Also, while I do not expect to find someone whose interests match mine 100%, there are some big areas of my life that mean a lot of me - my writing, my games and my games-creating, music, science fiction and fantasy.... I need a relationship with someone who accepts these things and at least finds them of interest. If they hold no interest for you to the point you're closed-minded about them and I feel like I cannot share them, but I have to be interested in the things that make YOU happy, then please move on right now. I'm here to share and learn, not to have my interests and my spirit ground down because someone wants me to sublimate my needs for theirs. Sorry to have this at the start of my profile, but this is extremely important.
Two years ago I moved to Milwaukee, WI, starting my life over and wanting to do it right, and I'd love to find someone special to share the good times with. I've been burned badly in the past, emotionally and financially, but I have not given up hope. I still dream.
I am 5'6", have long wavy brown hair and brown eyes. Working on my weight and fitness.
First off, I am a serious geek boy - science fiction, fantasy, comics (when I can afford them). I read, watch and write it (and trying to get published as well!). I've been rated QLBM by the The Social Persona test. However, I have eccelctic interests beyond the geeky - bowling, woodcrafting, walks, stargazing, cooking, dancing, theater, museums, live baseball (once in a while anyway), mini golf, board and card games, music, dogs (and I have some tolerance of cats if they are friendly and their home is clean). I've even been a volunteer official for a women's roller derby league, though I can't skate.
Things outside of my hobbies that are important to me:
You must have a sense of humor and an imagination!!! Smart and witty are sexy!
I am seeking someone who is not into playing games with emotions, someone who is honest, someone who is not a drama queen. It's one thing to have problems, even big tough ones that cause stress, but it's another thing to make every little thing its own soap opera!
Body type I am totally flexible on. I don't mind if you're fit and athletic or a homebody with some padding. A pretty face, a warm smile, a sharp wit and a good heart are what I need most. Goth or alternative decor like piercings and tatoos are ok, I've come to appreciate them even if they aren't my own personal style. I have no preference for hair color or skin color - white, black, latino, asian, native american, green with purple spots from Mars (actually, that would be kinda cool...)
I am liberal (an independent), non-religious with a Jewish background. I don't mind if you have beliefs of your own (Christian, Jewish, Pagan, Flying Spaghetti Monster, whatever), as long as you don't expect me to take second place to your relationship with God or expect me to live my life according to your beliefs. If you list God, Jesus or Faith in your "six things you can't do without," please look elsewhere.
I don't smoke or do drugs. I have not touched alcoholic drinks in over ten years, but I am considering allowing myself to try a little wine or home-brewed concoctions on special occasions once again. (My not-drinking was just a personal decision; I am not an alcoholic - hell, I've never even been drunk!) I need someone who also does not smoke (not even 420 - I can't stand the smell and taste, never mind the legal concerns). Light social drinking is okay as long as that's all it is; if you feel a need to get smashed on a regular basis, I want no part of it.
This next part I am always nervous about, but I need to be honest about it: I am not looking to have kids of my own and after too many bad experiences I would prefer to be involved with a woman who does not have children either. If you have children and they are all grown, or at least college age, that's okay, that's an age range I can relate with. But younger than that, I've just had far too much difficulty. So if you are looking for someone to be a new father figure, your best bet is to look elsewhere. Even if you just want me to be a friend, I'm just too soured on it by the experiences I've had. Nothing personal against you, or even against your children. It's just something I am painfully aware that I do not have in me.
Now, if you're still reading...
I am heteroflexible (95% straight, flexible but picky on the rest). I have a healthy libido and like to try things, and do not care for prudish types. (I have my own limits and comfort zones, of course, but I tend to be open-minded more about sex than I am about, say, food. "Calamari? Turnips? Head cheese? EW... You want me to put what in where?? Ok!")
A note on this: I am also a very loyal lover, and honest. So if you have concerns that my not being 100% heterosexual means you won't be "enough" for me, or if my minimal involvement with men in the past shocks or angers you or otherwise makes you uncomfortable - don't even try talking to me. Don't waste my time. Just don't bother. I am not here to be judged or evaluated in that regard. I am what I am. There's nothing wrong with me, I don't need "help" or "saving" or "changing", nor am I "undecided." End of speech.
All I can think of to say here. If you have questions, please feel free to ask me. If I haven't scared you off by now, then maybe you're ready to take a flight of fancy together?