Yes, I am married. Yes, we're both aware it's not as it should be. Yes, it's (very) complicated. Yes, I understand her. Yes, we do love each other. No, I don't want to hurt/leave her and, no, I don't want (and obviously cannot give) exclusivity. Oh, and no -there are no kids. Nor does either of us want any (for those who may be interested or have made up their minds already.) I'd love for us to be openly poly but don't think that's going to happen any time soon, so "friends" is what I'm after...
On the plus side, I'm easy-going, broad-minded, good company (in small groups) with a highly defined (if occasionally a little dark/?warped) sense of humour. I'm the person quickest to spot the unintended double-entendre/Freudian slip and the one who fails to avoid making and spotting his own, with often hilarious results. My group dynamics type is "the plant" - the guy who adroitly pops the bubble of the "the boss" whilst taking the piss, ever so gently, allowing the group to move on in a more constructive manner without completely de-railing it.
I love music (I'm a 4-string bass guitar demon myself), theatre, films (especially picaresque dramas and well-made horror flix) and am quite artistically-minded. Like art galleries, exhibitions, all the performing arts (except, maybe, dance, unless I'm taking part - I particularly like a good ceilidh when in the mood.)
I also read just about anything.
I have a weakness for good beer but don't (often) drink to excess.
I'm interested in languages, linguistics, psychology, medicine, art, philosophy, showmanship, closet rebellion and most other food for thought. Naturally, I like a good conversation and can be highly verbal, but not too opinionated.
I'm looking (primarily) for (a) female friend/s for connection;
I tend to wear my (big) heart on my sleeve and try to communicate as straightforwardly as possible without being too offensive/disarming!
If you're pretty grounded, non-judgemental, not too unfulfilled and like to take a chance (or are just curious) you might like to get in touch...