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49 M Brooklyn, NY

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Last Online
Today – 8:25am
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
Has dogs

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My self-summary
Moving from Seattle to NYC, summer of 2014
I updated my location just as I am getting on the road. I expect to be on Long Island for the end of August, and in Brooklyn by Sept 2014.

While I check my messages here a few times a week (they get forwarded to my e-mail), I don't use this site regularly, as I am more comfortable meeting people with a higher probability of connection on FetLife.

My profile was last meaningfully revised in 2011, I currently work in digital marketing, no longer in culinary/hospitality or education.

Poly, fetish friendly member of the leather community, former board member of the CSPC (Wet Spot). Exhibitionist, voyeur, kinky photographer. Midwestern raised, California educated, Seattle college instructor. Lover of the avante garde, from the films of Kenneth Anger to the music of Coltrane, Branca, and Zappa. Tall, scary, tattoo'ed tough guy look with a well educated inside, masters degree, well traveled (internationally), well read, politically active, user of social media, including Facebook, twitter (@Jefe), Fetlife and more.

I am kinky, dominant, and curmudgeonly
What I’m doing with my life
Living my dreams!
I’m really good at
Digital marketing, Cooking, managing staff, being charming, playing with sex-toys, introducing "newbies" to BDSM
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm big and bald, kinda loud, after that people often notice that I've grown accustomed to getting my way.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Love Mexican and Tex/Mex food, especially fond of chiles, really enjoy fancy food too, like Fois Gras, confit, dark chocolate, and cassoulet.

Books; A Clockwork Orange, The Omnivores Dilemma, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, the Ethical Slut, S/M 101, I've found myself enjoying biographies in the past few years, from Presidents like Lincoln & Eisenhower, to "Secret Historian: The Life and Times of Samuel Steward, Professor, Tattoo Artist, and Sexual Renegade", been reading a bunch of Lawrence Lessig lately, and I read a LOT of cookbooks.

Music; Radiohead, Girl Talk, She 7 Him, Miles Davis, John Coltrane, The Who, Beck, Patti Smith, Broken Bells, Danger Mouse, Sonic Youth, The Clash, Eric Clapton, The White Stripes, X, Tom Waits, Neil Young, Pink Floyd, Pearl Jam, Explosions in the Sky, Steve Earle, and yeah, I did see The Grateful Dead over 100 times, but that was back when I had long hair.

Movies; Crazy Heart, Zombieland, The Seven Samurai The Godfather Raging Bull Dr. Strangelove Blade Runner Pulp Fiction Brazil In the Realm of the Senses/Ai No Corrida Night of the Living Dead Silence of the Lambs Bad Lieutenant Pulp Fiction Casino The Cook The Thief, His Wife and her Lover
The six things I could never do without
Sex, spicy food, music, the internet, a gas range, quality lubricant
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Variations and new sexual activities (or partners) that I haven't enjoyed yet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've paid for sex more than once, but not because I couldn't get it for free.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 29–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You want to grab a coffee, or meet people in the local kink/poly scene. Heck, if you are sorta cute and interested in meeting a big guy with a shaved head who gets around on 2 wheels, you should message me.