Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
**Full-Disclosure: I am still living in NYC while studying for the
bar. But I will move to D.C. later in the summer.**
Growing up, when people asked me what I wanted to do, I said I
liked government but I also liked doing theater. And the response
was always the same: "you should be a lawyer"! So that
I grew up in CT, moved to Boston for school, and came to NYC for
even more school and to be closer to family. Now I've graduated law
school and starting a career as a lawyer working for the government
I'm a nerd for the kind of useless information that makes me the
best partner for pub trivia. It's probably because my grandmother
watched Jeopardy whenever she babysat my sister and me.
Did you ever watch Doug growing up? It's surprising how often I
have daydreams like he did based on whatever is going on around
I'm on this site because I don't like the idea of meeting people in
bars or clubs. It's a great place to spend with friends or meet for
a first date, but trying to pick someone up in one? No.
I'm looking for my best friend: someone who has a few interests in
common with me so we can make that initial connection, but with
some un-shared interests too so we can learn to do new things
together and grow as people.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Recently graduated with a dual degree in law and public
administration. About to start my career as a lawyer working for
I had a few extra-curriculars back in law school. I used to run its
a cappella group as well as its musical theater show. Which means
that after a few dates, I will sing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Baking. I used to have a part-time job catering private parties
(best job title ever). Even though I left that job years ago, I
never lost the urge to bake large quantities of food. I love trying
out new recipes, even though it's usually from the dessert section.
One of these days I'm going to have to learn how to cook regular
food too. Someday.
Also I love to make jokes and just generally be silly. But fair
warning: my sense of humor has a very "Chandler" quality to
I have a strange skill in which I can turn almost anything someone
says into a song cue. Which also means I might respond to something
you say with an obscure movie quote. The results will surprise you.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hazel eyes and my big toothy smile.
And while it's not the first thing people notice, I have a Harry
Potter-esque lightning bolt mark on one of my front teeth. Make of
that what you will.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I fell in love with Tess of the D'Urbervilles and The Great
Gatsby after reading them in school. But with school occupying my
reading time these days, I don't have much time for reading except
for some literary junk food thrillers. Right now I'm rotating
between several series: James Bond, Lord of the Rings, The Girl
with the Dragon Tattoo books, Game of Thrones series, the Jack
Reacher books, and the Harry Potter series.
Movies: I love old movies, and by that I mean stuff made before
1960. I like mysteries (Laura), screwball comedies (Bringing Up
Baby), and some of the interesting stuff that falls in-between (The
Thin Man). One of my all-time favorites is Cinema Paradiso, an
excellent, romantic movie. That and Rob Reiner's Sleepless in
Seattle and When Harry Met Sally. I'm also a huge James Bond nerd.
And I love the cult classics Clue and The Rocky Horror Picture
Shows: I don't watch that much TV anymore, but there is a list of
shows I want to watch when I find the time. Awhile ago I was on a
kick watching old episodes of SNL (70s/80s). But the classic go-to
is Friends. I have been getting into some shows on YouTube channels
too. But my favorite show is I Love Lucy, whenever I visit my
parents, my mom and I will watch Lucy in the morning and race to
guess which episode is playing based on the opening...we've seen
every episode so many times, our game never lasts more than a few
Music: I'm pretty open in terms of my taste in music. Anything that
makes a good karaoke song is good for me. But at any given time I
have an obsession song, which I will happily listen to 100 times on
repeat until I find the next song.
Food: I was a picky eater as a kid, and now I'm making up for lost
time by trying just about everything that's out there, including
liver and onions. But my comfort food favorites are Caribbean/Cuban
and Chinese takeout.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My collection of recipes
A good book or movie to curl up to
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How a story would be different if I was a character. I would make a
great Smash Adams, and a pretty good Race Canyon, but I don't think
Quailman needs my help.
I also wonder what part of the city to explore next. NYC seems to
have an unlimited supply of shops, cafes, places to eat, places to
people-watch, and other places that don't fit a category. New York
is like the Internet, if you can imagine it, for better or worse,
it exists somewhere in these 5 boroughs.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having a drink with my friends or trying out a new recipe at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Oh no you don't, I have to save something to talk about for our
Ok fine, here's a real response. I love taking friends to see the
Rocky Horror Picture Show with audience participation. Sometimes I
dress up, and while I might not have all the call-outs memorized, I
time warp like nobody's business.
You should message me if
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You'd like to meet me! After all that's what dating is all
You'll notice the relatively large age range I've listed. I've met
so many women nearer me in age, with whom I could not relate. And
I've met older women with whom I could talk for hours, and who's
company felt just right. I want an emotional connection; someone at
a maturity level compatible with mine. That transcends age, and I'm
not going to limit myself based on a social assumption of what a
proper age range would be. That said I don't feel comfortable
venturing too far in the other direction, sorry 18-early 20s year
I'm happy to get to know you before we meet so we can figure out
what we have in common and if there's a connection, I usually wait
2 or 3 messages before asking to meet anyway (helps to get a better
sense of the person before meeting in person, and do I have a story
Finally, I'm not averse to a casual relationship if that seems to
fit the situation: if at that time, one or both of us is not in a
place to enter a relationship right away. However the terms of that
would need to be clear from the beginning: I once fell for a woman
I saw casually because I thought a relationship might be possible
and she wasn't in that place (the blame there falls on me for not
being honest with her about my feelings). That hurts, I don't want
to do that to you, and I don't want you to do it to me, so
communication is paramount.
I don't list "casual sex" on my preferences because there is a
difference between random sex and having a lover with whom you can
develop a special intimacy without other obligations. My worst
sexual experiences were those that had no meaning, no tenderness
behind them. Even if we aren't dating and a relationship does not
develop, I would want a tenderness to exist that would make sex
feel intimate. And I would worry that including "casual sex" in my
preferences would send the wrong message.
That was a lot to say, but the best way to attract the kind of
woman you want is to first be clear about who you are.
Think you can take me? Let's dance!
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