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42 Oakland, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 41–55
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

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5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Not at all
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Depth junkie...I love most things transformational, from the intimate to the planetary. I'm passionate about having a positive impact on people's psyches, in relation to the sticky issues of life, love, and sexuality. I'm also deeply grounded. I'm looking for a deeply smart, wise, and emotionally mature old soul, to co-create a juicy life together.

Because I have been a psychotherapist for 18 years (yes, I started young) and done a tremendous amount of growth work, I absolutely need a man who has claimed his adult manhood, and is ready, willing, and able to protect and provide a woman with emotional stability. I don't need a rich man, or a man who hasn't suffered (in fact I have great respect for men who have the power to transform.) I DO need a man whose life and inner world are in good shape.

One of my greatest pleasures is transformation, and the way my whole sense of reality expands when I learn something new about intimate relating. I'm an innovative thinker and love to put together expansive ideas and share them. I'm playful, creative, and gifted in this way and love it when a man can play with me! There's nothing that makes me happier.

What moves me to the core is supporting each other to be our biggest selves, and doing it with sexy verve.

I'm an ENFP, an intuitive, depth oriented, ethical, extrovert. Of the extroverts, I am the most introverted, needing the most down time.

I love thinking and feeling creatively with who I love and then LIVING into our visions TOGETHER.

I'm imagining that we can totally be ourselves with each other. I'm imagining that we have the chemistry and passion for creating a loving sexy relationship, equaled by a passion for making the world a better place. I'm imagining that we will be each other's harbors of trust AND co-conspirators in adventure.
What I’m doing with my life
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In everyday language, I'm running my own business as a relational psychotherapist, specializing in couples and sexuality work.
My work is guided by a life long love for the magic of interpersonal alchemy~ transforming lead into gold. I'm passionate about helping people create lives and relationships that are sanctuaries of trust, honesty, play, and creative intimacy and eroticism. I'm passionate about helping people embrace their birthright to pleasure.

I love what I do and most of the time walk my talk. I absolutely love it when men have insight to share, it lights me up on every level.

I resonate most with those who value love, nourishing pleasure, wisdom, authenticity--- and living in socially, ecologically, and spiritually sustainable ways.
I’m really good at
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Feminine insight and receptivity.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I asked my friend to describe me and this is what she said...

"What stands out about you is that you have this delightful sparkling way of relating. You're truly responsive and expressive... you really c o n n e c t. You also have a quick and dynamic intellect. You're learning new things all of the time, and you're putting them together in brilliant and creative new ways. It's exciting and fun talking to you! You're also authentic, really living into what you're talking about."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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These days any books that offer liberating insights into men and women's primal differences, and the everyday ways that we can bring out the best in each other.

Music: Josh Garrels and India Arie are two of my favorite artists.
Paolo Nutini, Amos Lee, Sean Hayes, Mumford & Sons, Matisiyahu, Regina Spektor, Krishna Das, and Jason Mraz are some other faves.

Music I grew up with and have a soft spot for: Van Morrison, Joni Mitchell, Jackson Browne, Fleetwood Mac, Billy Joel, and more. I grew up in a musical home and was a child of back to the land hippies, so the music of that time had a big impact on me.

Music I love to dance to: Old school Disco, R&B, naughty pop with strong rhythms. When I was coming of age disco was all the rave, and it rang my bell, still does.

Food: Lot's of organic kale!
Organic, local, vegetables, fruits, nuts, and a little ethical animal. I enjoy cooking for the people I love, and have a creative knack for very healthy food that is delicious, and does not taste like deprivation in any way.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
there aren't any THINGS I couldn't do without. There are ways of being that I couldn't live without...

The magic of real connection
Laughter and play
Deep insights
Love & love centered sex positivity
Adventures in nature
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to cultivate more joy and love in my life. The process of taking responsibility to fully become the woman I'm meant to be...and trusting that that's the sure fire way to meet the man I'm meant to be with. New ways to contribute to the world in ways that nourish me and others. The new learning I'm doing. Where I want to travel, and when!

I've been to some beautiful places, inner and outer, and am ripe for soooo much more.

Adventures that have moved me the most so far are...
Snorkeling off of a tiny island in the Sea of Cortez amidst fluttering schools of rainbow fish and glowing sea anemones; basking in a naturally bioluminesent ocean hotspring on the shores of Baja while gazing at a sea of stars above...glowing below and glowing above, like floating in the cosmos; living in Tlapacoyan Mexico and gathering in the town square at dusk sharing our day, laughing, and flirting...a true sense of village community.

Other things I think about while I'm navigating the extra-ordinary wackiness of the modern world...

We work so hard in the west, and our cultural values are stressing people and planet to the max. Consequently we are facing so many social and ecological challenges. How can we create a powerful movement of people who prioritize nourishing ourselves and each other with the authentic joys of life, the pleasures that are truly sustainable? How can we wean ourselves from our addictions to work, consumerism and distraction, addictions that don't fulfill our deepest hungers. How do we make what matters most the center of our lives, and LIVE sustainable love, pleasure, and happiness? How might we walk our talk and share the wisdom we glean in ways that inspire and encourage? Wanna live into these questions and find out with me?

The kind of relationship I'm most drawn to is one in which we both support each other to fulfill our mission and dreams, and in which we challenge each other to grow and expand.

YOU deeply value psychological, spiritual, and body wisdom and have been engaged in meaningful growth in those realms for a l o n g time now. You have a gifted smart way with words and are very insightful. You can teach me new things, and it would give you great pleasure to! You also value embodied pleasure and passion and put energy into cultivating and sustaining them. You're doing work that you feel meant to do; it contributes to a better world and supports you back. You have a desire to travel and a desire to share in loving community at home. You enjoy Jewish culture or are willing to discover what is joyful and juicy about it (and let go of the undeniable mishegas). You are ready to share a wise, joyful, and sustainable life with a beloved. You want to be with YOUR woman.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Dancing to good music, resting and integrating the week, going to a gorgeous musical Jewish renewal shabbat with friends. In the future, creating some kinda wonderful with my man.

During the weekends I like to curl up with a good book, go to the Ocean, the Redwoods, Point Reyes, and sometimes a local yoga or hotsprings retreat.

I also can not deny, I'm an unrepentant lover of learning. I need a man who loves the brainy chics. I am inexorably drawn to workshops on masculinity, femininity, relationships, and sexuality- with the brilliant teachers, and I don't think this healthy addiction is going away anytime soon. I'm studying to be a goddess of eros and wisdom and I want a man who unambivalently WANTS a woman like that.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I connect with spirit on most days, on my own personal and empowering terms. My connection with spirit infuses my life with a sense of gratitude and magic.

On Location: I would overwhelmingly prefer to meet someone in the Bay Area. This is where I've made my home for the past 20 years. With that said, a great love is what's most important to me, and I want to be with the man who is so right for me, I'd be willing to follow him anywhere. I'm grounded, and secretly deeply romantic.
You should message me if
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You're looking for lasting love, and were moved to the core by what I shared. You want to co-create an altruistic and joyful life together, and help make each other's personal and professional dreams come true. You want to make intimate magic.

You're willing to take the time to become friends, get to know each other for real, and see what kind of alchemy there is between us. You're honest and fun.