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25 M Watsonville, CA

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My self-summary
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My name is Ben.
I live in La Selva Beach, a small community about 5 minutes from Watsonville.

I have lived in San Jose most of my life. I spent a couple years in Sonora, a brief stay in the Army, back to San Jose and now La Selva Beach. I really like the area, but almost all of my friends have moved out of the area which kind of sucks.

As my user name implies, I am a scuba diver.
I absolutely love the outdoors and enjoy hiking, backpacking, fishing, hunting, rock climbing and so on. It's been a while, but I also enjoy horseback riding. I did a horse whispering internship some years ago.

Here is the part where I piss some people off.
I am strongly Atheist and am unapologetically vocal against religion. I am also a gender egalitarian and an anti-feminist. I have been for years, way before women against feminism started trending. I have a hard time keeping this particular part of my profile short, but I am going to try to give as brief a summary as possible. I believe in gender equality. I believe there are men's issues that need to be addressed and I believe (I can support this with plenty of evidence) that the modern western feminist movement has gone way too far and the movement has turned into a misandric (opposite of misogynistic) and toxic hate movement, completely divorced from reality. I am fully aware of the dictionary definition of feminism and I support equity feminism, but I judge feminism as a whole based on it's actions, not what the dictionary says. I am fully aware that there are still women's issues, but I contest the notion that men's issues cannot be addressed until every last women's issue has been dealt with. I do not subscribe to the theory of patriarchy, I think it is an absolute load of crap. I do not believe there is a rape culture (at least not the version feminists say there is) and I believe the wage gap is a myth. I also think the idea that gender is entirely a social construct and boys and girls are born as blank slates is absolutely preposterous and anyone who actually believes that is delusional. I would be more than happy to discuss the issues and to back up my arguments with plenty of reference material. I run a Facebook page where I post about these things in order to keep them off my personal page after my friends and family got sick of hearing about it.

I value reason very highly so as a little game I pose a question from an article I recently read.
"In a hospital there are four dying men. Each could be saved by a transplant of a different organ, but no donors are available. In the hospital waiting room is a healthy man who, if we killed him, could provide the requisite organ to each dying patient, thereby saving four lives for the price of one. Is it morally right to kill the healthy man and harvest his organs?"
If you said no, then why not?
"What if the dying men were Beethoven, Shakespeare, Einstein and Martin Luther King? Would it be then right to sacrifice a man who is homeless and friendless, dragged in from a ditch?"

I love animals, but due to my fur and feather allergies I prefer reptiles, amphibians, fish and invertebrates. I have a pretty big reptile collection, including several hots which I handle responsibly.

I am full of creativity, can write fairly well (though I've been told my dialogue needs some work), am a critical thinker and a problem solver.
What I’m doing with my life
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For the last two years I have been working on starting a small business that I hope to grow into something bigger. The short version is terrarium interior design. It is just taking me longer than I would have liked to make it profitable. It is fun to do but if I were to charge for my time the tanks would end up more expensive than anyone around here would be willing to pay. My hope is that I can get to the point of doing larger projects and take on more upscale clients such as display tanks for office lobbies and so forth. For a better idea of what I mean, google image search paludarium.
I am also trying to learn how to build the terrariums and aquariums themselves because I am pretty sure selling those would make fairly decent money. My other money making project is a Dubia colony which I need to quadruple in size, split in half and then quadruple again before I can actually start making money off of.
I have been trying to get a regular day job for ages and it just isn't happening.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Knowing random and primarily useless information.
Being somewhat socially awkward.
Spotting reptiles.
Driving mountain roads faster than most people would be comfortable with.
Being creative.
Guessing on tests.
Coming up with analogies that explain something.
Writing and expressing ideas.
Coming up with business ideas that would cost massive amounts of money to actually start but would be freaking awesome if they were actually possible.
The first things people usually notice about me
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It is usually my red beard which is an actual red/auburn while my regular hair is more of a light brown, so some people ask if I dye it, which I do not.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The God Delusion, the Halo series, the Star Wars extended universe books, The myth of male power, The War on Boys, several cook books (mainly focusing on the grill), a whole stack of reptile and amphibian books.
Movies: Serenity, Step Brothers, The Hangover 2, Land of the Lost, Indiana Jones, Star Wars and so on..

Shows: Firefly, Doctor Who, Game of Thrones, South Park, Bones, Dexter, The Walking Dead, Warehouse 13, Castle, Hell on Wheels and many, many more. I highly value a strong plot, good acting and a good title sequence :P

Music: I have a mixed taste in music. I like some of the mainstream stuff, but I also like colonial, folk, traditional, some classical, some soundtrack and some comedy.

Food: There are a lot of different types of food I enjoy. Pizza, Sushi, Seafood, Mexican, Thai, Chinese, Italian, Mediterranean and so on. I really enjoy salads and wild game.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends, pets, creativity, flip-flops and hiking boots, my favorite hiking hat, Internet, logic and context.
I can do without limits to six things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How awesome it would be if someone started cloning miniature dinosaurs and they got into the pet trade.
Plans for the zombie apocalypse.
Crazy business ideas.
Video game and movie ideas.
Hair brain inventions.
Gender and social issues.
Gun rights.
Religion and cross cultural issues.
Government corruption and government lunacy.
How a lot of societies problems have many feeder problems, making them all incredibly difficult (often impossible) to actually fix.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually Netflix and relaxing at my computer.
What I would prefer though, would be having friends over for a BBQ, a beach bonfire, camping or going on a cross country trip..
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am a bit of a geek and would like to get a collection of costumes to go to Renaissance fairs and Star Wars conventions with. I already have a set of Stormtrooper armor, but it needs some fixing up and I haven't used it since high school.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–27
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
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-You are Atheist.
-Are supportive of gender equality for both men and women.
-Do not get offended by political incorrectness or crude humor.
-At least entertained the idea of the transplant moral dilemma question I posed rather than refusing to even entertain the idea. Whether or not you thought it would ever be acceptable is kind of irrelevant.
-You like reptiles, amphibians, invertebrates and fish.
-Know what I meant by keeping hots and don't have a problem with it.
-You like the outdoors (camping, hiking, adventure in general..)
-Like to travel.
-Have a question.
-Think we might make a good match.
-Want to chat.