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My self-summary
Depth devotee...I love most things transformational, from the intimate to the planetary.

Because I'm an independent, out of the box, and accomplished woman, I love it when a man can really see me, and love me into flourishing.

Because I love to be met by an equal, I love it when a man let's me see the secret sides of him, and love him into flourishing.

Because it's a crazy beautiful broken world, I love to be protected and protect back. I delight in the excitement of giving to a man through my feminine, and in surrenduring too.

Honest men of deep character who know how to authentically care for and protect others AND themselves are my favorite.

A man who is trustable AND in touch with his beast melts me.

Smart creative playful intimacy has an earthy and cosmic feel to me. I wanna share the delicious magic that happens there.
What I’m doing with my life
I've been a therapist for nearly 20 years. My work is guided by a life long love for the magic of interpersonal alchemy, transforming lead into gold.

I'm passionate about helping people experience their birthrights of trust, love, and pleasure, and I'm walking the brave tender path of learning how myself.

It gives me deep satisfaction to help people feel, and become the fullest expression of themselves.

It gives me even deeper satisfaction to be with a man who takes the risks to lay his ego down, and move from the place inside of him that's true. That's where all the real power and love come from.
I’m really good at
Bold and fresh feminine insights.

Typologies are like maps, not the actual territory, but helpful. I'm an ENFP in the Jungian based myers-briggs:
The first things people usually notice about me
I asked my friend to describe me and this is what she said...

"What stands out about you is that you have this sparkling way of relating. You're truly connected, responsive, and expressive. You have a quick dynamic intellect and put ideas together in brilliant new ways. You're truly living what you're talking about."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
These days any books that offer liberating insights into men and women's primal differences, and the many ways nature made us to bring out the best in each other.

I eat words for breakfast, lunch, and dinner :-)
I have a tremendous appetite for learning, often overflowing with new understanding.

I love music! India Arie, Paolo Nutini, Amos Lee, Sean Hayes, Mumford & Sons, Matisiyahu, Regina Spektor, and Jason Mraz are some faves.

I love to dance to strong rhythm and groove. It gives me boundless freedom beyond words.

A Flexitarian, I eat like a bonobo most of the time; local, organic, veggies, fruits, nuts, and a little ethical animal. I've got a hedonist side too. I enjoy a juicy burger, succulent desert, or artisian cocktail from time to time.

Cooking together, cooking for each other, adventuring out to eat, I love it all.
Smart creative conversation over food makes everything taste better. ;-)
The six things I could never do without
there aren't any Things I couldn't do without. There are ways of Being that I couldn't do without...

Authentic connection, play, and laughter!
Love and sex positivity swirled together
Music and dancing
Travel adventures in beautiful nature
Art & everyday craftmanship
Deep insights that emerge from surfing sorrow and joy, and discovering the grace in the grit.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to live a fully turned on life with an awake, free, and open heart.

Taboos, which one's to honor, which one's to break. Respect, safety, trust, and care guide me

Traveling! I've traveled to some beautiful places, inner and outer, and am ripe for more...

🐠 Snorkeling off of a tiny island in the Sea of Cortez amidst fluttering schools of rainbow fish.
🌟 Floating in a glowing bioluminesent ocean hotspring on the shores of Baja while gazing at a sea of stars above, like floating in the cosmos.
💦 Hiking to a crescent cove beach in Hawaii with brilliant turquoise waves surging onto a red sand beach.
🐚 Soaking in a local beach hot spring with hundreds of glowing lime green and purple sea anemones blooming on the towering rocks.
💃 Gathering with friends in a Mexican town square at sunset, laughing, flirting, a true sense of village community.

Other things I think about while navigating the wacky modern world...

How can I "be the change" and live sustainable pleasure, in ways that restore right relationship to the earth. I'd love to meet a man who is already on a resonant path, and inspired to walk it with me.

You value wisdom in it's reverent and irreverent forms. You're doing work that you feel meant to do; it contributes to the world, and supports you back. You're on a wise path, with strength and heart.

Kids: I love kids and they love me. A child or children are meant to come into my life. I'm open to how it happens.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging out with friends, OMing (Orgasmic Meditation), dancing my a** off, reading something riveting, celebrating shabbat, going on a date, resting, adventuring around town.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I connect with the divine on most days, in a personal way.

I'm kink positive, safe, sane, and consensual. I'm a strong woman in my everyday, and mostly a submissive in the bedroom, tho there is a sassy streak of rebellion in me too. Men who have a loving trustable dominant side ring my bell. Men who take pleasure in feminine power AND vulnerability turn me on. I want to dive deep with a man who I trust, and go to intimate places that we've never been before.

Most of all, I want a man who helps me feel safe, so that we can have all the adventures we are craving! I want a man with the strength to jump in and hold me, when I fall into the illusion that I have to do it all alone.

I want a man to see through my fancy mind, to my primal animal needs underneath, and help me come back to myself, back to him.

I want help lightening up, letting go, and playing!

When I feel frightened and get fierce, I want a man who can see through my fiery ways, and help me feel safe and loved.

When I feel down, I want a man who will listen, and still keep the faith in me, and in us.

A man who loves to celebrate when life is generous (as it so often is), who doesn't run when life is hard (as it is too) and enjoys creating grace and freedom in the grit....this would make me an even happier woman!
You should message me if
You can't resist. You resonate. You like your women earthy honest raw and playful. You're willing to do whatever it takes to create an amazing relationship. You're willing to take the time to get to know me, and see what kinda magic we got. ✨