"Free to Be You and Me" shaped my core values. In kindergarten, I
refused to keep my crayon markings within the lines. When my
elementary school teacher suggested that we draw a boat or a house
or a dog, my peers chose one of the three; I drew an intergalactic
spaceship with a jacuzzi in the Captain's quarters. Needless to
say, I spent a lot of time in the principal's office. I found
solace and wisdom in Calvin & Hobbes (the boy and the tiger,
not the anti-Semitic theologian and the social contractor). Alas,
not much has changed. I've published scientific papers, founded
nonprofits, calmed cancer patients, starred in TV and radio spots,
performed with top-tier orchestras and jazz ensembles, taught
inner-city public school, sought inspiration in Kafka, Sartre and
Tolstoy, and fashioned twisty balloons into giraffes while dressed
as a purple dinosaur. I can make you laugh aloud, when you least
expect to. I welcome constructive criticism and am masculine enough
to appreciate a clever Haiku. I care about people and excellence
and loyalty -- sometimes too much. I am humbled by the bravery of
blind commuters navigating the NYC subways. Though still a work in
progress, I hope I'm headed in the right direction. Wanna come
What I’m doing with my life
I am currently on career #186.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I consider The Muppets, The Simpsons, Wallace & Gromit, Pixar
Films, and Fantastic Mr. Fox to be High Art. I'm blown away by Ella
Fitzgerald, Brahms, Beethoven, Bird, Miles, Dizzy, Cinema Paradiso,
This is Spinal Tap, The Usual Suspects, Do the Right Thing, The
Graduate, Hitchcock, Kubrick, Tarantino, Scorcese, The Coen Bros,
Cole Porter's lyrics, Alvin Ailey, Savion Glover, and Bill Moyers.
Other fascinations include kites, maps, science toys, landmark U.S.
Supreme Court opinions, Olympic figure skating, modern furniture
design, and the serene beauty of suspension bridges. In literature,
Mann's "Der Zauberberg" and Tolstoy's "Anna Karenina" vie for my
attention with Stoppard's "Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead."
I confess that "A Tale of Two Cities" stirs me; poor Dickens, like
Tchaikovsky, is underrated. My food guidelines are pretty simple: I
would rather eat gold than caviar (same price but better taste). If
dinner is still alive when the waiter brings it, count me out.
Otherwise, I'm flexible.
The six things I could never do without
Warm memories of my late mother
The Glass Flowers at Harvard's Museum of Natural History
Ella Fitzgerald's songbooks
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What drives a healthy romance is sharing with one's partner the
intimacy of private communication, even in public spaces...like the
unspoken bonds among musicians in a string quartet or a jazz combo.
On the other hand, nothing beats snuggling in bed on a lazy Sunday
morning, roasting marshmallows by burning the Sunday NY Times
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Immature, and frequently unsuccessful, love affairs are often
driven by a utopian desire to "meld" into one entity; I've made
this mistake many times. The most successful couples I know strive
for mutual respect and admiration rather than uniformity. It's easy
to fall in love with falling in love. Much easier than falling in
love with another person. Sigh.
You should message me if
You are intellectual, strong-willed, creative, passionate and
sensual. You enjoy a good pillow fight, appreciate the performing
arts, and will sing old Billy Joel songs with me in the car. You
realize that not a single verse in Alanis M's song "Ironic" is
actually an example of irony. Accordion is not your favorite