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35 San Antonio, TX Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Feb 9
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Trying to quit
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Working on two-year college
Mostly non-monogamous
Has kids, and might want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Korean (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Momma raised a real good man and not only am I going to tell you what makes me a real good man but I’m also going to tell you how to get one of your own. I’m a father and when my dad found out that I was going to have a son he told me “Real good men aren’t born; they’re raised.” Keeping this in mind has allowed me to stay focused as a father and as a result I have been raising my own “real good man”.

My dad is a real good man: very ambitious and works harder than any man I know but as a result he wasn’t home a lot when I was growing up so I spent most of my time with my mom and three sisters. My dad’s family is all women, he’s the only man, and my mom has four sisters and one brother. I was raised around women who loved me and would let me know when I was falling short of being a real good man. As a result women are attracted to me and guys like being around me.

You can spot a real good man by how he treats himself and others. A man might open the door for you but did he keep the door open for the people coming in behind you? When dinner is over does he stack the dishes so it’s easier for the waitress to clean up? Did he leave an adequate tip? You’ll be able to spot the good man (that’s me) and avoid the bad men if you pay attention to the effect he has on those around him and how he cares for other people.

Because you are reading this online you’re not in the position to notice the way I treat others so I’m going to give you something to go on. I’m the type of man who defends his country, graduates college, and is raising a successful son and daughter. Because I am the good man my parents raised me to be I give them pride. My advice, based on my education, has helped many friends and family, and my children are having the childhood most adults wish they had. I strive to have a positive impact on those around me. . . and yes, I’m the man who keeps the door open for the old couple behind us, stacks the dishes for the waitress, and leaves a tip that reflects my appreciation for her work.

If you’re major problems finding Mr. Right (that’s me) that’s because your filtering mechanism needs an overhaul. What I mean is that: I, being a guy, have an approach mechanism and you have a filtering mechanism. If my approach mechanism was faulty I would suffer approach anxiety which is nervousness when approaching attractive women (that’s you). However, if your filtering mechanism is faulty you are either always searching and never date or you find yourself always dating or being attracted to the wrong men. Either way you can’t find Mr. Right (that’s me).

You filter men through tests. I know because I am tested by women all the time. You give tests for compliancy for example: On our first date I take you Salsa Dancing. You later say “wait right here, I’m going to the bathroom”. I’m not going to wait. I will tell you, for example, to meet me at the bar when you’re finished. You want a man who is confident (not c0cky). Many men fake confidence because they know that’s what you want. But you have a test for that too. You are going to do things like tease me, insult me, and turn your back on me to see how I will react. When you do I will either ignore the insult or turn the tables by making you think I interpreted your snide remark as sexual innuendo (now that is something funny to watch). Either way, the night is going to turn out great for us both.

So, why am I telling you this? Because I realize that you can’t test me, or any man, on an online dating site. When I took Psychology in college I learned that communication is 55% body language, 38 % vocal tone of voice, and only 7 % spoken words. In other words: you can’t use your best judgment to find a real good man when you’re only receiving 7 % of the information you need to make a judgment.

I enjoy success in many aspects of my life and that includes success with women apart from the internet. That being said, I’m only going to have this profile up for a week then I’m taking it down. A friend of mine said “don’t knock it ‘till you try it.” So, here I am. What exactly am I looking for? One of the great things I like about people is getting to know them. So, if you want to know me you know what you should do.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm going to school full time for electrical engineering but I am thinking of changing my major. To what? I don't know but I have found that I really enjoy psychology, sociology, writing, and comparative religion. I was writing a book on apologetics. I wrote about 200 pages and had to trash it as college has broadened my perspective. So, I'm going to rewrite it after getting more educated so that it has my intended effect. Now I am writing a book on premarital relationships and their progression into successful marriages. As you can probably tell: I write and study a lot and I want my partner and my friends to have things that they are passionate about.
I’m really good at
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I have many things that I am good at. I am a neuro linguistic programming practitioner and enjoy studying what make people tick.

Other things I'm good at are soccer, I played in high school and still play when I can;

Latin dancing (Salsa, Merengue, Bachata, Punta) I used to go about every week until school started;

Saxophone. I played since 5th grade but recently lost it in the move but I bought my son one and I play his;

Computers. Including computer repair, web design, application development, and organizing the hell out of all the crap I have on my laptop.

Martial arts. I have my second degree black belt in Tae-Kwon-Do and hold several other belts in several other styles including Shorin-ryu, Isshinryu, LINES jujitsu (military), hapkido, and studies some Gracie jujitsu in the military. I was also the head hand-to-hand combat instructor for the 102nd MI BN in South Korea.

Magic. How I got into magic is a long story but I love performing in bars, parties, on the bus line and just about everywhere. It's a great way to meet people and I like to entertain.

Paintball. My son and I own all our own equipment and it's an awesome sport. If you've never been paint balling and you would like to go leave me a message. We're always looking for new people.

