My dad is a real good man: very ambitious and works harder than any man I know but as a result he wasn’t home a lot when I was growing up so I spent most of my time with my mom and three sisters. My dad’s family is all women, he’s the only man, and my mom has four sisters and one brother. I was raised around women who loved me and would let me know when I was falling short of being a real good man. As a result women are attracted to me and guys like being around me.
You can spot a real good man by how he treats himself and others. A man might open the door for you but did he keep the door open for the people coming in behind you? When dinner is over does he stack the dishes so it’s easier for the waitress to clean up? Did he leave an adequate tip? You’ll be able to spot the good man (that’s me) and avoid the bad men if you pay attention to the effect he has on those around him and how he cares for other people.
Because you are reading this online you’re not in the position to notice the way I treat others so I’m going to give you something to go on. I’m the type of man who defends his country, graduates college, and is raising a successful son and daughter. Because I am the good man my parents raised me to be I give them pride. My advice, based on my education, has helped many friends and family, and my children are having the childhood most adults wish they had. I strive to have a positive impact on those around me. . . and yes, I’m the man who keeps the door open for the old couple behind us, stacks the dishes for the waitress, and leaves a tip that reflects my appreciation for her work.
If you’re major problems finding Mr. Right (that’s me) that’s because your filtering mechanism needs an overhaul. What I mean is that: I, being a guy, have an approach mechanism and you have a filtering mechanism. If my approach mechanism was faulty I would suffer approach anxiety which is nervousness when approaching attractive women (that’s you). However, if your filtering mechanism is faulty you are either always searching and never date or you find yourself always dating or being attracted to the wrong men. Either way you can’t find Mr. Right (that’s me).
You filter men through tests. I know because I am tested by women all the time. You give tests for compliancy for example: On our first date I take you Salsa Dancing. You later say “wait right here, I’m going to the bathroom”. I’m not going to wait. I will tell you, for example, to meet me at the bar when you’re finished. You want a man who is confident (not c0cky). Many men fake confidence because they know that’s what you want. But you have a test for that too. You are going to do things like tease me, insult me, and turn your back on me to see how I will react. When you do I will either ignore the insult or turn the tables by making you think I interpreted your snide remark as sexual innuendo (now that is something funny to watch). Either way, the night is going to turn out great for us both.
So, why am I telling you this? Because I realize that you can’t test me, or any man, on an online dating site. When I took Psychology in college I learned that communication is 55% body language, 38 % vocal tone of voice, and only 7 % spoken words. In other words: you can’t use your best judgment to find a real good man when you’re only receiving 7 % of the information you need to make a judgment.
I enjoy success in many aspects of my life and that includes success with women apart from the internet. That being said, I’m only going to have this profile up for a week then I’m taking it down. A friend of mine said “don’t knock it ‘till you try it.” So, here I am. What exactly am I looking for? One of the great things I like about people is getting to know them. So, if you want to know me you know what you should do.