Quote from my best friend "The only thing bigger than your tits is your heart." I try to live up to that as best I can.
Hi everyone ^^ I am bi/pansexual, femme-ish but not really into the gender binary all that much, I'm fat and I like my food (but I eat fairly moderately), I make no apologies for who I am or my body and I'm very into body-positive, fat-positive and size-positive politics (if I were a country singer, I'd be called Fingerlickin' Big Bessie Smalls :D). If I don't want to fuck you I don't want to fuck you, but that's the only context in which your appearance means anything to me. I believe in the power of love, friendship, fun, baby animals, rainbows, icecream, cheese toasties and cthulhu. I like the rain but not when it's really cold (not a fan of pneumonia*).
I am a sex-positive liberal/heavily socialist leaning feminist and am strongly opposed to censorship. The most important part of my politics is that everyone has a right to ownership of their body, and I consider the rights, including autonomy as well as protection, of children to be very important (but not in a "won't somebody please think of the children?" kind of way, I don't agree with banning porn because kids might see it, don't agree with censoring old children's cartoons for stereotyping/cigarettes/etc.). I am an atheist and not religious (though I do have something of a spiritual side, but it's not a major part of my life, just something that I don't close myself off from, as I simply cannot personally conceptualize all my experiences in purely "material" terms, even though I have a basic understanding of the science involved, it's kind of like how the placebo effect can be so powerful that some people can have a headache and take a sugar pill and know it's a sugar pill and then it can still relieve the pain, if that makes sense?). I like animation and comics from around the world, I enjoy anime but am beyond sick of all the heavily sexualized teenage girl worship in it. It's hella creepy -_-. Also annoyed by all the stupid shows with generic as fuck dialogue about "I want to protect blah blah blah." Easy sentiment sucks. I love reading dearly, I game very occasionally but it's not a big interest of mine, I like to cook and am a total music addict. I have a passion for writing but don't do much of it and enjoy doing visual art every now and then (I particularly enjoy working with glitter glue, because sparkles). I want to do more visual art because I find it more calming than writing. I don't drink, smoke or take drugs but have no problem with those who do. While I am not vegan or vegetarian and suck at "ethical consumerism" I think the way animals are treated in industrialized meat and dairy/egg production is horrific and it breaks my heart.
I'm looking to make emotional connections with people, I'm not interested in "meet-shag-leave" type arrangements. Basically I want someone to hold me and tell me everything's going to be alright. I am hoping to have a long term relationship, whether polyamorous, open or maybe monogamous (I am skeptical about monogamy, I think it is probably not for me) and settle down eventually (though I remain unconvinced that marriage is something I really want to do), but I'm open to forming close friendships which involve sexual intimacy without a romantic element as well, as long as we like, love and trust each other. The healthiest long term sexual relationship I have had thus far has been of this type, so it is possible to make work in my experience. I have been in a polyamorous relationship before and there were a lot of things I loved about that as well, so it is not purely theoretical for me. I currently have a close friend who I have sex with every now and then, and I'm not really very keen to give a good thing up, so unless you're OK with that move along. And just 'cause I'm a fat chick doesn't mean I don't have standards so if you're not going to stay in regular contact and actually show up when we arrange to meet, are selfish in bed, or are just looking for a hole to ejaculate into please kindly fuck off.
*though I do think that Diphtheria's second album is really underrated.