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44 M Grand Rapids, MI

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Last Online
Apr 11
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
English (Fluently), Latin (Okay), Ancient Greek (Poorly), French (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm a pretty good guy. Smart, tech-savvy, artistic, overly educated. I'm a father to two tween kids. I'm a web developer. I am widowed, for about a year and a half.

I have a really hard time figuring out whether to be matter-of-fact and short, or rambling and clever, in these things. Silly or serious. Right now I'm going for short and matter-of-fact.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm at a stable place where I work, I'm at home with my kids in the evening, and I socialize a bit with some old friends from Back In The Day on weekends. I spent rather a lot of my time On The Internet, though not usually on OKC. I like to draw and sometimes sell my work. I'm hoping to move to a new apartment later this year. I don't have a lot of plans for the future other than that, but I may come up with some eventually. :)
I’m really good at
I'm a pretty good programmer, I've got a lot of odd knowledge squirrelled away from college, reading, and talking to smart friends. I'm good at drawing; I tend to draw fantasy art reminiscent of old tabletop RPG illustrations from the 70s, or farther back, pulp fiction illustration. With an emphasis on, as a friend of mine puts it, "Monsters and Naked Ladies."
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm a big guy with a beard and long hair in a ponytail. But probably the thing they notice most is my stylish, stylish fedora. (Kidding. Do not own fedora. Never have.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: _What It Is_ and _Picture This_ by Lynda Barry. _On Becoming An Artist_ by Ellen Langer. _Watchmen_. _Zothique_ by Clark Ashton Smith. The Fafhrd and Gray Mouser books by Fritz Leiber (which is where my username came from). Other swords & sorcery fiction. Fortean Times! I have a hundred plus hardcopy issues of Fortean Times. Some books I've come to love while reading through them with my kids include: The Hobbit. The Nanria books. The Earthsea books. The Prydain chronicles. L'Engle's Time Trilogy.

Webcomics! Something Positive, Questionable Content, Girls With Slingshots, Wapsi Square.

Music -- Mostly a random collection of music from my past, stuff I happened to get interested in or learn about from friends, plus a few other random discoveries. This includes the Beatles, Yes, R.E.M., Robyn Hitchcock, ABBA, Squirrel Nut Zippers, Thomas Dolby, Tenacious D, They Might Be Giants, Jethro Tull, Richard Thompson, Violent Femmes, Trip Shakespeare, Moxy Fruvous, Laibach, Tackhead, kind of a weird assortment of random things I heard about from friends. Lately I've been learning a little about things like trip-hop and electronica, and appreciating Massive Attack, Morcheeba, The Knife, Phaeleh, again, mostly a random collection of oddments.

Movies -- I don't see enough movies to have super favorites. :( Most recent ones I saw were Iron Man 3 and Avengers, both of which I thoroughly enjoyed.

Ooh, how bout RPGs? I like indie RPGs like Sorcerer, My Life With Master, Dungeon World (damn, those last two together sound kinky don't they?), Trollbabe, Dogs in the Vineyard, Breaking the Ice, other damned hippie games.

Shows: I barely watch TV these days cause I haven't bothered hooking up cable, so no current shows to watch. In the past I've enjoyed kids' shows like Adventure Time and Last of the Airbenders, and shows like House M.D, the Mentalist, and Bones, which we watched a lot when we lived with my father in law for a year. I've enjoyed a few episodes of Arrested Development, Flight of the Conchords, Archer, Metalocalypse, Dr. Katz.

Food: I'm kind of a least-common-denominator food person. I eat more junk food and fast food than anybody should, though I enjoy better fare when I can be bothered to get some.
The six things I could never do without
I'm going to take "things" overly-literally and go with inanimate concrete nouns here.

my car; my desk piled with random drawing and writing implements and paper; my computer (though a tablet could substitute in a pinch); a ready can or bottle of diet pop; sky lanterns
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I pay attention to left-wing and social justice stuff online. Though paying too much attention to politics makes me miserable, because America is a bit of a right-wing hellhole politically.

I like to learn about offbeat theories, like the idea that words' meanings are based on their sounds, or that humans are the result of hybridization between chimpanzees and pigs (no, seriously, there is a guy who believes that and argues for it cogently on the internet!)

I am always interested in the creative process, because I find it really hard to grasp.

I think about what I'm doing with my life, I think about my friends and family.

I have a lot of memories, some of which are painful or sad, that I think about, from time to time.
On a typical Friday night I am
Fridays are special for me, I'm usually nerding it out with one of my best friends, at a get together for Magic the Gathering or other games (I don't play MtG myself, but I like to hang out there anyway when they do)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I often feel like I'm barely holding together this whole "being a responsible adult" thing.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
If you're smart and kind and open-minded and goofy and liberal.