabine; Janson's History; On Food and Cooking; Advice for a Young Investigator; The Visual Display of Quantitative Information. Coming Through Slaughter is my favorite book of all time.

Movies: I don't see that many, but the Coen brothers abide; I'm still transfixed by David Lean's cinematography; almost anything with Daniel Day-Lewis; Ken Burns and Werner Herzog. I know it's not quite the same, but William Kentridge's animations blow my mind. Steve McQueen's Hunger is the only film I finished and then immediately watched all over again. I just saw Birdman and loved it!

TV: The Daily Show; BBC News; Arrested Development; The Wire; Mad Men; Homeland; 30 Rock (at least the earlier seasons).

Music: Ugghh! Okay, The Clash and Leonard Cohen; Massive Attack and Sibelius' Violin Concerto; Linton Kwesi Johnson and MGMT; Nina Simone and Shaggy (oh hell yeah!); Jay-Z and The Jam; Miles Davis and Tom Waits; Vampire Weekend and Rachmaninoff's Piano Concerto #2; Lily Allen and…

Food: I love good and interesting food, whether in a Michelin-starred restaurant or from the back of a truck, with a small preference for the latter. I am on a serious ramen kick right now.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Six? Six! You’re joking, right? Okay, here are some:

Spontaneous dinner parties with good friends, heated conversations, great meals, and the liberal flowing of fine wine (and that's one thing!); the Oxford Comma; interesting challenges; Wikipedia); NPR; my morning coffee(s); LES burlesque; small left-turn reef breaks on a longboard; the Central Park loop; the small of a woman’s back; my 9" santoku; Hendricks and cucumber; Pandora…
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm continuously impressed by just how good OkC's algorithms are. If we're 90+ things will be good. On the other hand, if you say that one of the things you cannot do without is the Grace of Christ and you have not yet surmised that I am a pinko atheist Jew, then please, please, please, trust the numbers!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Plotting universal domination, probably after a drink. Maybe even two. Otherwise, I'm probably knitting.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I shot a man in Reno just to watch him die.

Also, a very good friend and close work colleague recently called me a diva. I can see his point.
You should message me if
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Send me a message if something I've written attracts you, intrigues you, annoys you, amuses you, confuses you, or simply doesn't make any sense.

I have a very definite preference for real as opposed to virtual relationships. If it seems like we might gel, I will want some face-to-face time fairly soon.

Also, to preempt the large number of messages this little fib seems to have elicited - or isn't that the point? - no, I don't really knit. Please feel free to message me anyway if you thought that might have been your in. I promise I'll be nice.