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31 Brooklyn, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–43
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Feb 26
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
Mostly anything
When drinking
Dropped out of Ph.D program
Art / Music / Writing
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Okay), Spanish (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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“We discover war only once, but we discover life several times.” - André Malraux

To begin again. I left a graduate program in literature, after five years, because I needed to get away from academia. So here I am.

At a certain point, I realized that I'm a picaresque hero. No matter what happens, I always seem to come out unscathed.

I'm writing three novels, translating (got a novel translation getting published in 2014), working in a restaurant.
What I’m doing with my life
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Writing, working
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- cooking
- talking
- figuring things out
- expressing complex ideas in one sentence or less
- recommending books you haven't read and movies you haven't seen (unless you're my friend Ryan, in which case I'll never be able to surprise you with a rare find)
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm taller than them (unless I'm in Sweden or Williamsburg, in which case, I'm the same height as them). Or the tattoo on my chest.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Writers: Bertolt Brecht, Peter Weiss, Louis Zukofsky, Gertrude Stein, Albertine Sarrazin
Lately, I've actually been reading a lot of contemporary fiction, by people my age or slightly older who write about love, sex, desire, self-reflection: Chris Kraus, Sheila Heti, Ben Lerner
Directors: Jean-Luc Godard (I like the new stuff), Chantal Ackermann
Films by other directors: Sans soleil (Chris Marker), It Felt Like a Kiss (Adam Curtis), Modern Times (Charlie Chaplin), Harlan County, U.S.A. (Barbara Kopple)
My best trailer award goes to:
Shows: Louie
Musicians/composers (for now): Iannis Xenakis, Györgi Lígeti, Shabazz Palaces, Björk, Santigold, David Bowie, The Knife, Bach, Glenn Gould, James Blake
Add a few to the music category: Austra, Zola Jesus, Jacaszek, Frank Ocean
Favorite vegetable: toss-up between bak choy and tomato (I know, you don't need to tell me; but it tastes like a vegetable and functions nutritionally more like a vegetable, not a fruit, so I'm going to count it)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Dissonance (in some kind of relation to harmony)
- Images (still or moving)
- Food and water
- Other people
- My little brother (the 25 year-old brother, not the 8 year-old brother)
- Bicycle
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- Art and politics (their relation to one another)
- Ecology
- Interpersonal dynamics
- Aesthetic form

-Why some people have the same facial expression in every single photo. This borders on modern tragedy for me. It sometimes brings tears to my eyes.

-Why people don't tar and feather Jonathan Franzen every time he tries to explain his version of Kafka.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with friends, talking or dancing or seeing a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I care if your opinions are your own or just received ideas. I will politely agree with clichés, but will be cringing on the inside.

I think I got Björk sick by serving her food with gluten.
You should message me if
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You're fun, intelligent, open. Don't bother if you're racist or homophobic - I promise we won't get along.*

And contact me if you know who Peter Weiss is.

And if you can introduce me to a tiger, a leopard, or an owl. Seriously. I'd love to meet one.

Don't contact me if Ayn Rand is on your favorite books list. But you probably won't anyway, so I won't worry about that one.

Preferably, you weren't worried about the Mayan apocalypse, but I'll forgive you if you were.

*This was a caveat for when I lived in North Carolina. It seems less necessary in New York, although you never know.