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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18-36
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Jan 3
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6' 3" (1.91m)
Body Type
Average build
Not at all
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
Has dogs and Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), Japanese (Somewhat), Korean (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Cut to the chase: I need new/more friends! I have a ton of acquaintances and friends, but no one I REALLY click with and hang out with. I don't think I ever really have. I'm one of those people who always ends up in clique limbo.

#1: I'm a big nerd. I like anime, tokusatsu, video games, making cheesy movies, new gadgets... but I'm not completely socially inept like most nerds. I usually can't stand most other nerds. Most of them never want to do anything other than whatever game or show or whatever they're currently obsessing over.

#2: I'm also gay, so that doesn't help either (my profile says "bi" because it just kept filtering out all women in my results and I'm just looking for friends). Not that it's something that really defines me. I'm not a "full time homo" as I call them. You know, the people who ALWAYS talk about being gay, move to gay neighborhoods, only have gay friends, only go gay bars... The kind even the stupidest and unobservant people know are gay. My sexual orientation is at the bottom of the list of defining characteristics.
Somewhat of an extension of that, it's the same thing with other gay guys as it is with other nerds. I usually can't stand them either! I'm not all feminine (but too nerdy to be masculine), I don't hang out in clubs, I don't sleep around like it's a competitive sport, I'm not into fashion, I find celebrity gossip offensive to humanity... you get the idea. That leaves me and the stereotype very little to talk about. I can usually blend well enough into a group of straight guys, but I am in every way the exact opposite of a frat boy. I don't like sports, drinking, drugs, naked women, or competitive alpha male asshole-ism. And girls are fun, but I'm never "one of the girls" either, nor do I want to be. I can have long conversations with them, but when it comes to activities, the nerd in me ruins all compatibility.

Barrier #3: I'm such a friggin goodie-2-shoes. I don't drink, smoke, sleep around, or do drugs. I'm finished with school, so like the only social activity that is ever on the table is going out for drinks, hence the withering social life. Trying to find other people who don't do any of those 4 things, but aren't crazy and church-y is impossible! I'm not a buzz-kill either!

I hate how much people obsess over alcohol, smoking, drugs, and all that. It's a damn beverage, not an activity that requires an entire evening! Smoking and drugs are merely bad habits that severely ruin your health, not hilarious and adventurous alternative lifestyles. These things do not make you cool. Being Batman makes you cool.
What I’m doing with my life
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Just got my degree in TV production, and I'm trying to find a job in the creative/writing/production area. It's practically impossible. Hell! It's practically impossible to find ANY job these days. My dream job would be in children's television, writing for some actiony cartoons.

I do have an amazing boyfriend. I'm not looking for romance. I should state that up front. This October is our big 10th anniversary! I'm basically living the movie "I Love You Man", but haven't found my Jason Segel yet.
I’m really good at
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Problem solving, writing, video games, dealing with people, rambling, making really long and crazy specific profiles.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My awesome style. Like my Tyranosaurus beard, nerdy t-shirts, and unique clothing I find to wear.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Cartoons that would have their own action figures
Scifi TV (from Vampire Diaries to Star Trek to Game of Thrones)
Video Games that have a good story and a cinematic feel or a classic platforming feel. Mario, Mass Effect, Resident Evil, Zelda, Scribblenauts...
Food: Sushi is the best. I make my own and I'm pretty good at it.
Beverages: I drink a lot of juice, but only real juice. OJ is the best.
Music: Usually stuff that's not on the radio.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Comfy bed
bit torrents
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Stressful things! Getting a job, how I don't have enough money to pay my bills, like ever!, family drama, finishing projects, maintenance on my car, how far behind I am in the plan I had for my life. ...and how at any moment I might be attacked by spiders, clowns, zombies, or any combination of the 3.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
working. Fridays are my Mondays.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Almost anything. I'm a friggin goodie 2 shoes, remember? I got nuthin to hide.
You should message me if
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You resonate with this. You're totally in the same boat, just in a different ocean. Ideally, I want a get a crew of awesome friends to be like "The Goonies: The Adult Years". A solid 7-10 people would be amazing so I could have enough people to be able to record some of our combined awesomeness and make some videos. As I mentioned, I'm a TV guy, and I'm trying to get a job. The only way to get noticed is to make some movies on your own. I REALLY need help with that. People who aren't camera shy are a huge plus. If you can act or help as part of a crew, even better. I'm obsessing over getting a few projects done really soon so I can send out another batch of resumes.
I prefer people who are active and energetic, and won't groan when I suggest fun physical activities that don't involve eating or drinking. I'm not crazy, if you drink occasionally, who cares? But if you're the type that would be upset and outraged if you showed up to a dry party, eh... maybe not. If you don't care, absolutely. And I am not looking to be a defacto designated driver or volunteer babysitter of grown-ass people. Been there, I'm REALLY tired of that.
Freakish sewer-mutants need not apply. Like, if you breathe with your mouth, if you have mucus permanently visible anywhere, if you go out to dinner wearing dirty sweatpants, if you always look like you have sunburn even though you don't go outside, if you ride a chair everywhere because of your intense morbid obesity that's totally self-inflicted, if you try to comb out your bed hair instead of showering, if you're sticky to the touch.... you get the idea. I have a bad habit of attracting those types because I'm too decent to treat them like crap, which always gets misinterpreted into an invitation to be best friends. You're an innocent person who doesn't deserve to be treated like crap, but you're also gross and nasty and I don't want to be friends with you. Take a damn shower for god sake! That may sound a bit hypocritical, but I've had to get police involved before in previous pity friendships. One kid shaved off his eyebrows, saved them for me, and tried to kill himself. ...yeah...
Also, people who really aren't all that compatible with me don't need to contact me. Incompatible friends is the problem I'm trying to fix here. I already have more of those than I can handle. If you think making movies is fun, but also want to talk about sports and go drinking all the time too, then look elsewhere. Acquaintances are not reliable enough to work with. I'm on a desperate search for my platonic souls mates here.