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42 Oakland, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 35–55
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
May 3
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body type
Mostly vegan
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Depth junkie...I love most things transformational, from the intimate to the planetary. I'm looking for a deeply smart, emotionally perceptive man, to walk the path with and co-create a juicy and spiritually meaningful life together. I am animal and angel and desire a man who knows he is too, and is devoted to bringing out the best of both.

Because I'm an independent, out of the box, and accomplished woman I love a man who can really see me, and helps me flourish and shine. Because I have a little girl inside too, I love a man who I feel deeply safe with, and who protects me when I need it.

Men who are honest, and offer chivalry from their authenticity, are my favorite.

Rich playful intimacy has a spiritual and cosmic feel to me, like heaven and earth joined. I've discovered that when a man enjoys this kind of cosmic & earthy play as much as I do, magical things happen

I'm an ENFP, an intuitive, depth oriented, ethical, and sensitive extrovert. I feel deeply. Of the extroverts, I'm the most introverted, needing the most down time to reflect, and renew.

I'm imagining that we can totally be ourselves with each other. I'm imagining that we support each other to move from our deepest desires. I'm imagining that you enjoy being the grounded solid masculine to my fluid flowing feminine. I'm imagining that we play and laugh together. I'm imagining that we enjoy taking turns leading and surrendering. I'm imagining that we can solidly count on each other. I'm imagining that we discover ever deeper dimensions of "power with" together. I'm imagining that we allow each other spaciousness and freedom. I'm imagining that we naturally co-create together. I'm imagining that we share our soul gifts in the world in ways that deeply inspire. I'm imagining that our communion and creative friction contributes to a more love & sex positive world, and a more healed earth. I'm open to being surprised by how we show up in each other's lives.
What I’m doing with my life
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I've been a healer/therapist for 18 years (I started young). My work is guided by a life long love for the magic of interpersonal alchemy~ transforming lead into gold. It's guided by the faith that there is always beautiful gold in the shadows, waiting to be reclaimed. It brings me deep satisfaction to help people create lives and relationships that are sanctuaries of trust, play, creative intimacy and eroticism. I'm passionate about helping people embrace their birthright to pleasure, and I'm walking the vulnerable path of learning how to fully embrace mine too.

I'm in a coaching program for a practice called OM, Orgasmic Meditation. It's a messy juicy life changing experience. Here's a bit about it:

I love to dance, and wordsmith, and I'm reclamining my love of drawing and painting. I'm surrenduring to the life-long archetype inside of healer/artist. I draw magical realism fruits at night.

I love spending time in nature and living in ecologically sustainable ways. The wild coast of Point Reyes, with it's boundless ocean vistas, and hideaways in the trees, is one of my favorite local places.

I know that I'm supposed to have a public voice on love and sexuality, rooted in deep feminine honesty, love, and freedom. My desire is to be close with men who help me understand masculine love and freedom. And my deepest desire is to be lovers and partners with a man who lives and loves in ways that are uncommonly true, and who really has my back.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Feminine insight and receptivity.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I asked my friend to describe me and this is what she said...

"What stands out about you is that you have this delightful sparkling way of relating. You're truly responsive and expressive. You really connect. You also have a quick and dynamic intellect and are learning new things all of the time. You put them together in creative expansive new ways. It's exciting and fun to talk to you. You're also authentic, really living into what you're talking about."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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These days any books that offer liberating insights into men and women's primal differences- and all the ways we were made to bring out the best in each other.

Music: Josh Garrels and India Arie are two of my favorite artists.
Paolo Nutini, Amos Lee, Sean Hayes, Mumford & Sons, Matisiyahu, Regina Spektor, and Jason Mraz are some other faves.

Music I grew up with and have a soft spot for: Van Morrison, Joni Mitchell, Jackson Browne, Fleetwood Mac, Billy Joel, and more. I grew up in a musical home and was a child of back to the land hippies, so the music of that time had a big impact on me.

