Musical, too sensitive, highly emotionally literate, slightly judgemental (with, admittedly, no right to be), only very slightly reconstructed English northern male with "wordy" sensibilities.
In a simple, contentedly childless marriage which (in context) turns out to be rather complicated. We're both aware it's otherwise not as it should be. Yes, I understand her. Yes, we do love each other. No, I don't want to hurt/leave her and therefore do not want (and obviously cannot give) exclusivity. I'd love for us to be openly poly but don't think that's going to happen any time soon, so independent-spirited "friends" is what I'm after...(At this point, I'd like to assure you that I bear no comparison with "King Rat" physically or psychologically and used to identify more with the "too nice"-type (no longer quite that, thankfully.)) I have depths hidden within my depths, and hidden as much from me as from you.
My sense of humour is highly defined (if occasionally a little dark/?warped) but recently under-exercised, so I'd like to get it a bit leaner and fitter. My group dynamics type is "the plant" - the guy who adroitly pops the bubble of the "the boss" whilst taking the piss, ever so gently, allowing the group to move on in a more constructive manner without completely de-railing it.
I revere performing arts & music (I'm a 4-string bass guitar demon myself and, of course, a frustrated drummer), including most genres of theatre, film (especially picaresque dramas and well-made horror flix) and am quite artistically-minded. I like art galleries, exhibitions, lectures - pretty much anything that demands more from the creator than just knowledge and technique. I also love to watch people doing things that they love to do well; the more skilfully done, the greater the viewing appeal.
I read just about anything - increasingly books in the section recently renamed as "Smart Thinking"(?!) in my local Waterstones (previously Pop Psychology? No idea...) I did balk at "The Magic Mountain", though, both as an undergrad and much more recently...allegorical characters in modern fiction have never struck me as big or clever...or readable. (A bit like this profile...although, in mitigation, I sound much less stuffy in acoustic format!)
I have a weakness for good beer but don't (often) drink to excess.
I'm interested in languages, literature, linguistics, psychology, medicine, art, philosophy, showmanship, closet rebellion and most other food for thought. Naturally, I like a good conversation and can be highly verbal, but not too opinionated.
I'm looking (primarily) for (a) female friend/s for connection;
I tend to wear my (big) heart on my sleeve and try to communicate as straightforwardly as possible without being too offensive/disarming!
If you're pretty grounded, non-judgemental, not too unfulfilled and like to take a chance (or are just curious) you might like to get in touch...
2) meeting emotional need (not so good with practical, but working on it);
3) basic empathy
4) synthesizing emotion and ideas
5) giving "old-fashioned" looks
my self-and-everything-else-(but-not-everyone-else)-deprecating sense of humour;
that I lollop in a slightly ursine fashion (as opposed to like Igor in "Young Fronkenshteen") rather than walk;
that I can be a curious mixture of "rough diamond" and trenchant wit.
Movies - Withnail & I, This Is Spinal Tap (or pretty much any Rob Reiner film), anything with Geoffrey Rush, Greg Kinnear, Cate Blanchett. I also have an irrational weakness for Sandra Bullock. Tend to go for character- (or idea- ) rather than plot-driven stuff, though.
Shows - anything by the RSC; as for films, above.
Music - any good ol' fashioned guitar rock; funk; metal; punk, etc. Partial to a lot of classical too; Wagner soundscapes (sorry - I mean operas, of course - ahem!)
2) good conversation and communication;
3) classic, long-haired, mirror-shaded rock (with or without misogynist and/or ironic sub-text; it is, after all, all about the guitar, drums and vocals!);
4) brilliant books & poetry;
5) Suffolk-, Staffs- and Sussex-brewed ale;
6) lingo & culture generally
human projectors and prisms; benign psychopathy; reckless abandon;
that dream I used to have as a kid, in which I would run along the road, flapping my arms, and eventually take off (with no sense of surprise, alarm, or shock - just pure exhilaration);
attachment disorder; disordered attachments;
forgotten knowledge of jobs well done; telepathic sympathy;
staring the Abyss out - though it's difficult to tell whether it's blinked first 'cos it's so damn dark down there...:-)
Though I have musical foundations and literary elevations, the fact that the whole lot's built on rock works for me;
I was born with a complete inability to learn to bulls**t. It's got me into trouble in the past and will probably do so in future, but it keeps me anchored, as they say... (I'm not and will never be "grounded", sadly.)
Solipsism doesn't quite cover it - methodological solipsism with added sociability, maybe...(after much Wikipeding!)
you like a good convo;
consider yourself fully adult but still completely in touch with your "inner child";
think yourself creative;
have a healthy disrespect for (if not all-out disdain of) small-talk;
thought you understood the natural sciences but now realise you don't and would like to re-learn (& teach someone without a clue - yes, Yours Truly!) - all about them;
don't feel the need to explore/define boundaries before you explore/define people/relationships;
consider yourself reasonably complex;
are similarly offended that OKC calls you "old-fashioned" and absolutely don't agree (can't they/we develop something a little less culturally biased?) or think you might still like to meet such a person;
like to laugh (preferably about yourself at least as much as anything and everything else);
have an appreciation of (without a preoccupation with) the absurd;
think your personality type would complement (rather than attempt to "take in hand") a genuine malcontent;
are curious about people who subvert and conform to the English northerner stereotype in equal measure;
don't think all men are basically imperfect women because of their chromosomal make-up;
find aural stimulation (including pure voice and accents) - errm -stimulating!
And quadrupled points for anyone who can convince me that they genuinely like, appreciate and can discern good beer.
(Or can tolerate a raging beer snob.)