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SeekingPolaris

40 Mount Vernon, NY Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:37am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
Yes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Catholicism, and very serious about it
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Status
Single
Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Wants kids
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), Italian (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
This is going to be blunt, folks, but hang in there till the end...

Ok, so I've been on this site for a while and therein lies the problem - I'm still on this site. I'm looking for a reason to take this page down that doesn't include me throwing my hands up in exasperation and giving up all together.

I just turned 40 and seeing as how things have started going my way recently, I figured let me tinker around my ad and see if I can spread some of that positive mojo to my love life.

I will be honest, the single life has its benefits. I am at a point in my life where being in a relationship is no longer something I must have to be happy. I have found new levels of personal and professional success and contentment since turning 40, and I have grown wiser in addition to older. And, while I am happy with life being single...

...There is still that ache in my heart. That itch that while not overpowering is definitely ever present and in need of scratching.
I'm just at the point in my life where I'm not willing to bleed just to scratch the itch.

You know what I'm talking about.

So if it's going to happen, it's going to happen right.

I'm a family man. I'm looking to find someone who wants this too. This includes kids, and as such I am ideally looking for someone who is a bit younger that me...I mean not 18 young, but young enough so I can actually date you a respectable amount of time before I need to marry you and start having kids before age becomes an issue.

I told you I was going to be blunt.

I am a renaissance man and know a lot a bout a few things and a bit about almost everything. I cook. Really well. I write poetry. I enjoy documentaries. I like movies where shit gets blown up (just so's that you remember I'm a guy after-all). I am an information sponge and I love learning almost as much as I love teaching, which happens to be what I do for a living.

I'm not a caveman but I am old school in some ways and still believe in chivalry even if the world, and some women do not.

Incidentally, If getting you to love me means I need to treat you like crap as it seems to for some, I'd just as soon stay single. Really. I like being treated with respect, kindness and a very healthy dollop of affection and I'd really like it if you enjoyed that sort of thing too. I like the color Gray, but not into 50 shades of it.

Yes, I know it is spelled Grey in the book, but I am a stickler for proper spelling and grammar even if I am not great at the former.

I am sarcastic, but generally it is endearing and not used for mean purposes because mean people suck. I have a great sense of humor and love to laugh so please be funny. Or at lease be willing to laugh at my material so I can get a kick out of how hilarious I am.

Also, unlike many, I am fairly religious and a practicing Catholic. This does not make me a monk, nor does it make me a hypocrite, it merely means I sometimes need to go to confession more often than most. I am ideally looking for someone who is Catholic and while not needing to be quite as .... well religious about their faith, hopefully someone who identifies themselves as Catholic with out simultaneously launching into some manifesto.

I love all faiths and am open to other Christian denominations as dating partners, just merely stating a preference. I mean, It would be awkward if my girlfriend walked in on me....you know...saying the Rosary...and then looking at me funny.

I'm a big guy. Some girls are into guys like me, some are not. I hope to be less of a big guy as time goes on but this is me. I still think I'm a good looking guy but this is all a matter of preference. I have been with all shapes and sizes and while I don't really have a 'type', I generally like a woman with curves. Oh, I also sing really well, so if your fantasy is to get it on with Luciano Pavarotti...just sayin'...

Ultimately, I want a Sunday kind of love. A mature, respectful, affectionate, patient, kind, hilarious, occasionally aggravating, committed to last, genuine friendship kind of love.

Please don't mistake my opening for not genuinely wanting love and family with the most amazing woman...I just need to find you. You are not perfect. But you are kind, and affectionate, and genuine, and real and ready. If this is you, write me already, I've been seeking Polaris long enough.

For the record...

Just to be totally clear about something, I don't smoke cigarettes but I do smoke cigars. OKC has yet to include this as an option for clarification. I won't smoke in front of you if smoke bothers you, but I am not giving up my one (only one? ok, admittedly that is debatable) bad habit.

Also, must love dogs, or at least you must love mine. And frankly with a dog this loveable, if you don't love him we probably won't get along anyway.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Teaching and trying to figure out what's next.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking, poetry, laughing, making others laugh, making other's feel special, Power Point presentations. Among other things.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile. I like to spread the wealth with others and hope to make at least one other person smile a day!

People have also said I have nice eyes, and those people would be correct ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I love Sci Fi and action novels and movies (I am a sensitive guy, but still a guy after all, lol). As for music, if it has a beat or brings back a memory, I listen to it. I have every genre represented on my Note 3. For the record, until Samsung goes back to making phones with removable batteries and a slot for an SD chip this once loyal Samsung customer will never again buy another Samsung phone. I gravitate to Pop, Blues and Metal.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Excluding the obvious...

1. God. My Catholic Faith and my relationship with Christ are very important to me
2. Family and Friends
3. My Samsung even though I curse at it a lot when it freezes
4. My Laptop. See number 3
5. Reading Material
6. Laughter. I am like a plant in that way I can find my own something to laugh at even if nothing is immediately available
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My future. Things I want to change about me even though I love the person I am. Family. The rest is private for a private conversation.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Open to suggestions
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Why would anyone admit something that private on a public website?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you made it this far and have a smle on your face, you know you want to get to know me, so go ahead, give in to temptation. Please be genuine and sincere - I am not here to waste your time please don't waste mine. Thanks ;-)