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31 F Dallas, TX

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My Details

Last Online
Today – 10:45am
5′ 11″ (1.81m)
Body Type
Dropped out of high school
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Has dogs
English (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Yeah, I'm married. It's an open marriage. Doesn't mean I'm going to fuck you. Just means I can if I want. My wife doesn't mind. I could love you too if I felt like it, but let's not get ahead of ourselves.

Who/what am I?

• Queer in every sense of the word and generally androgynous with the occasional foray into masculinity or femininity to whatever extent I find agreeable. It fluctuates. If that freaks you out, these aren't the droids you're looking for. Move along.

• The internet assures me that the word for what I am is "transfeminine", but I'd rather just identify as "Starbuck". I suppose genderqueer is an adequate descriptor. Female pronouns, please.

• I'm polyamorous and I fly solo in that regard. Unicorn hunting is best left to creepy swingers with failing marriages. I'm open to most any situation, so long as it's honest, transparent, and respectful.

• I'm religiously unaffiliated, though I've recently experienced satori. "A thunderclap under the clear blue sky." indeed. I find myself identifying more and more strongly with Buddhism.
What I’m doing with my life
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• Growing my knowledge and understanding, empathetic capacity, communicative prowess, and social functioning. These things are paramount. Interactions between people are more important than anything; especially western civilization's fetish for collecting... stuff. I don't suspect my last words will be, "Remember that cool stuff I had?"

• Developing autonomy and spreading it around to the best of my ability. We are all capable of a greater degree of self-determination than I think anyone realizes. The vast majority of us go cradle to grave doing what we're told by the blind leading the blind. Disengagement from cultural inertia is necessary before one can experience anything truly interesting.

• Learning the value of refraining from intellectualizing everything. Visceral experience is pure. Language is subjective and clumsily applied through the narrow lens of individual thought. It can certainly be amusing, but thinking should never eclipse the act of being.

• Paying credence to that which I can't explain. Throwing data out because it doesn't jive with one's worldview is a recipe for ignorance.

• Working to achieve a constant state of Miyazaki-inspired ethics.

Bonus Round!

If I survive the year, it seems pretty well decided that I'll be fleeing the horrible social climate of Texas for the horrible job market of the PNW. Gonna Grapes of Wrath it up to WA and if everything goes tits up, it's expat time. Always have a backup plan.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.

Making bullet point lists like this is a shitty PowerPoint presentation!

Answering this question myself was an obvious conflict of interest, so I deferred to NerdyIdjit. According to her, I am really good at (more bullet points incoming!):

• Guitar — Eh. I'm okay.
• Writing — I have been told countless times by countless people to write a book.
• Fucking — My Hitachi and I once changed a gal's name to "Squirt". It stuck. True story. She's a sweetheart too. <3
• Laughing — Like an idiot.
• Giving a fuck — There are certainly things which one should give a fuck about. Mostly people, though.
• Not giving a fuck — I call it being centered, personally.
• Riding motorcycles — I have enough situational awareness that no matter how hard anyone has ever tried to run me over, they have never succeeded, so I guess this one is legit.
• Concocting bizarre organizational systems — I actually have a drawer labeled "oil change type shit" in my garage. Doesn't seem bizarre to me. *shrug*
• Acting like everything's kosher when I'm bleeding everywhere because I wasn't intelligent enough to wear shoes in the garage/gloves when grinding/etc. — Oops. (New addition! Running a wire wheel without eye protection. Ouch.)
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm tall, tattooed, usually have neon red hair, and nobody can step to my awkwardness game. I'm considering going pro. My sparkle pink helmet gets a lot of comments, so that's probably up there on the list. Someone told me I looked like Rosie the riveter the other day, but to be fair, I was wearing military coveralls while fixing an ambulance.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books — Scientific journals, technical manuals, philosophy, and political theory. Anthropological case studies are always good for reinforcing my beliefs. Granted, I cherry pick them. What can I say? I'm human.

Movies — America makes amusing cult classics, but foreign is always better.

Shows — The ambiguously gay duo in "Sherlock" put a smile on my face. "Top Gear" (the British one) and "Adventure Time" make me happy. I have PB's shirt. I'm currently watching "ST:TNG". Riker's beard was long overdue by the end of season one.

Music — Think unapologetic hipster and throw in some '70s funk. I've actually been listening to a lot of noire soundtracks lately. Atmospheric jazz is good bedtime shit.

Food — I like going to taco shacks in Oak Cliff to eat carnitas off greasy fiberglass tables after midnight.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.

• Literacy — The internet could make functional geniuses of a generation if they'd use it to learn instead of argue. There is so much freely available information at our fingertips it boggles the mind.

• Critical Thought — Quiet contemplation yields better answers than reactive responses. I like to consider meaningful subjects for days before I'm satisfied with my conclusions.

• Inspiration — Existentialism requires a certain je ne sais quoi to avoid reverting to nihilism. However it comes along is fine, so long as it makes an appearance from time to time.

• Friendship — I'm in the process of rejoining humanity after a lengthy, self-imposed stint as a hermit, and I'm finding myself very much enjoying the company of like-minds.

• Decency — Don't be a douche. Nobody likes a douche. Learn people's preferences and respect them. Pay attention when they try to educate you. Don't be dismissive.

• Communication — People talk quite a bit without saying anything. Nothing is so profound as when two people manage to wield language in such a way as to experience true communion between their subjective experiences.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.

• Difficulties in self-awareness, cognitive bias, subjectivity, and the unreliable narrator exemplified by each & every one of us.

• The pervasive overreach of countless power structures and how to peacefully and effectively circumvent them.

• Collecting experiences.

• Being worthwhile.

• Übermenschdom. (Is that a word? It is now.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?

• Listening to Wu-Tang Clan and working on my bike until 4:00AM.

• Packing and prepping for a road trip to "The Devil's Highway".

• Taking old friends out for Chinese food in Albuquerque after a 12 hour day of spectacular riding.

• Reading Chomsky to the tune of Wilco Radio on Pandora while I stuff granola in my face like a filthy hippie.

• Lying on my ass in front of an air conditioner as Facebook peels hours off the clock, because sometimes I need a break.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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With the mighty boot of prejudice firmly upon my neck, I have been rendered fiscally inert. It's a shame gas can't be found in the trash.
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