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  • Ages 35-51
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 2:40pm
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
A little extra
Agnosticism and it’s important
Might want kids
English (Fluently), Chinese (Somewhat), French (Somewhat), Italian (Somewhat), Ancient Greek (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Its a toss-up whether happiness is copious amounts of hot water in a public bath (think Japanese sento, Korean mogyoktang, or Chinese xizaotang--not only is it the hot water but its the multi-generational aspect and community feeling of the place) or books. I'd like it to be both but it can't (humidity being what it is). In the end books win.

To be alive is to be curious. If you're not curious about new things then what's the point. I want to explore cities, hear new forms of music, read new alphabets, make friends, explore new worlds, seek new life and new civilizations (oh, wait that's another profile). To be a little geeky (that Star Trek reference wasn't even a little geeky, I promise you), let's say that I share at least one quality with the Doctor: if I were to see a werewolf I'd pause long enough to admire it then run like hell.

In person I'm a shy guy. I dread having to go up to strangers at parties and start a conversation but give me a one-way ticket to a foreign city and I draw you a map of all its alleys and by-ways by week's end.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm in northeast China right now "re-booting" my Chinese. I recently quit a job of ten years when I realized, aside from the money, it really wasn't doing anything for me as a person (besides making me stressed).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Tracking down obscure items and bits of knowledge.
Introducing my friends to new things
Being sort of nerdy
The first things people usually notice about me
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Picture is on its way. That what hair I have is pretty white. I started greying at 19, the same age I started loosing my hair. When I was a teenager, looking older was great for getting into bars and such; now, I just get people who ask me about the Eisenhower administration--looking older, not so great anymore. LOL.

Then they'll notice my accent (somewhere mid-Atlantic) and that I can become absurdly interested in everyday things.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Authors: George Steiner, M. F. K Fisher, Pascal Quignard, William Gass, Mark Dodson, Francisco de Quevido, Zhou Zuoren, Borges, William Gaddis, Robert Ludlum, Henry James, Marcus Aurelius, Marguerite Yourcenar, Bai Juyi, Cao Xueqin, Stefan Zweig. Montaigne, Gide, Chesterton,

Music: Jacques Brel, Brian Eno, Stan Rogers, Johnny Cash, Bach, Perotin

Chinese food--any region but especially Northeast and Taiwanese. You know, pretty much anything. I love corned beef and cabbage, sweetbreads, doro wat, coulibiac, chicken fried steak, mustard greens, etc. Pretty much every style of cooking. I'm not a big fan of organ meats however. I know they can be tasty but its a cultural since birth sort of thing. (Despite my mother's best efforts--I side with my father on this one).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why isn't there a traditional bathouse preservation society in China, are there bookstores in this city I haven't been to yet, what does it mean to be a good host and a good guest.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If I'm not having dinner with friends, I'm at home reading or wasting time on the computer trying to find new things to read about.