If you're seriously looking and ready for a relationship...read on :)

I really would appreciate an honest, fun and sincere man in my life right now. I know you're out there...just waiting to find someone who can be honest, loving and caring back. Here I am!

About me:

I am a tallish, curvy, intelligent, music loving woman. Sometimes witty and lighthearted. Sometimes deep and mysterious. I'm a slightly cautious, caring, unique, sarcastic, eccentric, daydreaming realist...and I'm looking for my best friend and dare I say...soul mate.

I'm the kind of woman that likes to be close to and in contact with my guy. Not attached atvthe hip, but I want to be a priority, because my guy is my priority, after my kuds, of course. If you see that as clingy, or require weekends away from your girl frequently to hang with your bros...we're probably not going to make each other happy.

I've spent the last year and a half trying to make a new life for me and my kids and I'm feeling great about the way things are headed. It would be nice to have a partner to enjoy life with though. I find myself feeling like a piece of the happiness puzzle is missing for me.

I'm hoping to find my guy. The one that gives me butterflies and makes me feel safe, secure and loved. A man that can be a man, and is strong and loving enough to appreciate the woman I am, in my 'passionate about something' moments, as well as my 'quirky, insecure' moments. I want to have fun with someone. I want to enjoy things and feel important to him. I want him to be important to me. I need a man that can show me he's real and means it when he tells me something. His actions should tell me every day. I want him to know how I feel about him without question too.

I want someone who WANTS to spend time with me because we enjoy each other that much. I don't ask for anything I'm not willing to reciprocate. I want to find the RIGHT man...and for us to be madly in love, without question. I would love to find a man I can feel proud of because of his character and giving nature. Someone who is strong and protective, but also sweet and loving. But, he can be a bad boy in private ;)

It seems to me many people feel like the people in their lives are disposable and replaceable. I want to be with someone where that is not an option. Arguing and compromise are parts of a relationship. I'm not particularly argumentative, but I don't want to be with someone who runs when things get difficult or routine. A relationship ebbs and flows, but love should carry you through it all. Too much to ask? I hope not.

I really just want someone to share my life with. I want someone to plan cookouts and holidays with. Someone to go to dinner and a movie with. Someone who feels happy just doing whatever together...just because we are doing it together. I want someone solid and trustworthy...strong and honest...loving and cuddly.

I have come to realize that most of the superficial stuff doesn't even matter. Tall, dark and handsome doesn't necessarily equate to smart, funny and loving. It doesn't mean he's honest, strong and mature either. Sometimes you get what you ask for physically...and it's not what you need emotionally. It is a bonus when you can get both though ;)

I'm not looking for an email or text relationship, but I do think it's important to talk a bit before making plans to go out. Not months or anything...but a bit of email/chat/text/phone conversation will let us both know if we think we want to take time out of our schedules to actually do the face-to-face thing.

I need to put this out there because I think some potential matches have been lost due to them thinking I was stalling when they asked me out....

I'm a single mom of 3. The other parent is a plane flight away. That means no 'every other weekend' arrangement. I'm it...24/7. Arranging dates can be done...but I pick and choose who I think is a good match because that means planning time away from my kids. I won't take my kids on dates and you won't meet them unless you and I become an 'Us'. My kids and I are worth it :)

Just needed to say that because I've had men offer to take me and the kids out, but that doesn't work for me.

OK...end of rules section. I really am a delightful date! :)

Trying to make one for me and the kids. I'll go in to detail one-on-one. I'm kind of in flux at the moment. All my baggage is neatly stored in the overhead compartment though.

I finally landed a job after looking for almost a year (go me!), but if you're looking for a driven, corporate, intellectual who will try and wow you with her ability to bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan...you should probably look elsewhere.

I have passion about life, my kids, my family, my music...and my guy, if I find him...but I am not out to conquer the world. I just wanna enjoy life as comfortably and as pleasantly as I can. If I happen to conquer the world, so be it! I have major potential...so don't think I'm content. You should never settle for content!

