Experiencing wonder and excitement like that by sharing once in a lifetime moments with a lover is what I enjoy most in a relationship. That deep feeling of connection and being part of a team. I've been single now for four years, after a 14 year marriage. I've known commitment and love. Yet these past four years have been a wonderful growing experience for me. I've discovered me again, and I feel now I am ready to meet "the one".
I'm enjoying a successful career in the tech industry, getting lucky in the early years has allowed me to take a job I love, with awesome people, and still have time at home.
When you talk you get my undivided attention, that's just basic respect. My girls (ages 17 and 14) are very important to me, I do everything I can to make sure they grow up healthy, happy, and wise. Mostly by example, I keep the "do as I say, not as I do" to a minimum:-) .
A fun weekend is a balance between "me" stuff (fixing something in the garage, yard work) and "we" stuff (cooking an excellent meal together, shopping, exploring on a getaway.) And if I go on a motorcycle ride, you are always invited along.
I've been known to: stop and help strangers along the side of the road. To produce spectacular fireworks displays. To hug someone who is dying. To be known as "tough but fair" to my kid's friends. To help out at parties by washing dishes between courses. To always make the time for parent/teacher conferences and performances. To watch the neighbor's dog.
My parents are still married. Their parents were for over 50 years. I dress up or down with ease. Levis or Luckys, no Wranglers, please.
My perfect match? Knows who she is and is able to share how she feels. Most importantly, the ability to love, and be loved, unconditionally. Someone who enjoys running her fingers through my hair when I'm driving (and enjoys it even more when I return the favor.) Who feels warm and gooey inside from respectful PDAs.
A first date?
A first date is find out if there should be a second date, right? It really doesn't matter all that much what we do together (meet for coffee (yawn), cooking a meal together, go on a walk/ride/sail), etc) as long as you are able to get to know the person you're with a little better.
Establishing a connection to see if there is a foundation to build a relationship sounds easy, but how do you really know a person if you only see them at their best? Untangle Christmas tree lights with someone, then you'll really get to know them:-)