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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 37-55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:36am
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Other and it’s important
Two-year college
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
So a bit about'll have to ask me to find out more.

I am mostly a normal guy… well at least on the outside the inside is a bit off color and poly geeky kinky. There are a lot of different pieces to me and like a puzzle each piece adds to the whole trying to describe how those pieces fit isn’t something I am great at doing. I have worked as a chef, a geek, a laborer.
I like to stay home by a fire (except my new place doesn't have a fireplace, does yours?) or to travel to see new places. I like long walks in the evenings or playing games on the computer. I like great shows, and cheesy movies. So much depends on who I’m with and the mood at the time.

I grew up a New Yorker and I guess I'll always have a bit of that in me. But I have lived in many places and they have all changed me. I'm a first generation American, and also date back to the revolution. I like wearing a tux to a show, or eating a burger on the corner in jeans. There isn't a definition that has ever really resonated with me. Maybe you can find one?

I’d love to meet folks that add to my life, people that smile and see the joy in the things around them. I’m looking for a person with whom I can first build a friendship and I’m looking for a person that makes me laugh. I’m looking for a person for fun, play, or FWB, but really I think that friendship would be the best take away in the end.

I am Honest, Witty, and Authentic
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I think I have had a pretty full life, but I also look forward to adding more experiences to my life. At this point I have reached a place in life where I’m comfortable with myself, but still want to grow. I spend my time split between doing the work that pays my bills, and doing the work that fulfils my heart with a local non-profit. Yes that takes a lot of my time, but it leaves me feeling rewarded.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I’m really good at cooking, baking, and problem solving. I’m good at being a friend, and at being loyal. I can usually see both sides to an issue (which is a blessing and a curse).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes (at least that's what they tell me)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This could get long, my favorite changes with my mood. But right now?

Books: Most by Neil Stephenson, William Gibson, P.K. Dick, S.M. Stirling.
In general I tend to the science fiction/fantasy genre. I have been reading some alternative history lately and likeing it.

Movies: Better Off Dead, Blade Runner, The Wall, Rocky Horror, Star Wars, Serenity, Harold and Maude.
My tastes really span a wide range. I like silly comedies, and big action flicks, really I like movies in general.

Music: Pink Floyd, Afro Celt, Meat Loaf, NIN, Amanda Palmer, VNV Nation
This is a tough one to pin down. I like a huge range of music. Really the only music styles I am not fond of are Rap and some country. Different music fits different events and different moods music links strongly to my life experiences.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good food
Good Scotch
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Politics and history. I tend to keep up with politics, and I try to see how the sides are falling apart from each other. So I tend to see events in the world through the filters of politics and history (aren’t they really the same in many ways), I find myself often frustrated at how little we teach history and its impacts on our modern world.
I love seeing how things fit together, everything from world events to those little nail puzzles in bars.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
With friends in various places. I have a pretty full life, so it seems that where I spend my Fridays will vary week to week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm a pretty open book, so I'm not certain what to put here.
You should message me if
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You think that there may be a connection, you think that we could be friends, or hell you just want to chat!

While yes this is a dating site, that doesn't mean that is the only interactions we might have. I'd rather make friends then have just lovers, and if some friends become lovers, that's even better!