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50 San Diego, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 44–54
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Mar 29
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Strictly vegan
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Update June 2013: I'm taking a hiatus from dating while in treatment for cancer. Luckily it was early stage and my prognosis is excellent. I feel fantastic, am happy and exercise daily. Nonetheless it's probably not a good time to start dating(!) But I'd love to make new friends, hiking/activity partners and pen pals, particularly if you're a cancer survivor or have any insights that might help. So feel free to write if you think we have enough in common to be friends...I've already been lucky enough to meet some cool new pals here, even after this disclosure--yay! : )

All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love. Leo Tolstoy

Turn-Ons: intelligence, great sense of humor, fitness, great abs, vegans/vegetarians, real food, independent films, art, museums, world travel, compassion. Oh, and nicely shaped biceps. I have a serious fetish for athletic studs.

Turn-Offs: beer bellies, Hummers, Big Gulps, guns, Neo-Cons/contemporary Republicans, fast food, eating animals, IMs, confusing "your" &"you're" or "their" & "they're." Duh. : )

Bohemian artist, unrepentant hedonist. Kind, thoughtful, open-minded & passionate. If you're my boypal I'll cook amazing food with/for you, play with you every day and shower you with affection. Hot bonus: I'll never text you to find out where you are--clinginess and jealousy are big fat turn-offs. Oh and I don't have a cell phone (last hold-out on Planet Earth, I know), so am not interested or invested in continual contact.

So what do I want? A fit, fun, evolved goofball to share outdoor adventures, camping, long meandering discussions about nothing, food, sex, travel...and cannabis, if you're also so inclined. You love animals, hopefully have at least one dog and would enjoy volunteering with me. Extra points if you like to cook and are vegan or vegetarian. Honestly I'm ambivalent about dating flesh-eaters at hoping though that a giant consciousness shift will allow more men to stop eating animals, and soon. Compassion (and a hot, veggie-fueled bod) are sexy! : )

I'm in decent shape and want to get way better--I hike or walk daily, and am getting back into jogging, yoga & swimming. Recently started stand-up paddling, it's super fun! Hoping my new partner and/or sporting pals will want to join me out there. My partner must be fit and active (flab just isn't sexy). Addicted to nature and am out in it every day around Balboa Park, Morley Field etc. Unfortunately aging is not pretty! But I'm still youthful and want my partner to be the same...energetic, fun and not remotely overweight.

I recycle everything and consciously leave a light footprint. Unplugged from materialistic pursuits a few years back: ditched my car and corporate job and am living a simple, streamlined life. I live in urban North Park but grow my own kale, tomatoes and chard. I'm spiritually-inclined and meditate regularly, but don't talk about it unless you want to. That said, I do think that the most worthwhile life is spent discovering your spiritual core and building your existence on it.

I'm happy to have zero debts, light baggage (never married, no kids)...I live simply though indulge in great food, art collecting and a cheerful, plummy Shiraz or ice-cold PBR whenever the mood strikes (um, pretty much all the time). Would be great to find someone similarly self-indulgent and un-encumbered!
What I’m doing with my life
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Fumbling toward enlightenment, slaying my ego (long way to go still, clearly), squandering time, giving massage, meditating, meridian tapping, baking delicious vegan goodies, homeless outreach, hiking, gardening, painting. I'm dying to try living in a new place--most likely northern California, somewhere near Santa Rosa/Sebastopol. Feel free to write if you live there and want to chat, or if you're interested in checking out the area too. : )
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Hyperbole, cooking, kissing, massage, domestic goddess stuff, art collecting, mocking Republicans, telling the truth, feng shui, hanging/arranging art, pampering my partner, story-telling, making people laugh.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm absurdly tall, sporadically witty and some say I look like Mary Louise Parker from Weeds...only I haven't aged as well, evidently. : 0
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love to read: lately I've been reading Ekhart Tolle, Thich Nhat Hanh, David Sedaris, books about macrobiotics, reiki and vegan cooking, poetry by Rumi...

Films I love: The Artist, Dead Man, The Royal Tenenbaums, The Darjeeling Limited, Shadows and Fog, Frida, Lost in Translation, Amelie, Life Is Beautiful, Best in Show, The Lives of Others, Shaun of the Dead, Everything is Illuminated, Wings of Desire, Lenin is Dead, Double Indemnity, The Hairdresser's Husband, The Big Lebowski, The Pianist, Metropolis, The Piano...

I confess that I love TV: Seinfeld, Arrested Development, Curb Your Enthusiasm, 30 Rock, Modern Family, It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Bill Maher, The Daily Show, Shameless (the English one), The Office (Brit version), Lark Rise to Candleford, Sherlock Holmes--anything English, really.

Music I like: Black Dub, Bob Dylan, Massive Attack, Buena Vista Social Club, all works by Bach, Portishead, Morcheeba, Johnny Cash, Radiohead, Billy Holliday, Parliament, opera, anything by Chopin, Beethoven, Bob Marley, Otis Redding, The Doors, cello/violin music, Gamelan music, Arabic/belly-dance music, African folk music, much more...

Aw, food, my love: vegan stuff like yummy lasagna, tofu quiche, kale salad, homemade rosemary bread, wine, and my fabulous rustic apple cake. I could live on kale salad with avocado, it's the best!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
intelligent conversation
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Really lame stuff, typically! I do wonder whether or not to reply to guys who I have nothing in common with and/or have a very low match score. Please weigh in on this, guys--do YOU reply to gals who you're not attracted to and/or have nothing in common with? Is it polite to reply to all who write, or is it understood that if a poor match writes us that we can ignore it? Lately I've been inundated by messages from guys who are WAY too young for me and whose match scores are very I ignore them, as I assume that they're spamming every female here. But I wish I knew the etiquette, as I'm a polite and kind person. So please clue me in (and consider that women often get more replies than men so it might be tricky to reply to all). : 0

Oh and I think a lot about things like trees, food, sex, animals, the life cycle of fruit flies, the plight of the poor. Why we're the only developed nation on the planet still unwilling to allow access to healthcare for all (when it will ultimately SAVE us billions to cover every citizen with a Medicare buy-in); why do we so breezily fund violent, pointless confrontations abroad instead of building infrastructure and funding education here? And why are all my great (99%) matches in Los Angeles? I also wonder if I'll die alone with my cat, but will never subject you to a discussion on the topic. : )
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Most nights I watch the sun set from Bird Park, overlooking the Coronado bridge and watching the planes come in. Then likely kale salad, bruschetta, maybe a sip of Shiraz. Later I'm holed up with a good book and an English comedy--I'm a big fat Anglophile, though not technically fat. If it's hot that day I might go for a jog at sunset to feel the cool breeze and get my bod moving.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm an animal whisperer! Actually if no one's around I'll talk to them (no, they don't talk back). : )
You should message me if
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We have a high match score, and the following sounds like you: you're kind, funny, really fit, non-materialistic, artistic, liberal, intellectually curious, and you have little/no facial hair (beards = best birth control ever!) 1000 extra points if you're vegetarian; a million if you're a sexy vegan. : )

Please DON'T message me if: we have a low match score (<80)...I answered a ton of questions to ensure that we have enough in common, so points DO count. Even if you reject the score system, please don't contact me if we have a super-low match score, like 45. And please don't write if you don't have a photo &/or you've expended zero energy describing yourself; if you use apostrophes with plural nouns; you don't know how to use "your" (hint: it's possessive). And no inquiries please if you're married, chubby, or outside my age range. Surely there are much better matches for us both. Best of luck! : )