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40 M Kirkland, WA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 25–45
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 6:48am
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Charming and clever. Smart and sensible. Casually considerate, constantly compassionate. Sometimes sardonic, seldom serious. Curious, but careful. Self-deprecating, but secure. Cheerfully complicated, seeking same.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living out my childhood dreams, apparently. I'm a concept artist in the entertainment industry, and my artwork has been published in several books, adapted or interpreted into a staggering variety of merchandise, a (surprisingly moving) film, a television show to be produced by Steven Spielberg (!), another by Ridley Scott (!!), and enjoyed as designed by hundreds of thousands every day.

My life usually sounds like this. Lately it looks and sounds a lot like this.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The word on the street is that I'm good at what I do, though this is the first and last time you'll see me say so; what I tend to find most in my own work is room to grow.

(But I am *really* good at finding room to grow... maybe a little too good, sometimes!)

Philosophically, I'm really good at balancing the wisdom of an old soul with the wonder of a young heart.

I'm still pretty good at old-fashioned four-by-four rollerskating. And carving downhill on a dancer-length longboard.

I'm good at playing the piano, though perhaps not as good as I used to be.

And I'm surprisingly good at teaching art and design principles to children. (Complementary colors are frenemies!)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
'That man is standing'. Or, 'That man is sitting.' Or, 'That man is walking.' Or, 'That man is driving.' Or simply, 'That is a man.'

It's never been, 'That man is wondering what I'm noticing about him first.' (Has it?)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I like books that explore or explain the human condition.

I like movies about nobility and sacrifice. Sometimes with explosions.

I like irony, sarcasm, and satire, but I think sincerity is funnier.

I like cooperation more than competition.

I like music that takes me to another time and place. Rio de Janeiro in the sixties. Philadelphia in the seventies. Manchester in the eighties. Bristol in the nineties. Paris in the oughts. Space in the future?

I like French for breakfast or brunch, Vietnamese for lunch, and Japanese or Korean for dinner. I really like barbecue, Texas Hill Country style, for lunch and dinner. I love Mexican for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A four-legged friend.
A creative time or place or means to meditate.
An appreciation of life's absurdities.
An opportunity for honest introspection.
An eye for silver linings.
Kindness, plain and simple.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What my next challenge will be, and how to enjoy it.
Why things are the way they are.
How stuff works.

Which is better...
... contentment or fulfillment?
... joy or equanimity?
... courage or fearlessness?
... reason or intuition?
... knowledge or faith?
... order or chaos?
... Stoicism or Buddhism?
... peanut butter or chocolate?
... knowing what you want, or wanting what you have?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
... almost always creating something.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I take Improvisational Tribal Style bellydancing classes and like to work with power tools. I'm an atheist who goes to church every Sunday. I'm a nerd aesthete and an athlete. This is the kind of thing I mean by 'cheerfully complicated'...

And I wish I could dance like this. If anyone can teach me, please let me know. Seriously.

(Full disclosure - I've recently given up smoking, but I haven't entirely given up nicotine just yet. The electronic cigarette is easily the most under-appreciated preventative medical advancement of the 21st Century...)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
... you've been to Cafe Mox for more than the menu.

... the idea of bubble tea and origami appeals to you more than drinks and an interview. Or if you see anything else you might like in The Menu (album). Or if you're daring enough to join me on an actual adventure (my most ambitious/absurd OkC IRL introduction was at a first-class check-in counter... for a last-minute flight to Alaska...)

.... you wish online dating was more like a virtual cocktail party and less like shopping on Amazon.

... you're intrigued by anything I had to say and would enjoy a little conversation. I'm always happy to make a new friend. :-)