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42 Oakland, CA Woman


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 41–55
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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5′ 3″ (1.60m)
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Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from masters program
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Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Depth junkie...I love most things transformational, from the personal to the planetary. I'm passionate about having a positive impact on people and eco. I'm looking for a deeply smart old soul to co-create an enlivening life together.

One of my greatest pleasures is verbal repartee and play. What moves me to the core are relationships with a quality of timelessness, being completely awake in my senses, spiritual connection, awe in the beauty of nature, singing, being with the one I most love.

I'm balanced between extroversion and introversion, but lean towards ENFP, an intuitive, depth oriented, ethical, extrovert.

I love thinking and feeling creatively with who I love and then LIVING into our visions TOGETHER.

I'm imagining that we can totally be ourselves with each other. I'm imagining that we have the chemistry and passion for creating a loving sexy relationship, equaled by a passion for making the world a better place. I'm imagining that we will be each other's safe harbors AND co-conspirators in adventure.
What I’m doing with my life
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In everyday language, I'm running my own business as a relational psychotherapist, specializing in couples and sexuality work.
My work is guided by a life long love for the magic of interpersonal alchemy~ transforming lead into gold. I'm passionate about helping people create lives and relationships that are sanctuaries of safety, honesty, play, and creative intimacy and eroticism. I'm passionate about helping people embrace their birthright to pleasure.

I love what I do and most of the time walk my talk. I love being called into deeper alignment with my values by the people close to me.

I resonate most with those who value love and pleasure, and living in socially, ecologically, and spiritually sustainable ways.
I’m really good at
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Feminine insight and receptivity.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I asked my friend to describe me and this is what she said...

"What stands out about you is that you have this delightful sparkling way of relating. You're truly responsive and expressive... you really c o n n e c t. You also have a quick and dynamic intellect. You're learning new things all of the time, and you're putting them together in creative new ways. It's exciting and fun talking to you! You're also authentic, really living into what you're talking about."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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These days any books that offer liberating insights into men and women's primal differences, and the everyday ways that we can bring out the best in each other.

Music: Josh Garrels and India Arie are two of my favorite artists.
Paolo Nutini, Amos Lee, Sean Hayes, Mumford & Sons, Matisiyahu, Regina Spektor, Krishna Das, and Jason Mraz are some other faves.

Music I grew up with and have a soft spot for: Van Morrison, Joni Mitchell, Jackson Browne, Fleetwood Mac, Billy Joel, and more. I grew up in a musical home and was a child of back to the land hippies, so the music of that time had a big impact on me.

Music I love to dance to: Old school Disco, R&B, naughty pop with strong rhythms. When I was coming of age disco was all the rave, and it rang my bell, still does.

Food: Lot's of organic kale!
Organic, local, mostly vegetarian, with a little ethical animal. I enjoy cooking for the people I love, and have a creative knack for healthy food with a twist.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
there aren't any THINGS I couldn't do without. There are ways of being that I couldn't live without...

Love & love centered sex positivity
Laughter & play
Deep soulful insights
Adventures in nature
Embodied spirituality and the magic of connection
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to cultivate more joy and love in my life. How to contribute to the world in ways that nourish me and others. Where I want to travel.

I've been to some beautiful places, inner and outer, and am ripe for soooo much more!

Adventures that have moved me the most so far are...
Snorkeling off of a tiny island in the Sea of Cortez amidst fluttering schools of rainbow fish and glowing sea anemones; basking in a naturally bioluminesent ocean hotspring on the shores of Baja while gazing at a sea of stars above...glowing below and glowing above, like floating in the cosmos; hiking perilous cliffs on a wild side of Maui, to a secret cove with surging brilliant turquoise waves crashing onto a red sand beach; living in Tlapacoyan Mexico and gathering in the town square at dusk sharing our day, laughing, and flirting...a true sense of village community.

Where do I want to adventure next?! I'm thinking about the Amazon Rainforest. Since I've been 12 I've sensed that I would spend time in wild places, and now feels like the time. Percolating on Bhutan too, it's supposed to be one of the happiest and most ecologically diverse places on the planet.

Other things I think about while I'm navigating the extra-ordinary wackiness of the modern world...

We work so hard in the west, and our cultural values are stressing people and planet to the max. Consequently we are facing so many social and ecological challenges. How can we create a powerful movement of people who prioritize nourishing ourselves and each other with the authentic joys of life, the pleasures that are truly sustainable? How can we wean ourselves from our addictions to work, consumerism and distraction, addictions that don't fulfill our deepest hungers. How do we make what matters most the center of our lives, and LIVE sustainable love, pleasure, and happiness? How might we walk our talk and share the wisdom we glean in ways that inspire and encourage? Wanna live into these questions and find out with me?

YOU enjoy Jewish culture or are Jewish. You value psychological, spiritual, and body wisdom and are engaged in meaningful growth in those realms. You have a desire to travel and a desire to create a loving family and share community. You value romance and passion and put energy into cultivating and sustaining it. You're doing work that you feel meant to do; it contributes to a better world and supports you back. You are ready to share a wise, joyful, and sustainable life with a beloved. You want to be with the woman who sticks.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Dancing to good music, resting and integrating the week, going to a gorgeous musical Jewish renewal shabbat with friends. During the weekends I like to head to the Ocean, the Redwoods, Point Reyes, and sometimes a local yoga or hotsprings retreat.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I connect with spirit on most days, on my own personal, empowering and joyful terms. My connection with spirit infuses my life with a sense of gratitude and magic.

On Location: I would overwhelmingly prefer to meet someone in the Bay Area. This is where I've made my home for the past 20 years. With that said, a great love is what's most important to me, and for the right man I would consider living in a new place. I'm grounded, and secretly deeply romantic.
You should message me if
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You're looking for lasting love, and were moved and inspired by what I shared. You want an old soul with whom you can make intimate and romantic magic with. You want to co-create an altruistic and joyful life together.

You sense we could light each other up.

You're willing to take the time to become friends, get to know each other for real, and see what kind of alchemy there is between us. You're sincere, honest, deep, and fun.

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