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43 Oakland, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35-55
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 4:37pm
5' 3" (1.60m)
Body Type
Judaism and it’s important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Depth devotee...I love most things transformational, from the intimate to the planetary.

Because I'm an independent, out of the box, and accomplished woman, I love it when a man can see me, and contributes to me flourishing.

Because I love to be met by an equal, I love it when a man let's me see who he really is, and contribute to his flourishing.

Because it's a crazy beautiful broken world, I love to be protected and protect back. I love the excitement of giving to a man through my feminine, and I love to receive too.

Honest men of deep character who know how to authentically care for and protect others AND themselves are my favorite.

A man who is trustable AND in touch with his beast melts me.

Smart creative playful intimacy has an earthy feel to me...and in that delicious place magical things happen.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've been a healer/therapist for 18 years. My work is guided by a life long love for the magic of interpersonal alchemy, transforming lead into gold.

I'm passionate about helping people experience their birthrights of trust, love, and pleasure, and I'm walking the brave and vulnerable path of learning how myself.

It gives me deep satisfaction to help people feel more, and become themselves more fully. Attention, safety, trust, play, honor, beauty, creativity, desire, and pleasure are some of the things I love to experience and help create.

I know that I'm meant to have a public voice on the deep feminine, and the deep masculine, as they relate to pleasure, love, sex, and belonging. My deepest desire is to teach, to be with a man who has my back, feels like home to be with, and is walkin' the path with me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Bold and fresh feminine insights.

Typologies are like maps, not the actual territory, but helpful. I'm an ENFP in the Jungian based myers-briggs:
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I asked my friend to describe me and this is what she said...

"What stands out about you is that you have this sparkling way of relating. You're truly connected, responsive, and expressive. You have a quick and dynamic intellect and put ideas together in brilliant new ways. It's exciting to talk to you. You're truly living what you're talking about."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
These days any books that offer liberating insights into men and women's primal differences, and the many ways we were made to bring out the best in each other.

I eat words for breakfast, lunch, and dinner :-)
I have a tremendous appetite for learning, always brewing new understanding.

I love music! India Arie, Paolo Nutini, Amos Lee, Sean Hayes, Mumford & Sons, Matisiyahu, Regina Spektor, and Jason Mraz are some faves.

I love to dance to naughty pop, hip hop, r&b, anything with strong rhythm.
My love for dancing is beyond words. I've been doing it since I was 12 years old. It gives me a sense of boundless freedom.

Creating beauty gives me great pleasure. I'm always dreaming up images, word play, and creating more beauty in my life.

A Flexitarian, I eat like a bonobo most of the time; local, organic, veggies, fruits, nuts, and a little ethical animal. I've got a hedonist side too. I enjoy a juicy burger, succulent desert, or artisian cocktail from time to time. Adventuring out to eat, or cooking together... smart creative conversation over a meal makes me very happy.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
there aren't any Things I couldn't do without. There are ways of Being that I couldn't do without...

Authentic connection, play, and laughter!
Love and sex positivity swirled together
Music and dancing
Adventures in nature
Artistry & everyday beauty
Deep insights that emerge from surfing sorrow and joy, and discovering the grace in the grit.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to live a fully turned on life with an awake, free, and open heart.

Taboos, which one's to break, which one's to honor. Fulfillment for everyone involved is what turns me on!

I've traveled to some beautiful places, inner and outer, and am ripe for more...

🐠 Snorkeling off of a tiny island in the Sea of Cortez amidst fluttering schools of rainbow fish.
🌟 Floating in a glowing bioluminesent ocean hotspring on the shores of Baja while gazing at a sea of stars above, like floating in the cosmos.
💦 Hiking to a crescent cove beach in Hawaii with brilliant turquoise waves surging onto a red sand beach.
🐚 Soaking in a local beach hot spring with hundreds of glowing lime green and purple sea anemones blooming on the rocks.
💃 Gathering with friends in a Mexican town square at sunset, laughing, flirting, a true sense of village community.

Other things I think about while navigating the wacky modern world...

Our culture is stressing people and planet to the max. How can we "be the change" and wean ourselves off of our addictions to consumption and distraction, which don't fulfill our deepest hungers? How can we support each other in prioritizing what fulfills us? I'm holding a vision of sustainable pleasure, that contributes to a more healed earth. I'm walking this path. I'd love to meet men who are inspired to walk it too.

You value wisdom in it's reverent and irreverent forms. You're very smart. You're doing work that you feel meant to do; it contributes to the world, and supports you back. You're on a wise path, with strength and heart.

Kids: I love kids and they love me. A child or children are meant to come into my life. I'm open to how it's meant to happen.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging and OMing with friends, dancing my a** off, adventuring around town, reading something riveting, going on a date.

I'm an unrepentant lover of learning. These days I'm learning a lot about deep masculinity and femininity, pleasure, love, sexuality, and how to bring out the best of our animal natures. I have a feeling that learning how to source these renewable power fuels, is key to bringing out the best in people.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I connect with the divine on most days, in a personal way.

I'm kink positive, safe, sane, and consensual. . I'm a loving conscientious alpha woman in my everyday, and mostly a submissive in the bedroom, tho there is an undeniable stream of erotic dominance in me too. Men who are conscientious loving dominants ring my bell, and men who have a desire to surrender to fierce and wholesome feminine power, also turn me on. I want to dive deep with a man who I trust.
You should message me if
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You resonate. You're an adventurous and insightful soul, with a brave imperfect heart that keeps growing. You're willing and able to wrestle with your demons, and find your deeper strength. You're committed to being authentic in all that you do. You sense we would inspire each other. Together we could make each other better people. You're willing to take the time to get to know me, and see what kinda magic happens! ✨