Musical, too sensitive, highly emotionally literate, slightly judgemental (with, admittedly, no right to be), only very slightly reconstructed English northern male with "wordy" sensibilities.
In a simple, contentedly childless marriage which (in context) turns out to be rather complicated. We're both aware it's otherwise not as it should be. Yes, I understand her. Yes, we do love each other. No, I don't want to hurt/leave her and therefore do not want (and obviously cannot give) exclusivity. I'd love for us to be openly poly but don't think that's going to happen any time soon, so independent-spirited "friends" is what I'm after...(At this point, I'd like to assure you that I bear no comparison with "King Rat" physically or psychologically and used to identify more with the "too nice"-type (no longer quite that, thankfully.) I have depths hidden within my depths, and hidden as much from me as from you.
My sense of humour is highly defined (if occasionally a little dark/?warped) but recently under-exercised, so I'd like to get it a bit leaner and fitter. My group dynamics type is "the plant" - the guy who adroitly pops the bubble of the "the boss" whilst taking the piss, ever so gently, allowing the group to move on in a more constructive manner without completely de-railing it.
I revere performing arts & music (I'm a 4-string bass guitar demon myself and, of course, a frustrated drummer), including most genres of theatre, film (especially picaresque dramas and well-made horror flix) and am quite artistically-minded. I like art galleries, exhibitions, lectures - pretty much anything that demands more from the creator than just knowledge and technique. I also love to watch people doing things that they love to do well; the more skilfully done, the greater the viewing appeal.
I read just about anything - increasingly books in the section recently renamed as "Smart Thinking"(?!) in my local Waterstones (previously Pop Psychology? No idea...) I did balk at "The Magic Mountain", though, both as an undergrad and much more recently...allegorical characters in modern fiction have never struck me as big or clever...or readable. (A bit like this profile...although, in mitigation, I sound much less stuffy in acoustic format!)
I have a weakness for good beer but don't (often) drink to excess.
I'm interested in languages, literature, linguistics, psychology, medicine, art, philosophy, showmanship, closet rebellion and most other food for thought. Naturally, I like a good conversation and can be highly verbal, but not too opinionated.
I'm looking (primarily) for (a) female friend/s for connection;
I tend to wear my (big) heart on my sleeve and try to communicate as straightforwardly as possible without being too offensive/disarming!
If you're pretty grounded, non-judgemental, not too unfulfilled and like to take a chance (or are just curious) you might like to get in touch...