I'm still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow-up, while trying to grow-up.

I'm also trying to figure out how it came to be that my daughter is almost already grown-up.

I'm raising two quirky, intelligent, funny, loving, amazing boys.

Some day I'd love to travel the world and see sights I should have seen at a much younger age. I'll still appreciate them though :)

~Procrastinating

~Pointing out the obvious

~Typing

~Shopping

~Kissing and associated activities

~Giving advice that I should probably be following myself

Online, when people see my pics, they usually mention my eyes. Lips are a close second.

I've started a list of "You know who you look like..." people, because I frequently get email telling me I look like 'someone'. Lynda Carter (Wonder Woman), Melanie Lynskey (Two and a Half Men), Patricia Heaton (Everyone Loves Raymond), Chrissie Hynde (The Pretenders), Cote de Pablo (NCIS), Jewel Staite (Firefly) and John Lennon seem to be favorites. The newest inductee is Phoebe Cates. Someone emailed to say I remind them of her today. BTW...I don't look like any of these people :)

In person, I am told I look much younger than my age, which I'll take...thank you very much!

People also think they know me from somewhere or that we went to school together. Usually, neither is the case.

Also...guys like my hands. I don't know why. Several men have mentioned this to me, and not while I had my hands actually ON them. Even before I've ever put my hands on them they mention it. They like the way my hands look I guess?? They like my wacky nail polish colors? I'm not sure. Just telling you what they tell me....

I like J.R.R. Tolkien...The Fellowship of The Ring is probably my all-time favorite book. I should read more. I like some of the classics too...but I haven't reread them in the past 15-20yrs. Life and kids contribute to that. The last books I bought were "He's Just Not That Into You" (and I know how to use it!) ...and "Booky Wook 2: This Time It's Personal" (...which I haven't read yet).

I love Barnes & Nobel dates though! Walking around...showing each other what sections we like. Picking up cool art/photography/gardening books and checking em out. And...they have Starbucks AND are open til 11pm on Saturday night. Woot!

I love classic rock, blues and alternative music. Some favorites off the top of my head...The Beatles, Green Day, Jack Johnson, The Pretenders, Blondie, Sheryl Crow, K T Tunstal, 80's and 90's classics, Adele, Amy Winehouse, Kaiser Chiefs, The Rolling Stones, Led Zep, Damien Rice, Coldplay, Stevie Ray Vaughan, Train, John Prine, The Mamas and The Papas, Buckcherry, The Black Keys, Aerosmith, Nine Inch Nails, Red Hot Chili Peppers....and so many more. I love music. I'll give everything a chance to win me over.

There are so many artists that I have the privilege of calling my friends, that aren't famous but are amazing...Sean Kagalis, Tukso Okey, Terry Lynn Melody, Buzz Paulino, Guitar Zane...I could go on and on....and if you actually know any of those names, I know where YOU hangout when you're online!
(I manage Guitar Zane. Check him out! Guitar Zane)

I can play a little guitar..piano too but haven't played much in years. Once upon a time I played accordion and was good enough for Myron Floren (does anyone know who he was besides me?? And ah-one-ah and ah-two-ah...) to want me in his young kids band. Puberty saved me from that ;)

I sing to tracks doing online gigs at virtual venues where people pay me and tip me to do an hour show. If you want some bad-but-here-you-go samples, you can go here to hear me singing. I didn't say I was good...just that I like to and people toss me a few pennies to do it regularly. Music is just part of who I am.

I LOVE movies...but I've neglected seeing so many of them over the last 10-15 yrs. Some of my favorites are GoodFellas, Dog Day Afternoon, It's a Wonderful Life, The Breakfast Club, The Wizard of Oz, The Sound of Music, Lost in Translation, The Big Chill, The Lord of the Rings Trilogy. I also like watching old b&w movies on lazy, rainy/snowy weekends. Dinner and a movie dates are cool too!

