Sargazmo
28 Daly City, CA
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My self-summary
My profile is dense so I will abbreviate it for you real quick:

Hi, my name is Michael. My passions include Mixed Martial Arts, Dancing, Philosophy, Teaching, Sexuality, Kink, and Radical Honesty. I am in a beautiful, exciting, ethically non-monogamous relationship with Turkey_Hurder. I have free time M-F in the day and TR at night; free time that I like to spend meeting fun, interesting, honest people. I am not interested in anyone who is hiding their true self and desires behind a persona; nothing against you if you are but if you aren't clamoring to share yourself with me, I don't have the time to be your unwelcome shame archaeologist. I am only interested in meeting women who I can be friends with, but I'm not terribly interested in going out with women that there is no possibility of being more than friends with; no judgement, pressure, obligations, or expectations other than to have a fun conversation...But if I meet you for a date, there will be flirting. So if you think I am easy on the eyes and are curious to know more then keep reading :-)

Born in SF and raised playing Baseball, Skateboarding all over the city, and rebelling against a parent that was so permissive she didn't notice.

Went through a chubby phase until I grew a foot in 9th grade, thankfully I have had pretty smooth sailing since.

In college I studied Philosophy and worked as a sex positive safer sex educator. I am back in school now, and enjoying working toward my masters.

I have been training in Judo (Black belt), Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu (Brown belt), and Muay Thai Kickboxing for almost a decade. I run my own Mixed Martial Arts Academy.

I love the natural world! I grew up at The Academy of Sciences (My Mom worked there) feeding and spending time with Sea Lions, Sharks, Penguins, and even Alligators. I once got suspended from elementary school for reading On The Origin of Species instead of the approved reading!
What I’m doing with my life
-I spend 40+ hours a week teaching, training, or competing in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.

-Slowly learning Brazilian Portuguese and Japanese (hook it up, even if you are as bad as me, it will be fun)

-Making my partner look good while dancing to anything. Challenges are being accepted.

-Podcasts: JRE, DTFH, Radio Lab, The Savage Lovecast, Hardcore History, Skeptic Tank, Serial, Mating Grounds, Tangentially speaking, The church of what's happening now, The Beige Phillip Show.

-Staying up to date on wierd facts about sexuality and evolutionary psychology; I'm always talking about something that either makes people want to tar and feather me or join my conversation.
I’m really good at
-Being radically, unabashedly, wildly honest.

-Expressing my feelings and taking responsibility for them.

-Finding the worst possible thing to say, realizing it is terrible, then saying it anyways in a tone that shucks all personal responsibility.

-Conversation...I can wax poetic about anything, but I have two ears and only one mouth so...

-Flirting, building intimacy, sexual exploration...I know modesty is a virtue, but so is honesty; That being said, I may be terrible at it with you, I have no idea what you are in to, and thinking I necessarily know what you want better than you do is as asinine as you saying the same about me. It sure is awesome that we can communicate, laugh, and discover each other's interests without pressure, obligation, or judgement...Right?...Amen?

-Dominant, consent-minded, exploration of fantasies.

-In an ethically Non-Monogomous/Poly relationship with turkey_herder (That's her screen name...I am not sure a turkey herder is a distinct profession, but if its yours, I want to talk...)
The first things people usually notice about me
#1. That guy kind of looks like a Who from Whoville.

#2. "Wait, what the fuck did he just say?"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite books:

Mating in Captivity
The Hitchhiker's guide to the galaxy (Life the universe and everything)
Sex at Dawn
Radical honesty
The complete works of Plato
Anything by Alan Watts
The Aldous Huxley Collection
Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance
Lila
The Ethical Slut
Lolita
Why Women Have Sex
Anything by George Orwell
The Mating Mind
Why is the penis shaped like that?
The Lathe of Heaven by Ursula K. Leguin.
Black Elk Speaks
The Lucifer Effect
Obedience to authority
Walden

Plays:
Lysistrata
A midsummer night's dream
Rent
Still haven't seen the book of mormon 😭

Movies:
Old Eddie Murphy
Youth without youth
All of Trey Parker and Matt Stone's work.
Marriage 2.0
Kinsey

Shows:
Game of thrones
Dexter
Boardwalk empire
Weeds
Masters of sex
Black sails
Spartacus
Its always sunny in Philadelphia
Rome
Etc...

