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42 Oakland, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 35–55
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:55pm
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Depth junkie...I love most things transformational, from the intimate to the planetary. I'm looking for a deeply smart, emotionally perceptive man, to co-create a juicy and spiritually meaningful life together.

Because I'm an independent, out of the box, and accomplished woman I love a man who has my back and helps me flourish. Because I have a little girl inside too, I love a man who I feel deeply safe with, and who protects me when I need it.

Rich intimacy has a spiritual and cosmic feel to me, like heaven and earth joined. I love it when a man enjoys this kind of cosmic & earthy play as much as I do.

I'm an ENFP, an intuitive, depth oriented, ethical, and sensitive extrovert. I feel deeply. Of the extroverts, I'm the most introverted, needing the most down time to come back to my center.

I'm imagining that we can totally be ourselves with each other. I'm imagining that we support each other to move from our deepest desires. I'm imagining that you enjoy being the grounded solid masculine to my fluid flowing feminine. I'm imagining that we can play together. I'm imagining that we enjoy taking turns leading and surrendering. I'm imagining we can solidly count on each other. I'm imagining that we co-create together. I'm imagining that we give our soul gifts over to each other and the world in ways that deeply inspire. I'm open to being surprised by how we show up in each other's lives.
What I’m doing with my life
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I've been a healer/therapist for 18 years (I started young). My work is guided by a life long love for the magic of interpersonal alchemy~ transforming lead into gold. It's also guided by the faith that there is always beautiful gold in the shadows. It brings me deep satisfaction to help people create lives and relationships that are sanctuaries of trust, play, and creative intimacy and eroticism. I'm passionate about helping people embrace their birthright to pleasure.

I'm in a coaching program for a practice called OM, Orgasmic Meditation. It's a messy juicy life changing experience. Here's a bit about it:

I value living in ecologically sustainable ways, and am learning how to join with people to create a beautiful future, rather than allowing the juggernaut to grind on.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Feminine insight and receptivity.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I asked my friend to describe me and this is what she said...

"What stands out about you is that you have this delightful sparkling way of relating. You're truly responsive and expressive. You really connect. You also have a quick and dynamic intellect and are learning new things all of the time. You put them together in creative expansive new ways. It's exciting and fun to talk to you. You're also authentic, really living into what you're talking about."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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These days any books that offer liberating insights into men and women's primal differences, and the many ways that we can bring out the best in each other.

Music: Josh Garrels and India Arie are two of my favorite artists.
Paolo Nutini, Amos Lee, Sean Hayes, Mumford & Sons, Matisiyahu, Regina Spektor, and Jason Mraz are some other faves.

Music I grew up with and have a soft spot for: Van Morrison, Joni Mitchell, Jackson Browne, Fleetwood Mac, Billy Joel, and more. I grew up in a musical home and was a child of back to the land hippies, so the music of that time had a big impact on me.

Music I love to dance to: Old school Disco, R&B, naughty pop with strong rhythms. When I was coming of age disco and R&B were all the rave, and rang my bell, still do for dancing.

Food: Lot's of organic kale!
Organic, local, vegetables, fruits, nuts, and a little ethical animal. I enjoy creating healthy and delicious food for the people I care about.
The six things I could never do without
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there aren't any things I couldn't do without. There are more than six ways of being that I couldn't live without...

~The magic of real connection
~Laughter and play
~Love & love centered sex positivity
~Music and dancing
~Adventures in gorgeous nature
~Artistry & beauty
~Deep insights rooted in the ability to fully surf joy and sorrow, and discover the grace in the grit.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to cultivate sustainable love and pleasure.
Allowing myself to become the woman I'm meant to be, and trusting that the man I'm meant to be with will show up.
How to live a fully turned on life with a pure heart.

I've traveled to some beautiful places, inner and outer, and am ripe for more...

Adventures that have moved me to the core are...
Snorkeling off of a tiny island in the Sea of Cortez amidst fluttering schools of rainbow fish | Basking in a naturally bioluminesent ocean hotspring on the shores of Baja while gazing at a sea of stars above. Glowing below and glowing above, like floating in the cosmos. | Hiking to a crescent cove beach in Hawaii with brilliant turquoise waves surging onto a peach sand beach | Soaking in a local natural hot springs on the beach with hundreds of glowing lime green and purple sea anemones blooming on the surrounding rocks| Living in Tlapacoyan Mexico and gathering in the town square at dusk sharing our day, laughing, and flirting...a true sense of village.

Other things I think about while navigating the modern world...

We are living in times in which we are stressing people and planet to the max. How can we "be the change" and support each other in prioritizing the deeper and more authentic joys of life? How can we wean ourselves and our communities off of addictions to consumerism and distraction, which don't fulfill our deepest hungers for connection and creativity? I'm holding a vision of sustainable love, pleasure, creativity, and authentic happiness. I'd love to meet a man who is inspired to share and create in ways that make this vision more real.

You value psychological, spiritual, and body wisdom and are engaged in those realms. You're doing work that you feel meant to do; it contributes to the world, and supports you back. You enjoy Jewish spirituality and mysticism or are intrigued in a meaningful way.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Resting and integrating the week, OMing, going to a musical shabbat, dancing out the week in my living room. In the future, creating some kinda wonderful with my man.

During the weekends I like to renew, curl up with a good book, create something beautiful at home, or spend time in nature. I also enjoy local hotsprings, dancing, and live music.

I'm an unrepentant lover of learning. These days I'm drawn to workshops on masculinity, femininity, relationships, and sexuality. I relish the times that I slow down to integrate all of this juicy stuff with the folks who I respect, trust, and care about. My deepest desire is to integrate it with my man.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I connect with the divine on most days, in a personal way. This infuses my life with a sense of gratitude and magic.

On Location: I would overwhelmingly prefer to meet someone in the Bay Area, my home for the past 20 years. With that said, a great love is what's most important to me. I want to be with a man who is so right for me, I'd be willing to follow him anywhere. I'm grounded, and secretly deeply romantic.

On Little people: I can see myself having one little person, with the right man.
You should message me if
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You are ready for love. What I wrote resonated with your dreams. You're willing to take the time to get to know each other for real, and see what kind of magic there is between us. You have a heart of gold, are an insightful soul, and are naughty in the best kinds of ways. You want to co-create a relationship of unusual quality and authenticity.