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41 F Oakland, CA

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5′ 3″ (1.60m)
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Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from masters program
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Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Depth junkie...I love most things transformational, from the personal to the planetary. I'm passionate about having a positive impact on people and eco. I'm looking for a very smart co-conspirator to enjoy the simple things in life, and play big with too.

One of my greatest pleasures is being matched in verbal repartee and play. With that said, what moves me to the core are~ quality relational experiences, feeling alive in my body, spiritual connection, awe in nature, singing, and just laying all of the work down and being.

I'm balanced between extroversion and introversion (omnivert?) but lean towards ENFP, an intuitive, depth oriented, ethical, extrovert.

I love thinking creatively with the people I love and then LIVING into those visions TOGETHER.
What I’m doing with my life
In everyday language, I'm running my own business as a psychotherapist, specializing in couples and sexuality work.

My work is guided by a life long love for the magic of interpersonal alchemy~ transforming lead into gold.

I love what I do and most of the time live my talk. I'm a grower and open to learning good influence.

I'm currently percolating on how to share my work with a wider tribe of people~ those who value love and pleasure, and living in socially, ecologically, and spiritually sustainable ways.
I’m really good at
Feminine insight and a great summer salad.
The first things people usually notice about me
I asked my friend to describe me and this is what she said...

"What stands out about you is that you have this delightful sparkling way of relating. You're truly responsive and expressive...
you really c o n n e c t. You also have a quick and dynamic intellect. You're learning new things all of the time, and you're putting them together in creative new ways. It's exciting talking to you, your fun! You're also authentic, really living into what you're talking about."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
An oldie, but one of my all time favorites
Women who Run with the Wolves
by Clarissa Pinkola Estes

A great book I'm in the midst of reading
Ecopsychology: Restoring the Earth,
Healing the Mind
by Theodore Roszak

The Hidden Spirituality of Men:
10 Archetypes of the Sacred Masculine
by Matthew Fox

And these days any books that offer liberating insights into men and women's primal differences, and the everyday ways that we can bring out the best in each other.

Music: Josh Garrels and India Arie are two of my favorite artists.
Paolo Nutini, Amos Lee, Sean Hayes, Mumford & Sons, Matisiyahu, Regina Spektor, John Legend & the Roots, Krishna Das, Jason Mraz are some other faves.

Music I grew up with and have a soft spot for: Van Morrison, Joni Mitchell, Jackson Browne, Fleetwood Mac, Billy Joel, and more. I grew up in a musical home and was a child of back to the land hippies, so the music of that time had a big impact on me.

Music I love to dance to: Old school Disco, R&B, naughty pop with strong rhythms. When I was coming of age disco was all the rave, and it rang my bell, still does.

Food: Lot's of organic kale!
Organic, local, mostly vegetarian, with a little ethical animal. I enjoy cooking for the people I love, and have a creative knack for healthy food with a unique twist.
The six things I could never do without
there aren't any THINGS I couldn't do without. There are ways of being that I couldn't live without...

Adventures in nature and opening to awe
Spiritual connection
Love centered sex positivity
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Where I'm going to travel next. I've been to some beautiful places, and am ripe for soooo much more!

Adventures that have moved me the most so far are...
Snorkeling off a tiny island in the Sea of Cortez amidst fluttering schools of rainbow fish and glowing sea anemones; basking in a naturally bioluminesent ocean hotspring on the shores of Baja while gazing at a sea of stars above...glowing below and glowing above, like floating in the cosmos; hiking perilous cliffs on a wild side of Maui, to a secret cove with surging brilliant turquoise waves crashing onto a vivid red sand beach; living in Tlapacoyan Mexico and gathering in the town square every dusk and sharing our day, laughing, and flirting...a true sense of village community.

Where do I want to adventure next?! I'm thinking about the Amazon Rainforest. Since I've been 12 I've sensed that I would spend time in indigenous cultures and wild places, and now feels like the time. Percolating on Bhutan too, it's supposed to be one of the happiest and most ecologically diverse places on the planet.

Other things I think about while I'm navigating the extra-ordinary wackiness of the modern world...

We work so hard in the west, and our cultural values are stressing people and planet to the max. Consequently we are facing so many social and ecological challenges. How can we create a powerful movement of people who prioritize nourishing ourselves and each other with the authentic joys of life, the pleasures that are truly sustainable? How can we wean ourselves from our addictions to consumerism and distraction, addictions that don't fulfill our deepest hungers. How do we make what matters most the center of our lives, and really LIVE sustainable love, pleasure, and happiness? How might we walk our talk and share the wisdom we glean in ways that inspire and encourage?
Wanna find out with me?
On a typical Friday night I am
Dancing to good music, resting and integrating the week, going to a gorgeously musical Jewish renewal shabbat with friends. During the weekends I like to head to the Ocean, the Redwoods, Point Reyes, and sometimes a local yoga or hotsprings retreat.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I connect with spirit on most days, on my own empowering and joyful terms.

A word about little people (kids)- I don't know what the future has in store for me, but I do know a few things. I already have a god son and niece who I love and love me. I have strong maternal instincts, but I am not craving the lifestyle of a parent, and I'm concerned about the serious ecological challenges we're facing. Deep care and responsibility for others has been core in my life for a long time. I need rest from the care taker role. I want to travel around the world to places of great natural, spiritual, and cultural beauty. Co-creating great love with the right man for me is what's most important to me, always has been. I'm meant to be with the one who lights up my heart, soul, and body the brightest.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 41–55
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're looking for lasting love, and were moved and inspired by what I shared. You want a co-conspirator who supports your visions and co-creates with you too!

You sense we could light each other up.

You're willing to take the time to become friends, get to know each other for real, and see what kind of alchemy and magic there is between us. You're deep and fun :-)

If you feel simpatico, and aren't sure if we're a romantic match, feel free to reach out. I'm open to new friends too.