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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 31–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Sep 14
Hispanic / Latin
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Wants kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Born by the equator and raised in the Empire City, I hope to always be the type of work-in-progress that makes filling out this box both exciting and challenging at the same time. I'm into complex people, not complicated... complex.

I totally love my biological family, and hope to have my own (chosen) family one day. What that will look like, should be a reflection of what happens when I partner with my man, not a pre-conceived value-laden idea about what should or shouldn't be.

I'm big on urban hiking, and enjoy stopping to read random historical plaques around town.
What I’m doing with my life
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doc tv
I’m really good at
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seeing through walls
The first things people usually notice about me
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If they can see past my character-building deviated septum, hopefully my coffee-brown eyes (being Colombian and all). Eyes tend to be the first thing I notice in a person. Personality-wise, I'm told I have a calming energy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Unbearable Lightness of Being, A Streetcar Named Desire, The Fire Next Time (Baldwin), Last Exit to Brooklyn (Shelby Jr.), Close to the Knives, Grapefruit (Ono), ZAMI : A New Spelling of My Name (Lorde), The Prophet (Gibran), Our Lady of the Flowers (Genet), Dancer from the Dance

Films: Un Chant D'Amour, El Mar Adentro (The Sea Inside), Last Exit to Brooklyn, Nights of Cabiria, Midnight Cowboy, The Hours, Blindness (or most things with Julianne Moore), Lucy, Precious, Pee Wee's Big Adventure, Fruitvale Station, Baby Boy, Suite Habana, Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf, Pretty in Pink, New Jack City, Children of a Lesser God, Cruising, Liquid Sky, La vendedora de rosas (Gaviria), Me and You and Everyone We Know, Scorpio Rising (Anger), Nada (Cremata), Tongues Untied, Paris is Burning, Mad Max *Directors: Jeunet, David Lynch, Peter Greenaway, Gregg Araki, Maya Deren, Pedro Almodovar, Won Kar-wai

TV: [Current] Empire, American Horror Story, sense8, the Returned, Al Jazeera English, History Detectives, I Shouldn't Be Alive, Love Lust Run, guilty pleasure reality trash

Genres closest to my psyche: R&B, Electro synthpop, Newwave, Morna, oldies (as in late 50s/early 60s (but not The Beatles) - Connie Francis is still alive!!!!), music from Mali, Boleros (the oldies my Latin American parents and grandparents courted each other with), and I can get down to Salsa and Merengue (not so much to Bachata).
Fka and jaz sullivan most recently.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. heart (whatever shape it takes: family, friends, lovers, my cat "Miso", kind strangers)
2. media stimulation (music, television, internet)
3. avocado and tomato (I love them equally - so they count as one)
3 1/2. breaded chicken cutlets
4. the possibility for adventure (found in large cities)
5. diversity and cultural fusion
5a. Elders, I love old ladies!
6. Six seems like a random number... so, the sixth is my refusal to play by random institutional rules.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
home resting after work, sometimes looking for love in all the wrong places and finding trouble in the right places... Okay, Cupid! do your thing.
You should message me if
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... first and foremost, you have a big heart and a sense of humor... if you're an open-minded guy with a marked sense of compassion and a strong willingness to be in the present. Those are the fundamentals, though you don't need to be ready-made, just consciously headed in that direction. My weak spot's for sweet guys with rough edges. Smarts and sexiness (most often acquired through self-awareness) are strong pluses - but I guess everyone else would like all those things.
I'm pretty sex positive - so if you have a lot of hang ups about sex - or think a "colorful" sexual history is a turn-off, then we probably won't gel.

... oh, and if listening to Jill Scott's "Long Walk" gives you hope like it does me, I got my shoelaces tied, so let's go!