I'm one of those people who's still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up. Of course I grew up many many years ago. Becoming a parent is the moment when a person's life changes immediately, radically, and for ever. Now my children are off living their own lives, and it's all pretty amazing.
I look at the world, trying to be pragmatic and rational. Generally, I look for the good and the beautiful. I can find that everywhere. Sometimes I'm so overwhelmed by options that I don't get done what I needed. But generally, I aim to be diligent about meeting my commitments. When I do commit to something, I try to give it my all.
I am unquestionably a hedonist. Life is essentially to be enjoyed. But I don't take a narrow minded view of that pleasure. I prefer to create an environment of sustained and shared pleasure. The price of selfish pleasure is usually too high.
I'm very much polyamorous, even when I have no romantic partners, which is rare. I like each relationship to last forever, but realistically all things come to an end sooner or later.
And for all that, I do have my flaws.