Music I love to dance to: Old school Disco, R&B, naughty pop with strong rhythms. When I was coming of age disco and R&B were all the rave, and rang my bell, still do for dancing.

Food: Lot's of organic kale!
Organic, local, vegetables, fruits, nuts, and a little ethical animal. I love creating delicious and healthy food for the people I care about. Deep juicy conversations in the kitchen make me very happy.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
there aren't any things I couldn't do without. There are more than six ways of being that I couldn't live without...

~The magic of real connection unfolding organically
~Laughter and play
~Love & love centered sex positivity
~Music and dancing
~Adventures in beautiful nature
~Artistry & beauty everyday
~Deep insights rooted in the ability to fully surf joy and sorrow, and discover the grace in the grit.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to cultivate sustainable love and pleasure in all that I do.
Allowing myself to become the woman I'm meant to be, and trusting that the man I'm meant to be with will show up.
How to live a fully turned on life with an awake, free, and open heart.

I've traveled to some beautiful places, inner and outer, and am ripe for more...

Adventures that have moved me to the core are...
Snorkeling off of a tiny island in the Sea of Cortez amidst fluttering schools of rainbow fish | Basking in a naturally bioluminesent ocean hotspring on the shores of Baja while gazing at a sea of stars above. Glowing below and glowing floating in the cosmos. | Hiking to a crescent cove beach in Hawaii with brilliant turquoise waves surging onto a peach sand beach | Soaking in a local natural hot springs on the beach with hundreds of glowing lime green and purple sea anemones blooming on the surrounding rocks| Living in Mexico and gathering with friends in the town square as the sun is setting, sharing the day, laughing, and flirting...a true sense of village community.

Other things I think about while navigating the modern western world...

Our culture is stressing people and planet to the max. How can we "be the change" and support each other in prioritizing the deeper and more authentic joys of life? How can we wean ourselves and our communities off of addictions to consumerism and distraction, which don't fulfill our deepest hungers for connection- to ourselves, each other, and our planet? I'm holding a vision of sustainable love & pleasure, that contributes to a more healed earth. I'd love to meet a man who is inspired to share and create in ways that make this vision more vivid and real.

You value psychological, spiritual, and body wisdom and are engaged in those realms. You're doing work that you feel meant to do; it contributes to the world, and supports you back. You enjoy Jewish spirituality and mysticism, or are intrigued in a meaningful way.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Resting and integrating the week, OMing with friends, going to Yoga, having a good beer or glass of wine. In the future, creating some kinda wonderful with my man.

During the weekends I like to renew, curl up with a good book, create something beautiful at home, plant succulents on my deck, draw, sing, and hike in gorgeous local nature. I also enjoy lighting up a dance floor, and drawing everyone who feels the rhythm, like bees to honey, to dance their asses off along with me. There's a collective freedom and joy in that that's intoxicating.

I'm an unrepentant lover of learning. These days I'm learning a lot about deep masculinity and femininity, the animal and angel in all of us, relationships that deeply nourish AND go beyond the self, and sexuality. I relish the times that I slow down to integrate all of this juicy stuff with the folks who I respect, trust, and care about. My deepest desire is to integrate it with my man in a fully embodied way.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I connect with the divine on most days, in a personal way. This guides my life and infuses it with a sense of gratitude and magic.

On Little people: I imagine being lovers, learning how to move from our dreams and desires together, having the freedom and spaciousness to fully be ourselves, and sharing the inspiration to co-create and travel to beautiful places together. From that place I can imagine bringing a little being into the world...and creating a sense of family and community infused with play, flow, nature, spirit, art, and the deliciousness of love and fulfillment that keeps renewing. I imagine that we would keep our passion alive and it would infuse all that we do with vitality and pleasure.
You should message me if
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Our dreams naturally resonate. You sense that your being, and your future could be at home with me. You're willing to take the time to get to know each other for real, and see what kind of organic magic there is. You have a heart of gold, are a deeply insightful soul, and are naughty in the best kinds of ways. You want to co-create a relationship of unusual authenticity, attunement, and pleasure. You're ready to walk towards love.