As people we all need certain things from other people. Each different relationship we have requires certain things, and I think intimate relationships require these certain things. Honesty: As in don't tell me that you're at the gym, tell me that you're sitting at home binge-watching Netflix with two empty boxes of pizza next to you and you're working on the third. Don't tell me that you love going to the gym unless you ACTUALLY love going to the gym. Don't tell me that you like sushi unless you ACTUALLY like sushi. Don't try to get me to like you by little white lying. Unconditional compassion: Not caring if someone is sweaty and gross, kissing them anyway. Having the urge to give five bucks at the grocery store to the kid’s cancer fund or for clean drinking water in third world countries. Not wishing stepping on a Lego upon your absolute worst enemy. Space: If your significant doesn’t text you back right away, it’s not the end of the world. Not asking them to give up their priorities or make exceptions for you. Letting them tell you what they need to when they’re ready, not when you are. Stability: Having your mind made up about something/someone and being consistent in your feelings. Understanding: Accepting that people are complex and social beings, and that judgment of their character is not your place. I do not get along with judgmental people AT ALL. Lastly, respect and sensitivity: Understanding that when you meet someone, that does not mean that you know them. They have stories, experiences, emotions, and family and that makes them incredible and deserving of respect.
I accept people for what they are – imperfect, flawed, insecure, beautiful beings of this earth. I do not evaluate someone based not on looks but on how they treat themselves and other people, and I understand that it takes time to get even a glimpse of who someone is. With that being said, there are certain things that attract and repel me. 1. Shirtless ‘selfies’. I’m on here to see your personality, not your body. 2. Spelling/grammar. 3. Genuine messages. I don’t want to hear an overused pick-up line, I want to hear about you and why you think we would work. 4. Initiative. I am old-fashioned in this way.
Some of the extra things I look for in a future relationship: Activeness- goes to the gym, takes the dogs on walks, or whatever you deem fit to include in this category. Someone who would rather call and talk to me for five minutes than text on and off for a couple hours. Someone who has wanderlust. It is my dream to see the world and I would like to be with someone who can share that dream or at least put up with it. Someone ambitious, who always as a goal, something to be working towards. Someone who loves animals, and loving Pitbulls is definitely a plus. Someone who is secure in who they are as a person. Knows what they want out of life, what they like and dislike, and who they want in a future significant other. And someone who can laugh. Laugh easily, laugh hard, laugh freely, and laugh until they cry, because that's something I do a lot of.
If you can get through that, then I applaud you.
About my personality: I am a humanitarian first and foremost. I love all people from all walks of life and will do whatever I can to aid someone else. I am active. I wasn’t for a long time and hated it, so now I get out whenever I can. As cliché as it is, I love hiking and camping and pray daily for someone to take me fishing. I walk my dog, take her for hikes and go to the gym almost religiously. I am a spiritual person, but more in a Buddhist way than a hippy way. I am extremely passionate, motivated, and opinionated person, but I know when to hold my tongue. I am loyal and honest almost to a fault. I love to create anything in any way that I can. My favorite mediums are word documents, canvas or piano. I have five favorite colors and I want to visit as many countries as I can in this life time. My priorities come above all else, and I hope that eventually I can find someone who will become one of them. I work as a CNA, but am currently trying to find something better suited to my career path, which I am unsure of at this point. I am a full time student for the summer and will be part time in the fall. For my military men out there, I am from a military family and know and love the lifestyle. I won’t respond to people with shirtless ‘selfies’, “having fun” quoted several times in their profile, or rude/assuming messages. If you choose to message me, type 2114 in the message somewhere so that I know you read this far! Whoever you are, I hope you find what you’re looking for in life and that you end up happy. Enjoy your day!:)