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41 Santa Barbara, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 29–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Mar 1
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Has a kid
Likes dogs

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I grew up in the northeast and I've lived in New Hampshire, Massachusetts, Connecticut, and New York. I moved to Santa Barbara 13 years ago and I love it.

I'm driven and passion fuels most of what I do. I believe that anything worth doing is worth doing whole-heartedly. I value family and love spending time with my friends. I try to surround myself with good people, good food and good wine. I believe that you get back what you give in this world.

I'm constantly trying to be a better, more patient father. I have a 7 year old daughter that is constantly surprising me and she makes me laugh every day. She doesn't live with me, but I do see her a few times a week.

I also believe every life needs a great soundtrack. Music is a huge part of my world and I seldom travel anywhere without Spotify in tow. I love to see live music - at a bar in LA or here at the Bowl. I enjoy a wide range of musical styles, but I'm a rock n' roller at heart.

My ideal match shares my passion for food, wine, fashion and music. She's equally as comfortable in heels as she is in jeans and flip flops. She loves to travel and be spontaneous, but knows how to balance that with work and family. She can be serious when she needs to be, but also enjoys laughing at herself (and me) and finding humor in everyday life.

Could that be you?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
By day, I oversee PR & Communications for a very large tech company. By night, I split my time between being the best Dad I can be and going out with friends for a great meal and amazing local wine.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Hmmm.... I'm a pretty good cook.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm not sure. I've never asked anyone that question.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: The Dirt, Heroin Diaries, Drinking with Strangers, Slash, Kitchen Confidential, Mortality and Trust Agents.

Movies: Goodfellas, Pulp Fiction, Almost Famous and Garden State.

Shows: Californication, Breaking Bad, Modern Family, Friday Night Lights, Real Time with Bill Maher, The Walking Dead, Mad Men, The Newsroom, Girls, House of Lies and pretty much anything on Food Network.

Music: I'm a rock guy at heart: Guns N' Roses, Stars in Stereo, Icon for Hire, Foo Fighters, AC/DC, Mother Love Bone, Def Leppard, U2, Van Halen, Beatles, Alice in Chains and Dishwalla.

Food: I am a huge food and wine person. I love food of all types including: sushi, Italian, French, Indian, Middle Eastern, Spanish, Mexican... the list goes on.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Obviously my family and friends are the most important aspects of my life, but as far as physical "things," well, they are:

1. iPhone
2. Santa Barbara County Pinot Noir
3. DVR
4. Twitter
5. John Varvatos Clothing/Shoes
6. Tee Off
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Well, I don't spend a lot of time thinking about this, but I do wonder why people on dating websites insist on posting pictures of beaches or the ocean in their profiles. I mean, I get it, they're beautiful, but I live here too and I've seen them before. :) Oh, that and large group photos - posting a picture taken from 30 feet away of you with 25 of your closest friends is of absolutely no help... Just sayin'.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I am looking to relax, have a cocktail or two and enjoy a great meal in the company of people I care about.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'll share that with you over a cocktail. :)
You should message me if
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If you're a strong, independent woman, I hope you'll reach out and say hello!