Apologetics. I've been studying Christian apologetics since about 2002. If you ask me why I believe what I believe I will never tell you "because the Bible says so." My faith is based on evidences in science, astronomy, philosophy, history, archaeology, and math. A word on this: you do not have to be Christian for me to date you and I will never push my beliefs on anyone else. I believe that what happens to people when they die is their responsibility and not mine. I have many friends from many religions and they will all tell you how much they enjoy talking about religion with me. I will date you rather or not you're Wicca, atheist, Hindu, Buddhist, or Muslim. Doesn't matter to me. I enjoy diversity and do not conciser myself an authority figure on the subject however I am very knowledgeable.

Sociology and Psychology. Took classes in college and loved it. These classes, especially sociology, really opened my eyes to a lot of things that are going on around me and helped expand my sociological imagination. I notice thing, especially in advertising, that most people don't notice.

Studying. I pretty much study anything that I'm interested in and I'm one of those people that if someone gives me information I usually have to look it up for myself. The good thing about this is if were talking and you have something that you are passionate about then I will most definitely look it up and soon be able to hold a decent conversation with you about it. I absolutely love learning.

And finally, I am a good father. I am a really good father and have raised really good kids. I have made it my mission to teach them everything I know to ensure they will be happy, health, productive members of society. Both of my kids are on honor roll every quarter and my son has only brought home one B. Both do volunteer work and are involved with their school and church with my son being elected as class president. They have manners and they respect their elders. They have many friends from all walks of life and do not discriminate. They have a solid belief in God and an appreciation for their country. The thing I am most proud of is that their mother and I have done this and they are genuinely happy.

Note: I have a son and a daughter, 14 and 13 receptively, and their mother and I separated in October of 2011. They do not live with me but I am very active in their lives and their mother and I have been working well together to raise them.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My energy. Yep, I'm a lively one. Not always, I'm not alway "on" but I do get in my moods and when I do it's usually the first thing people notice about me. I love people and can talk to anyone without having any discernible reason. I especially talk to people I feel need someone to talk to and I'm really good at getting closed off people to open up. Let me give an example. I once saw a homeless guy shaking a cup begging for change while I was waiting on my bus at Broad St. and High St. I introduced myself and asked him how his day was going. He didn't answer. I then sat beside him and continued to talk to him telling him what I had been doing that day and how my family was doing. I tried to get him in on the conversation but was pretty much ignored. I saw my bus coming, thanked him for the conversation, and got up to walk away. After a few steps he called me by name and when I looked back he had tears in his eyes and just said "Thank you". I said "you're welcome" and walked to my bus.

I don't think many people understand the positive effects we can have on the lives of others if we just took the time to care. There's a flip side to this coin because if I see bad ass kids in a grocery store acting out I will tell the parent they need to whop that ass. They usually don't take it too well and I get mixed reactions.

My point is that people usually notice that I'm inquisitive and outgoing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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C.S. Lewis - Mere Christianity; Josh McDowell - The New Evidence That Demands a Verdict; Books by Lee Strobel, Os Guiness - In Two Minds

Neuro Linguistic Programming:
Howard Gardner - Changing Minds; Books by David J. Liberman; Books by David Bandler.


The Princess Bride, Spaceballs, Super Troopers, Tommy Boy, Hostel, Saw, Vile, The Girl Next Door (horror), Candy (horror).


Don't really watch T.V. except for news and documentaries.


The music I listen to really depends on my mood. The only genre I can't get into is modern country though I have an appreciation for older country but rarely listen to it i.e. Hank Williams Jr. and Sr., Loretta Lynn, Conway Twitty, George Jones.

You will usually find me listening to Tropical music like Salsa, Merengue, and Bachata. I also listen to American Electropop: LMAFO, Taio Cruz; Christian Rock: Emery, Decyfer Down; Alternative: Smashing Pumpkings, Alice in Chains; Hip-Hop and R&B: Usher, 112, Brian McKnight; and Rap: Eminem, Brotha Lynch Hung, Lil Wayne, and Ludacris.


I have very eclectic tastes and enjoy trying new foods as often as possible. Amoung the more exotic things I have tried are: Kagogi (dog) and boiled snail salad when I lived in South Korea.

I don't have one favorite food but I do have a favorite food in each category: Chinese - spicy orange chicken, Itilian - manicotti; Mexican - Garnachas; French - steak au poivre with lobster bisque; and Seafood - crab stuffed tilapia
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1.) God
2.) Family
3.) Friends
4.) My laptop
5.) A pen and paper
6.) My penis (Yep, I love being a guy)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How I perceive the world, the root of my perceptions, the effects of my perceptions, how to change the perceptions that have negative effects in order to change my actions to better both my life and the life of those in my world.

And "Where's the party at this weekend".
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
During school semesters I'm usually studying on Friday nights. But I try to go Salsa dancing a couple times a month. When on break I go Salsa dancing, out to Easton, go camping and/or have bonfires and of course I'm always looking for a good party.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a little shy. If you knew me that would shock you.

I'm a lighter thief. Don't let me use your lighter unless you have it attached to your hip by either a chain or some sort of string.

When I've interested you message me with questions or comments. If you take the time to message me I will take the time to respond.
You should message me if
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you feel the need. You can message me for any reason.

Especially message me if we have common interest or I interest you.