Currently, I have limited access to TV and only watch whatever comes on the major stations my rabbit ears pull in from Boston. (What is this? 1950? My house is a time warp.)

I'm a news hound and if there's a breaking story, I feel the need to seek out all the info I can on it. I like reruns that remind me of my childhood.I like The Walton's reruns (let's do the time warp again...). I'll watch All In The Family and Maude reruns and giggle about how controversial they were when I was young. I don't like most reruns though. I don't like when someone spends a perfectly good Saturday or Sunday morning watching Magnum PI or Simon and Simon on cable. WTH? But...I digress.

Having said all that...I also like reality TV. I know...I've just lost IQ points, haven't I? I don't like ALL reality TV....but I'm guilty of watching a few shows regularly.

I like Food Network too. Chopped and Dinner/Restaurant Impossible...and the Challenge shows. Man, maybe my TV viewing habits should be in the 'most private thing I'm willing to admit' section...

I love to cook...and eat...and be merry! I love to have family and friends around to cook for too. My tastes vary.
If I'm in 'get healthy' mode and cutting all carbs, sugars, dairy and fats from my diet, I can really get in to a big salad with all kinds of fresh veggies and maybe a piece of chicken or fish with grilled veggies on the side, and a few protein shakes tossed in throughout the day.

But...if I'm in 'food is the next best thing to sex' mode, I love pizza, Chinese takeout, pasta, ice cream and anything chocolate and sweet.

I just love sharing good food and good times with the people I love.

We all know the obvious, so people should assume this question has more soul than your answers of 'oxygen, water, food, my kids' ...K?

Imma say:

~Passion

~Laughter

~Romance

~Hope

~Intelligence

~Compassion

Although I do like having my computer, cell phone, vehicle, TV (don't watch it much though), music (to listen to and sing along with) and I kinda like unsweet tea (that's sweet tea, with chemical sugar poured in to it). I also love me some iced coffee.

Way too much.

I live in my head sometimes.

It can get crowded in there.

I hope my kids come out okay, despite their parents effing things up.

I wonder if I can ever really find a guy that is 'IT' for me. I spend a lot of time thinking about him...and I don't even know him yet.

I'm also wondering how many more words I have to add to make my profile reach 1,000 words so I can reach that 90% OKC is dangling in front of me...

...oh, I seemed to have conquered the 90% thing. I'm at 100%! Go me!

Right now, I'm thinking about what to make for dinner...

...pasta sounds like a good idea....although, the carbs and sugar content make me feel a wee bit guilty about loving it so much...

I spend it home with the kids most of the time.

I go out on a date on rare occasion. Parenting 24/7 doesn't allow much time for dating, so I'm kind of picky about it. If I find someone out there and we hit it off, I'll be more than willing to make an effort.

I really need to start getting out and meeting people and living a little more with the grown-ups though. That's where you come in...right?? Mr Fun Guy...

What I'd like to be doing is having a few appetizers and drinks, listening to a great band or performer, at some cool club that looks out over the city, with amazing new friends and a dude I'm hot for...

...or staying in cuddled up on the couch with a dude I'm hot for...*sigh*, some day...

I'm not really shy about disclosing things about myself, but I'll leave my privates for a more intimate setting.

~You've read this far and aren't ready to delete your OKC acct and give up.

~You've read this far and feel I owe you at least a Hello.

~Anything I wrote up there sparked your interest.

~You're bored.

~You're also a little lost and just want someone nice to spend some time with.

~It's late at night...cause I'm probably up.

~You can entertain me.

~You're 35+, but -50, and still fairly young at heart...and hot of bod. You don't have to be SMOKIN' hot...just, you know...huggable and strong. I'm not in shape at all. I just like men who lean toward healthy. Asking too much? :-)

~You're a handsome, tall, tattooed, smart, funny, rock star with a MILF fetish ;-)

~You're okay with getting to know each other a bit through IM's/Texts/Phone calls before we rush off and run away together.

~You just wanna.