I could just show some pictures of me and say "this is what I look like and this is what I like to do," but to get to know a person you have to go beyond what you see and the superficial quality that most prize these days. I am not just an arranged bone structure with skin and neither are you. It is sad to say that in this day and age only a blind person can understand this. Our real being Is contained within our hearts that many experience but few actually see.
I have learned though that people are more than just part of a category or classification. If they were, it would be easier to put them in a box and judge them. This is not our purpose here. People are uniquely and wonderfully made in God’s image. There has never been a person like you. The value of one of a kind is invaluable. If that goes for things, how much more so if it is for a person!
Relationships are a gift and not an entitlement. Life itself is a gift and if a person is breathing they are blessed. Relationships are necessary just as breathing is necessary, but both are gifts and not an entitlement. If there is a void there is an opportunity to grow our faith. Luke 6:45 “A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” Much of what a person says reflects on how they feel about themselves. In that respect, I aim to speak words of intent and love, to uplift and encourage in order to bring change for the good of the people I am with. It's important to know how God values yourself first before knowing how to properly value others.
Many times I have more questions than answers. I am far from what would be considered perfect or the ideal man in the world's eyes. I am okay with that! If my goal in life was to be accepted by everyone, I would be as a leaf in a tornado being tossed every which way. I have never met a happy people pleaser. The opinions of others are just that, their opinion. It does not define or shape you unless your concern for it does.
God comes first, always have and always will. My future wife would be second, future children third, family fourth, friends fifth. I want to be a full supporter for my future spouse and be her number one companion! I would give the shirt off my back if my neighbor needed it. There is so much to give, even those small things that seem to irritate most like letting someone cut in line whether at the store or in traffic. I am quick to apologize and will claim responsibility, otherwise what dignity is there to play the blame game? I took the Ipersonic test and was labeled “the good natured realist.” I am basically a harmony addict! LOL
I realize that every relationship has its own quarrels when there is a difference in opinions. My priority is to resolve the dispute in a very loving and civil manner. If my spouse or I feel the need to act out of line or raise her or my voice, we will excuse ourselves to regain composure, pray about it, and resolve it in a peaceful manner as quickly as possible. I never raise my voice at others because that is only good for one thing, hurting others and destroying relationships. Shouting at you is one thing you don’t have to worry about.
I also love college football, anything entertaining (who doesn't like that?) and of course food! Here I go using "love" for so many little things, I think we belittle that word oftentimes. Love is sacrifice. I like to think it is pleading the benefit of the doubt on someone's behalf. Keeping it easy going, always hoping, and having enduring patience are one of the things that make marriages work. Christ is the greatest example of that. It is easy to hope when things seem possibly favorable but when all favor seems lost that is when faith is truly tested. Alas, why I have joined the online means!