Essay:
The ones who walk away from Omelas

Musical Artists?

N.E.R.D, Ray Charles, The Beatles, Led Zepplin, jimmi Hendrix, Pink Floyd, Lynyrd Skynyrd, Marvin Gaye, Otis Redding, Sam Cooke, Cab Calloway, Mos Def, Talib Kweli, Red man, Method man, Wu-Tang Clan, Black Sabbath, Jill Scott, Simon and Garfunkel, ELO, Aretha Franklin, Etta James, Billie holiday, Charlie Parker, Ravi Shankar, Miles Davis, Green Day, Bill Withers, Big L, Notorious BIG, Tupac Shakur, Willie Nelson, Snoop Dogg, MGMT, Crosby Stills Nash & Young, Honey Honey, Thievery Corporation, Charice Pempenco, The Tempatations, Michael Jackson & the Jackson 5, Lake Street Dive, you get the point.

Video Games: A good audiobook, some dabs, and an RPG always works for me when I need a break.

Elder scrolls series
Civilization series
Mass Effect series
Fallout series
1st person shooters (COD, Battlefront, etc)
The six things I could never do without
1. Jiu-Jitsu.
2. Ridiculously irrelevant life changing philosophical debates.
3. Dancing (Swing dancing is a specialty of mine).
4. Stand-up Comedy.
5. Healthy food.
6. Cuss words or my car....not sure which of the two I use more.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to best extinguish the fears and misconceptions people have around open relationships, Ethical Non-Monogamy, and being a 6'1, 220 lbs, white guy who teaches martial arts, has an amazingly beautiful girlfriend, and uses his privilege to talk about things that make most people uncomfortable.

How Prince charming is unrealistic, quite sexist, and probably couldn't think, charm, or fuck his way out of a rotting pumpkin after midnight.

How much I despise the word,"inappropriate".

How being a sex-negative Feminist is similar to being a preachy vegan who kicks their dog and tips cows on the weekend.

Demisexuality...Im pretty close to it at this point.
On a typical Friday night I am
A cozy night in, dancing, dining out, drinks, movies, a burlesque show, watching stand-up comedy, local live music, etc...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I got caught in the act by dozens of people at a drive in movie theatre during scooby doo 2 when I was 16.

I look waaaay more vanilla than I am. Consentual, judgement free, exploration of mutual fantasies is what seperates us from boring people.

PS: Grammar is sexy! It shows me that you know what it means, how it works, and where to put it!

Things I am impressed by:

Smiles, kindness, sense of humor, quality thinking, passion, vulnerability, honesty, and asking for anything you might possibly want! Although even if you tell me, I am already trying to figure it out. ;-)

Answers to FAQ's

Yes, I have had threesomes, even a foursome (MFFF and MFFM, notice the strategic placement of the first M far away from the second M with two F's in between)

Yes, I get tested regularly and I am clean.

No, I am not trying to lure you into a threesome, there has to be chemistry between everybody and I need ridiculously enthusiastic consent for anything, reluctancy is a turn off.
You should message me if
**Disclaimer**

I get alot of messages, but rarely do I get messages that pique my interest so...If you don't reply with a message of some substance or interest, I won't continue to message you. I am busy, I don't have a ton of time, but when I do, I like to be with people who are enthusiastic about meeting or talking with me. So ask me about something in my profile, something you are genuinely curious about, or tell me what you would like to do on a date with me, for example, "Hi, I really liked your profile. You swing dance and you are a teacher? It might be really fun to get to know you while you show me some moves, I have alot I want to ask you about and tell you. When are you usually free?".

I am a caring, loving, curious person who enjoys conversation and genuine connection. Let's talk, exchange stories, make new ones...Life is short and I want to look back on mine and remember great times with amazing people, let's connect :-)

You should message me if...

Just do it, I guarantee that meeting me will be easier, less complicated, and more fun than you might overthink it to be. If we hit it off, we could have a great time. If we don't hit it off about a million unicorns could die, but that's a risk I am willing to take!
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