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27 Daly City, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–100
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 11:08am
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Strictly other
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from two-year college
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), Portuguese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Born in SF and raised playing Baseball, Skateboarding all over the city, living at the Academy of Sciences (Mom worked there), and rebelling against a parent that was so permissive she didn't notice.

Went through a chubby phase until I grew a foot in 9th grade, then pretty serious acne, so self confidence took a while but now it is EARNED.

I always loved women and was fascinated with sexuality; so I spent all my summer work money on books about sex, attraction, flirting, communication, polyamory, etc... Now I'm in the beginning stages of a formal education in Human Sexuality.

At CCSF I studied Philosophy and worked as a safer sex and domestic violence/rape prevention educator. I have some horribly funny stories.

I had no rythm and I love swing music, so I took swing dancing pretty seriously for about 4 years and consequently learned to feel the beat. Now I can dance to almost anything.

I have been training in Judo, Jiu-Jitsu, (Controlling, Strangling, and Pain Compliance) and a little bit of Muay Thai Kickboxing for almost a decade. See ---->

I started a few businesses teaching kids and adults, and now I run my MMA school just outside of SF. Going to SFSU this year (Liberal studies, Human Sexuality), I need a tour!

Animal lover; especially pitbulls and reptiles.
What I’m doing with my life
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-I spend 30+ hours a week teaching, training, or competing in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.

-Slowly learning Brazilian Portuguese and Japanese (hook it up, even if you are as bad as me, it will be fun)

-Making my partner look good while dancing to anything , challenges are being accepted.

Podcasts: JRE, DTFH, Radio Lab, Hardcore History, Skeptic Tank, Serial, Mating Grounds, Tangentially speaking, The church of whats happening now, The Beige Phillip Show.

-Staying up to date on wierd facts about sexuality and evolutionary psychology. (Why are women louder than men during orgasm?)

Revealing fact: I have spent over 3000 hours teaching martial arts since I turned 18, and maybe 100 hours wearing a suit and tie.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
-Being radically, unabashedly, wildly honest.

-Expressing my feelings and taking responsibility for them.

-Finding the worst possible thing to say, realizing it is terrible, then saying it anyways in a tone that shucks all personal responsibility.

-Conversation...I can wax poetic about anything, but I have two ears and only one mouth so...
The first things people usually notice about me
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#1. That guy kind of looks like a Who from Whoville.

#2. "Wait, what the fuck did he just say?"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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SEX AT DAWN, Radical honesty, The complete works of Plato, Alan Watts, The Aldous Huxley Collection, Zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance, Lila, The Ethical Slut, Lolita, Why Women Have Sex, anything by George Orwell, The Mating Mind, Why is the penis shaped like that?,The Lathe of Heaven by Ursula K. Leguin...

Music: Anything that gets my feet tapping, hips swinging, adrenaline pumping, or simply eases the blues.

Tell me if you like these songs:

Smoke Alarm by Carsie Blanton - OFFICIAL VIDEO:

Backbone by Carsie Blanton - OFFICIAL VIDEO:

Musical Artists? Currently...N.E.R.D, Ray Charles, The Beatles, Led Zepplin, jimmi Hendrix, Pink Floyd, Lynyrd Skynyrd, Marvin Gaye, Otis Redding, Sam Cooke, Cab Calloway, Mos Def, Talib Kweli, Red man, Method man, Wu-Tang Clan, Black Sabbath, Jill Scott, Simon and Garfunkel, ELO, Aretha Franklin, Etta James, Billie holiday, Charlie Parker, Ravi Shankar, Miles Davis, Green Day, Bill Withers, Big L, Notorious BIG, Tupac Shakur, Willie Nelson, Snoop Dogg, MGMT, Crosby Stills Nash & Young, Honey Honey, Thievery Corporation, Charice Pempenco, The Tempatations, Michael Jackson & the Jackson 5, you get the point.

I am a fan of stand-up comedy, Burlesque, Pole dancing, and live music...I frequently go to shows.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Jiu-Jitsu
2. Ridiculously irrelevant life changing philosophical debates.
3. Dancing (Swing dancing is a specialty of mine)
4. Stand-up Comedy
5. Good healthy food
6. Cuss words or my car....not sure which of the two I use more.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How Prince charming is unrealistic, quite sexist, and probably couldn't charm or fuck his way out of a rotting pumpkin after midnight.

How much I despise the word,"inappropriate".

How being a sex-negative Feminist is similar to being a preachy vegan who kicks their dog and tips cows on the weekend.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Typical? Ain't nobody got an epsom salt bath wondering why I get beat up for a living.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I once got caught in the act by dozens of people at a drive in movie theatre during scooby doo 2.

I look waaaay more vanilla than I am. Consentual, judgement free, exploration of mutual fantasies is what seperates us from boring people.

Yes! I have a girlfriend. Yes! She is beautiful, smart, mature, charming, and sexy as fuck! Yes! She likes other girls and we do share intimacy and sex with others. No! You don't have to fuck her (or me for that matter). No! She will not kill you or me if we have sex. Yes! She is legitimately happier and gets fucked better after I am with another woman. Yes! I am over-sharing, but only to weed out weak people and deprogram some of the myriad of stereotypes about poly people that may make you skeptical of my intentions.

I don't care too much about a girls level of experience sexually/romantically. If you are new I can show you around, if you are really experienced I can hang, hopefully you can show me something too. If you have a good attitude!

PS: Grammar is sexy! It shows me that you know what it means, how it works, and where to put it ;-)
You should message me if
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**Disclaimer** I am a caring, loving, curious person who only respects honest discourse and genuine connection. I can be sweet, nurturing, and a great teacher. I like to get to know people on a deeper level, I don't have casual conversations or...depending on your definition, casual sex. All of that being said, I am unabashedly an ethical slut. If you are an attractive female (Did I like your page? Message you?) then I would enjoy getting to know you and finding out/ sharing all of the ways I can make your consentual, judgement free, just beteeen us, fantasies come to life. I am kinky! I like to role play, erotically asphyxiate, spank, and I can hold you down in more positions than you have ever thought of without ropes; I like ropes/restraints too! I like to make love, make videos, and I love to dominate a woman; but only after communicating what her likes, safe words, and limits are. I will be real with you, I will flirt with you, and if you desire it and ask really really nicely, I will do almost anything with you. I like to have a deeper connection because I don't want to offer you things you don't want, and unless you are really comfortable with me, I don't want to do anything but talk to you. I don't play the,"Maybe/Make me", game because I am too large and imposing for anyone to believe my story. It's either,"Fuck yes!", or I'll see you next time ;-)

Oversharing: I always use safer sex practices and I have had a Vasectomy.

So now that I've reduced your fears, or created new ones :-/, you should message me if you:

-Want to get my attention. I love it when a girl has the confidence to approach me or send me something funny/cool.

-Love to laugh.
-Don't take yourself too seriously.
-like to make genuine connections.
-Love to dance.
-Get tested for STI's regularly.
-Like to talk shit with people who reciprocate ;-)
-Can help me learn a little of a language and don't mind me asking you how to say things that are ,"inappropriate".
-Would like to meet my girlfriend and I.
-You are a shimmering example of a unicorn or would like to explore that avenue without feeling pressured. We both genuinely enjoy meeting people so no worries if you just want to chat and ask questions.

Just do it, I guarantee that meeting me will be easier, less complicated, and more fun than you might overthink it to be ;-)

If we hit it off, we could have a great time. If we don't hit it off about a million unicorns could die, but that's a risk I am willing to take.

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