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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35–55
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 11:42pm
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Depth junkie...I love most things transformational, from the intimate to the planetary.

Because I'm an independent, out of the box, and accomplished woman I love it when a man can see me, and contribute to me flourishing.

Because I love to be met by an equal, I love it when a man let's me see who he really is, and contribute to his flourishing.

Because it can be a crazy beautiful broken world, I love it when he protects me in those ways only a man can, and I offer him sanctuary in those ways only a woman can.

Honest men who know how to authentically stand for themselves AND for others are my favorite.

Smart creative playful intimacy has a cosmic and earthy feel to me...and in that delicious place magical things happen.
What I’m doing with my life
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I've been a healer/therapist for 18 years. My work is guided by a life long love for the magic of interpersonal alchemy~ transforming lead into gold.

It brings me deep satisfaction to help people create lives and relationships that are sanctuaries of trust, play, creative intimacy, and eroticism. I'm passionate about helping people embrace their birthright to love and pleasure, and I'm walking the brave and vulnerable path of learning how to embrace mine too.

I'm in a coaching program at One Taste for a practice called OM, Orgasmic Meditation. It's a messy, juicy, life changing experience that has open my world beyond words.

I know that I'm supposed to have a public voice on love, pleasure, sexuality, the deep feminine, and the deep masculine. I'm a spiritual warrior of the heart and my deepest desire is to be with a man who wants to be a part of this great adventure.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Feminine insight.
Wise compassion.
Bold honesty.
Well thought out risk taking, that pays off.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I asked my friend to describe me and this is what she said...

"What stands out about you is that you have this delightful sparkling way of relating. You're truly connected, responsive, and expressive. You have a quick and dynamic intellect and put ideas together in brilliant new ways. It's exciting to talk to you. You're really living into what you're talking about."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
These days any books that offer liberating insights into men and women's primal differences- and the many ways we were made to bring out the best in each other.

Music: Josh Garrels and India Arie are two of my favorite artists.
Paolo Nutini, Amos Lee, Sean Hayes, Mumford & Sons, Matisiyahu, Regina Spektor, and Jason Mraz are some other faves.

Music I love to dance to: Old school Disco, R&B, naughty pop with strong rhythms. When I was coming of age disco and R&B were all the rave, and rang my bell, still do for dancing.

A Flexitarian, I eat like a bonobo most of the time.
Vegetables, fruit, nuts, and a little ethical animal.
I have a little hedonist inside too, and she loves a juicy burger, a succulent dessert, or a cocktail from time to time.
Adventuring out to eat, cooking together, and smart creative conversation over a meal make me very happy.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
there aren't any things I couldn't do without. There are ways of being that I couldn't live without...

~The creative magic of authentic connection!
~Laughter and play :-)
~Love and sex positivity swirled together.
~Music and dancing.
~Adventures in beautiful nature.
~Artistry & beauty everyday.
~Deep insights rooted in the ability to fully surf sorrow and joy, and discover the grace in the grit.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to live a fully turned on life with an awake, free, and open heart.

I've traveled to some beautiful places, inner and outer, and am ripe for more...

Adventures that have moved me to the core are...
Snorkeling off of a tiny island in the Sea of Cortez amidst fluttering schools of rainbow fish | Basking in a bioluminesent ocean hotspring on the shores of Baja while gazing at a sea of stars above. Like floating in the cosmos. | Hiking to a crescent cove beach in Hawaii with brilliant turquoise waves surging onto a red sand beach | Soaking in a local beach hot spring with hundreds of glowing lime green and purple sea anemones blooming on the rocks| Gathering with friends in a Mexican town square at sunset, laughing and flirting, a true sense of village community.

Other things I think about while navigating the wacky modern world...

Our culture is stressing people and planet to the max. How can we "be the change" and wean ourselves off of our addictions to consumption and distraction, which don't fulfill our deepest hungers? How can we support each other in prioritizing what truly fulfills us? I'm holding a vision of sustainable pleasure, that contributes to a more healed earth. I'm walking this path. I'd love to meet men who are inspired to walk it too.

You value wisdom in it's reverent and irreverent forms. You're very smart. You're doing work that you feel meant to do; it contributes to the world, and supports you back. You're on a wise path, with strength and heart.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging and OMing with friends, dancing my a** off, adventuring around town, reading a riveting book.

I'm an unrepentant lover of learning. These days I'm learning a lot about deep masculinity and femininity, pleasure, love, sexuality, and how to bring out our best natures. I'm also riveted by the questions of how humanity will wake up out of it's slumber, and respond effectively to the cries of the planet. My desire is to integrate all of this with my man.

Allies on the path are welcome too!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I connect with the divine on most days, in a personal way. This guides my life and infuses it with clarity, direction, surrender, and gratitude.
You should message me if
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You resonate. You're an adventurous and insightful soul, with a brave imperfect heart that keeps growing. You're willing and able to wrestle with your demons, and find your deeper strength. You're committed to being authentic in all that you do. You sense we would inspire each other. Together we might make each other better people. You're willing to take the time to get to know me, and see what kinda magic emerges.